We had our wedding booked for Cyprus in April 2014, we had ceremony, reception, photographer and videographer booked. We'd been looking at accommodation and were eagerly waiting for the flights to be released to book those. We knew some of our family would find it difficult to come with us so we'd said we would pay for all accommodation to ensure that our immediate family was with us on our special day. Now MIL2B & SIL2B have said they're too scared to fly and wont come, they say they'd tried to put a brave face on it and do what was best for H2B but they can't face it and that he has to do what he wants but they won't be there.
At first H2B was adamant that we shouldn't change things but to be fair he's the only one out of his family that is ever likely to get married and I think that morally its important for his mum to be there. She won't see any of her other children get married and I don't want him to miss out on having his mum there.
So after spending a couple of months debating we finally decided last night that we are going to get married in the UK to ensure that his family will be there. I am gutted we aren't going where we want to but to make up for it we've decided to go to Thailand for our honeymoon and have found a top class hotel that we'll probably stay at.
So today I'll be cancelling everything in Cyprus, I'm not going to look at booking anything for the UK until after Xmas though. Think we'll have a couple of months wedding free and start again in the new year
4th April 2014 - I get married to my soul mate
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Aww so sorry to hear that, I was the same really wanted a wedding abroad but never actually booked it. But h2bs family would never have come and I knew he would want them there. I really am sorry you have to cancel it, but Thailand sounds amazing and at least his family will be able to come x x
CommentAuthorShazk
Aw this isnt good reading its so hard when things like that get int he way do u go with ur heart or do whats right.
It will be more special if his familiy are ther and no doubt the day will dtill be one to remember and if got a lovely honeymoon to follow then thats to look forward to xxx
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorMrsC
I think you are being really thoughtful but I'm sorry you had to cancel your plans. I hope that you get unyielding support while planning your UK wedding and that your In Laws appreciate what you have decided to do.
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Married 4th May 2013
CommentAuthormillz090
Ah honey sorry to hear that. We Orginally wanted to get married abroad too but both my grandparents and h2b dad is too old/fragile to fly and we had to decide whether the location or people were more important for our wedding day.... So we are getting married in uk now and happy with it. I think having an amazing honeymoon will help xxx
Finally marrying the love of my life !!
10th August 2013 - 9 years to the day we met !
Awww hun that is really quite sad to read. I do think that even though you had your hearts set on having your wedding abroad you have done the right thing in the long run in many ways. He will have his family there, you get to have a fantastic honeymoon (and it really does sound as though it will be). In the future you could possibly still have a blessing in Cyprus if you still felt a need to.
A break from the planning is a good thing too, especially over xmas as you can start fresh with renewed vigour. :o)
CommentAuthorShelleyA
sorry you had to cancel your wedding abroad but hopefully you'll find something over here that will make your day just as special xxx
CommentAuthorCharlotteB32
Aww sorry to hear that. I too was looking at getting married abroad but had to change (my oh got notice of redundancy). But on the other hand we are having a mini break in Wales and getting married there, so it is kind of a destination wedding.
CommentAuthorNEDebz
Thanks ladies, I do feel we've done the right thing for family harmony and I think although he doesn't feel it now that he would've regretted not having his mum there.
Dragging him to the wedding fair in manchester on Saturday (first time we've gone to one together) so that should give us a few things to think about then I'm definitely going to leave things alone (not even book anywhere) until after xmas. Have a break and look at things with fresh eyes
4th April 2014 - I get married to my soul mate
CommentAuthorSam
I hope that the wedding fair gets you back into the wedding spirit. I know that your decision must have been very hard, but when you have a perfect day in the UK it'll make up for it.
CommentAuthorTori
Hope it all works out. I'm sure it will be for the best as h2b would only miss them in the day x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Sorry to hear you have had to cancel all your plans when you had done so much. I hope you don't lose too much money on it. They should be eternally grateful now for that.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorOWB
That was a big sacrifice for you to make, but I understand why you have done it. A honeymoon in Thailand will go some way to making up for it!
If only life could be one long tea break
CommentAuthorAmyP7
I really hope the wedding fayre at the weekend gets you back into it, where is it in Manchester? X x
CommentAuthorNEDebz
Thanks ladies, I'm feeling a bit better about it now. The wedding fair is at manchester central. if you register before Thursday the bride gets in free. I've put a link on your wall
4th April 2014 - I get married to my soul mate
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
sorry to hear this hun but i think a holiday in Thailand sounds like an amazing idea :-) every cloud and all that
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorHobbitBeth
Aww sorry to hear this, hopefully your wedding in the UK will be just as fabulous though :)
