rags, i would be totally p!ssed off!! she couldve waited. 8 weeks or so is nothing
i've got psycho on my wrist as it symbolises a part of my life that i got through, but i could never work in a psych ward because of it and it could be an issue for the future (nursing) so i'm really surprised she hasn't been sacked!!
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CommentAuthorAnnette
I'm gonna go against the grain here and say I think it's her own business what kind of tattoos she gets and when. Being a bridesmaid is nice and bit of a responsibility but, it's still her body. Although I do get the insensitivity about her job. To be honest if I was a bridesmaid I wouldn't think twice about getting a new tattoo, for me it would be like buying a new necklace or piece of jewelery. My tattoos make me prettier, not ugly.
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CommentAuthorHelenW
I think its up to her if she wants to have more tattoos, however out of respect you would think she could have waited. Could the photographer photoshop them out? Obv you'd have to make do for the acutal day, but at least then they could be hidden from the pics? xx
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Linzipple just made me think, how about getting some ivory elbow length gloves for them all to wear? It wont make any of them hot but it would cover her tattoos! xxx
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Annette and Helen, I completely accept and respect your opinions...... However, its not really the tattoos , its the style of them. she does everything to shock, and I believe this is another one of them.
But biggest main thing is, I made the dresses myself and put so much hard work into them to make them look right, had she TOLD me she was thinking of having arm tattoos, I could have designed a slightly different dress, maybe put 3/4 sleeves on it. I do not expect her to ask my permission, she is 22 yrs old, and it IS her body, and her lifestyle is none of my business, but my wedding IS my business, and I wanted it to look nice, as we all do, and I feel like she is going to look like a chav. I might as well not worked so hard on the dresses and just told her to come as she is....jeans and tee shirt.
Just checked on facebook to be met by this......H2Bs OTHER daughter had this done today ......actually I was going to have this tattoo once, after getting through breast cancer......I had a reason for it, not just willy nilly....but I didnt have it done..... But this one is on her side, not noticeable....she has a few tattoos aswell but none of them are noticeable as she doesnt want them to be in yer face
Linzi-jo, one of the tattoos are on her forearm and the other one is at the top of her arm. I was thinking of a couple of things I can do. Buy some more fabric and make 3/4 length sleeves on her dress.... buy all of them a lace bolero, but if its hot they will take them off, understandably.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
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Well I just looked at ways to overcome this......and found these pictures and I dont think they look out of place.....
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or just tell H2B HE can buy new dresses for all of them.....Ok this wont hide the one on her forearm, but it will hide the one on the top of her arm.
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CommentAuthorlinzipple
They're really pretty! I think they'd look really good
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Which linzipple? the sleeves or a new dress?
Hey did you get sorted out with your venue?
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CommentAuthorlinzipple
The sleeves. For some reason the purple dress didn't load last time! Well, both actually... the new one is really pretty, but if it saves money then I'd go with the sleeves. Especially when you've put so much effort in already!
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CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
i have 13 tattoo`s myself and i dont find it offensive with what your saying anne x i agree she should have waited til after the wedding before having something so visual. i have opted to cover mine with a bolero to as not everyone likes them.
CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
I have no problems with tattoos in general (I have a small one across my lower back, so easily hidden) but i do think her tattoos are in poor taste, especially with regards to her job! What was she thinking?! or was she not!
I think the sleeves look pretty and it would save you a few hours in photoshop! I swear I have PS logos burned into my retinas from too many hours with photo shop!
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CommentAuthorclbronze
I love my tattoos but will be a little conscious of them on my wedding day. She obviously doesn't realise how bad they are of she wouldn't have got them! I don't think she did it to pee you off. I think the sleeved dresses are lovely, but yes you could have done with her waiting until after the wedding! x
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
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I am looking to order the fabric to make the sleeves..............
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CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I can see those tattoo's getting her in trouble at work, totally inappropriate!
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
The purple dress is really cute!
I agree that the tattoos are inappropriate and offensive. Not really my taste but like you say it's her body but I think she should've waited until after the wedding.
Make the sleeves hun, you'll be happier having the wedding just as you want it.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
I will make 3/4 length sleeves, they will cover the 'crazy' tattoo, but not completely cover the 'we're all mad here' tattoo, but it should cover some of it. There are loads of pretty style sleeves for 50s dresses and I want to make them with little turn-ups on them....
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww anne eek! the 'we are all mad here' is a quote off one flow over teh cuckoos nest!
i can understand how ure upset cos 2 months aint long to wait to have tattoos done, its like my sil had red hair til 6 months ago now blonde and she keeps sayin am gunna go red again.... all i said ure dress is cadburys purple and red hair? if u waan look silly and unmatched do it! u can get camoflurage( cant spell that) foundation which works but cos its black it will just make it look alot fainter hun?
