Ok, so I am having a terrible day, had the receptionist at work lace into me with random, unsubstantiated complaints that were nothing short of ridiculous. So I have spent 10 minutes this morning, locked in my office, sobbing because someone hates me because I come to work, do my job and then go home. And make a cup of tea for myself, not them. When i get in at 7.20am, and they don't start till 8.30am. wtf??
Add to that, the fact that I have been trying to call the photographer and the guesthouse where I am getting ready and we are stopping the wedding night, and they weren't answering or returning my calls. On top of that, the guest house's website has suddenly disappeared. I couldn't find anything, at all. I have left so many messages for both of them, and got no response at all.
So I was panicking LOTS. On top of an emotional morning I ended up breaking the healthy eating plan and having a HUGE double choc chip muffin. Nom.
Then, the photog called! Not only is she lovely, and was really helpful, but she is also a huge Harry Potter fan, so I spent 10 minutes telling her about the amazing surprise my BMs gave me for my hen do (a tour round the Harry Potter Warner Bros Studio - AMAZING!!). So I was greatly cheered up after that.
I then had a call from my Dad, bless him. He has a severe stammer, has low confidence, hates using the phone, and even so spent his morning break trying to get hold of the guesthouse for me. They finally answered, and he sorted out what time I could be there for and everything. Soooo proud of him!!!
My BMs gave me an amazing send off, a meal at Jamie Olivers Italian, along with a signed photo of the man himself!! then the following day a tour round the Harry Potter studio, which was fabulous. I was soooo emotional that day!!
In general, when we've been planning this wedding, we have seen the nastier, petty, childish side of people. In these last two weeks I have just seen the most amazing side of the people that I love, and I feel so completely blessed to have them in my life. I am a very lucky lady, and all the stress and upset has so far been worth it, to see the beautiful side of the people that matter.
We have so many threads about people close to us letting us down, causing heart ache and stress, how many beautiful brides to be out there have some good, positive stories to tell? I still need cheering up, and knowing that there are good people in this world helps!! Who has been amazing for you? xxx
CommentAuthorTsukijin
That's so wonderful! With regards to the muffin you should have shoved it up that receptionists you-know-what :) but eating it is just as good! So glad to read that it turned positive and your dad is amazing, a close friend of mine has a really bad stammer and it really gets him down , sometimes people put the phone down on him
Through all the vitriol I have witnessed and been victim to while planning this wedding, my brother and my dad have been amazing and between them, they have made sure barely a penny has left my purse. It's just a shame we have to see people being horrible,jealous, awkward and petty but weddings seem to bring this out in people, especially those who are sore because they haven't been asked the question, or their marriage didn't work out ect. Or people like mil who's glory time is and has been over a very long time and just do it to get into the spotlight again.
The people who help us and who sort stuff out, surprise us and give us kindness are the people that make marriages happy :)
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
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CommentAuthorSelinaK
Tsukijin - that would be a terrible waste of a muffin!!!! To be honest, I need a glass of vino, but being in accounts, drinking on the job is frowned upon lol!!!
My dad gets the same thing with his stammer, they either hang up or mock him. For him to ring them like that has made me so proud!
You have a fab brother and dad, its people like that, who do something out of love, that make you realise how lucky you are :) xxx
CommentAuthorVelcro
My brother has a stammer, he's dreading the speech, it's not a very bad one, it just catches him out sometimes. If anyone ever took the piss, (that wasn't me or my mum, he's good natured about it lol) I'd punch them in the mouth so they couldn't speak -__- I think my brother has given me amazing patience with people with a stammer, it's hardly their fault, and it's a big deal if they are actually trying to talk to you on the blower in the first place!
People at work are idiots. Make her a brew in the morning, and leave it on her desk with a lovely note saying, as I was brewing up for myself, I thought I'd do you one too, sorry it's cold! x x x x
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
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Ignore her and just smile you've got a good support network around you and a wedding to look forward too.
Ignore the silly woman hun and concentrate on the good people in your life. That is what i'm trying to do!! For every one horrible person I always look at 2 great amazing people to cancel the horrible one out! Keep smiling hun xxx
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CommentAuthorSelinaK
Thanks guys! I had one of my BMs over last night for coffee, and she helped me to stop stressing about it. I've written a statement of events, and will email to the boss shortly. One thing I thought this might be about was that she got married a few weeks ago, but told no one. She had a tiny wedding, and while mine is not huge I'm telling anyone daft enough to listen about it. I'm wondering if she's maybe jealous? I don't know. I'm not a malicious person, that's not to say I don't deserve a slap now and then, but I wouldn't do what she is claiming.
Its made me value people more though, I am hugging everyone at the minute!!!!
you guys are awesome xxxx
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
awwww hun thats so great of your dad what an achievment, my best friend has been my rock she listens endlessly to me going on and on and on about the wedding and never tires and i inturn listen about her baby making efforts with my bro dont worry its not as gross as it sounds lol im her shoulder to cry on wen her period comes and babysitter wen she is ovulating lol. glad you got it sorted huni.xxx
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Oh, it's so nice to hear that through all the cr@p at work that you are still able to see the good in people. And, like you, a couple of weeks before our wedding, I was really starting to feel the love of certain people. The main one was my Godmother. She was my rock. Her daughter got married 10 years ago so is well versed in the whole wedding shenanigans LOL! When my MiL announced that she had lost her nerve with making our FG's dress, I was in pieces. We had 2 weeks until we flew to Vegas, so just 6 weeks before the blessing here in London (where FG was supposed to be wearing her dress). Needless to say, I didn't have time to sort anything out, esp as they live in B'ham and we don't LOL! So,I called my Godmother to have a small rant at, and as she lives in Worcester, she said she could knock something up if needs be. As it turns out, it wasn't needed as MiL got her nerve back and it all came good in the end, but just knowing that people are willing to step up and help when it's really needed, is just amazing. Here's to the people in our lives that always come through for you!
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
Aw I'm glad it turned around for you! And tbh I was going to say do you reckon shes jealous! But now you mentioned that she had a very discreet one she may be! And can defo have that muffin shoved where the sun dont shine! However I do agree it wud be such a waste!!
Sounds like you have an amazing dad, brother, friends & network of support and that's all that matters! Try & put the negatives aside, look at the amazing stuff you have in your life & look forward to your special day! If you want to shout about it go for it!! It's your time to shine, you are defo a lucky bunny!! And those who can't see it, well tough ****!!!
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CommentAuthorTsukijin
She's just jealous cause she wishes she'd have had this much attention ;) too bad she had her chance don't let her ruin yours :D x
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
^_^
CommentAuthorSelinaK
Thanks girlies! I can't wait now to break up, we have the week before the wedding off together and it will give us chance to spend lots of quality time :) And now my ticker is talking in days!!!! Arrgghh!!!
