my fella has informed me that he still hasnt told his family that we are getting married in june and he will do it after christmas which i personally think is far to late and unfair on his family. I know its his decsion completely when he tells them but it makes me feel like hes just putting it off and that he doesnt really want to do it.
he asked me to marry him and now is stalling, he tells me that he doesnt want to change the date or cancel but i feel so bad because i love his perents and feel like hes ashamed to be marrying me, i cant stop crying and i have no idea where to go from here, i love this man so much and hes stood by me through so much in the last year.
i wish i could just please everyone! xx
CommentAuthorNicsquared
Has he told you why he hasnt told them yet? Does he get on well with them to? I think you need to talk to him about how you feel - I think i would have the same concerns
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CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
You need to ask him why. Hopefully he will talk openly to you about it. X x x
CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
think you do you need to talk to him hun and ask why he doesnt want to tell them yet and explain how its making you feel xxx
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Yes find out why he wants to delay telling your family, as for not giving them enough time to prepare for the wedding, it can be done, as a friend of mine got engaged in the April and married first week in October! She was a super organiser! And she had plenty of guests at the wedding too :-)
he says its not that he doesnt want to tell them he jusdt doesnt want to do it over the phone, his mum and dad are dicorved and live over 40miles from each other, so he wants to find a day that he can get both off wok to talk to them, i just feel like if hecant see them a phone call just to let them know might be apprciated, sorry for the last night wobble girls =( but thank you so much xx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Hmmm I understand the wanting to tell them face to face but with them being so far away from you and each other he really needs to either get a day off soon to go and tell them or find other ways to do it? Maybe diy a nice card or something and tell them in there and send it to them???
We got engaged and told our parents two weeks later as they live 90 mins away from us and like your h2b wanted to tell them face to face, we just DIDNT tell them WHEN we got engaged as I know my mum would have gone mad that we didnt tell her sooner lol
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
We phoned our parents straight away but I wasnt allowed to update my bookface untill we had told our friends in person. I couldnt stop myself though, soon as we got back from holiday I had a photo of my engagement ring uploaded lol.
I think you should try and get a wee trip together to go and see them as soon as you can. Is that a possiblity?
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
We were abroad so emailed our best friends and then promptly changed our status on F/book. His sister is on it, so she told their mum but I called my mum the day after we got back to the UK. I understand why he wants to tell them in person, but he also needs to understand how this is making you feel, Hx
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CommentAuthorMel D
When I got engaged my Mum was in South Africa visiting my sister ... my way of telling them? I sent them a picture of my ring on my hand!
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CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
i think the most important thing at the moment is you and him, sorry to be sounding so selfish on the matter but if i was the parents i would rather hear on the phone than realise i had only been told months after... maybe once he realises how upset you are he will change his mind.
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
i just cant keep shtum about things like that and i put a status on fb as soon as i could lol his family r all on there so that pushed him to ring and tell them aswell! also i dont think i would care how my children tell me they r getting married as long as they didnt leave it so long without me knowing, a phone call would be fine for me.
tell him how its making u feel and c if telling them in person is really immportant and if so go and see them asap as im sure they will want to know sooner than later however they r told x
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CommentAuthorlows
We were in australia when we got engaged and phoned our parents to tell them. I was going to be away for another 6 months and couldnt wait that long to tell them in person. I had never even met my h2b's family before we got engaged so wouldnt have been right to wait to tell them.
I think with your wedding being only 7 months away it is not fair for him to not tell them. You will need to start planning and sending out invitations etc. He needs to just pick up the phone and tell them the good news. Im sure they will just be really happy for you both and wont even mind that they werent told in person. xxx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Can you guys arrange a dinner on a weekend or something, between the two locations and you can both share the news with them in person? That way it's all done and you can have a drink together etc to celebrate x
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
We were still in Melbourne when we got engaged, even though it was coming to the end of our year there it was still a week til we flew home so we called our family straight away, went out to dinner/drinks then it was straight up on book of face lol!
I get the whole wanting to tell them face to face though - I kind of wish we'd left it til landing at Heathrow lol! Xx
CommentAuthorkerriface
I think speaking to h2b about it is the best idea, otherwise there could be some tensions if they find out you left it so long to tell them
CommentAuthorsamwiseheart
thank you girls, weve been talking and hes going to teel them this weekend, i hope it goes well, sorry for the mild break down it was late and i was so upset, thank you so much xxx