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
yeah the 'we're all mad here' originally was a quote from Alice in Wonderland, the cheshire cat said it at the tea party, and the other one is a Tim Burton quote........both OK quotes, but not emblazoned on your body surely?
I have ordered fabric to make sleeves for her dress, and when she asks why her dress now has sleeves when it didnt before....I will just say she now has defaced her arms.....which she hadnt before!
I am not putting sleeves on the other 3 dresses, but it will look fine because although all 4 of them have a lot of similarities.....theres is one slight difference in them......so it looks like i have made them all up to be individual for each girl......but up until sleeve gate, her dress was the same as my daughters, so it works out better really.
I want to explain cos that dont sound right
They are all 4 different colours, they all have box pleated skirts, 2 of them are bandeau necklines with V back 2 of them are halter necks
one of my bridesmaids has piled on weight, and the straight across waistline didnt suit her...so I made hers into a V shape at the front....its the same style dress and is hardly noticeable, but the slight difference is there.
And now that I have to make sleeves for 1 of the bandeau neck dresses, it will mean that there are dirrernces in each dress, but mostly they will match.....and I think it will work because the 2 halter neck dresses are slightly different yet the same, and now the other two dresses can be too.
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
I can't believe she's done that Anne... not with where she works especially! And I'd have least expected her to have mentioned it to you before getting them done!
I'm glad you've decided to alter her dress. I'm assuming you haven't told her you're altering it? Serves her right! She doesn't tell you shes altering her arms until its done, you don't tell her you're altering her dress until its done!
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CommentAuthorMrscarter2b
I'm completely with you hon. I also can't believe her employers have not had anything to say about it as Mental Health issues should be taken seriously and respected, not turned into a joke. Good luck with your decision x
CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
Glad you decided to change it Anne, and I agree don't tell her till she next tries it on even if thats on your wedding day as then she wont get the chance to moan and groan and its her fault. Just say I decided to alter it so each one is different and its my day! I'm just annoyed that you know have to spend more time and effort on her because she couldnt wait. And you have enough to do at the moment. But either way youll still have a brilliant day x
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
thanks all.....Yeah I do have enough to do TBH, the purple dress isnt quite finished, and I have ivory sashes to make for them all, plus the clutch bags, then the sleeves on her dress.....Oh yeah then theres mine to finish!
good job I have got a few weeks to do it all in.....But the fabric for her dress comes from Thailand so I know I have at least 2 weeks wait, so I can concentrate on all the other stuff while I am waiting.
Sound like a lot to do, but its not, they are just niggly little bits..... like my dress, to finish it completely all I need to do is add 2 buttons and button loops at the back and press it......1 hour tops.
they are coming for a final fitting on Tuesday, so i will measure her arms but not tell her why, the fact I am measuring them might give her a clue! My daugters dress is the same style, and she did once say that little cap sleeves might have looked nice, so I might add those to her dress, and then I can tell H2Bs daughter I added sleeves to both dresses as I thought the style loked better with sleeves rather than without.
Sleeves like this for my daughters dress...
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CommentAuthorMariephiz
Oh Raggedy, poor you, after all the effort you've put in on those pretty dresses! Bridesmaid dress is beautiful by the way!
I'm sorry but I had to laugh given her job! Very inconsiderate, definitely have them photoshopped out if any are visible! Hope she takes it well when she sees she has sleeves xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
sorry, I havent read all of this but no you are not being a bridezilla... I would be fuming right now and I would make her cover them up. I love the purple dress but will this hide the ones on her legs?
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CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
Just measure all 4 BMs arms then just add to hers or the little capped ones for your daughter too then she wont realise why and what has happened x
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
On her legs its actually above her knee so yeah that should be fine...
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CommentAuthorcford20
That is pretty dis-tasteful to have that on her if she works with people who have mental health illnesses. Is there no way she can get cover up makeup? I've got one on my wrist but thinking of covering it up but makeup, gloves or bracelets.
CommentAuthorFitchMcCombe
I haven't read it all but I have to agree with what legobride said about it being her own body, and I think that if you have already been okay with the other tattoos i can understand why she wouldn't think of it being a problem, its slightly hypocritical to say one piece is fine for the wedding and the other isn't. Tattoos are a personal choice and what might seem silly to you could seem important to her. Personally I think quotes are usually so much more meaningful than pretty pictures, so its very much to each their own!
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
I am not disputing its her own body....but its not actually her wedding. And I am not worried about her taking the limelight or anything like that. the other tattoos are flowers and not so big and not so noticable, hers are in bad taste, huge and in your face. OK thats a matter of opinion i know.......but thats my opinion, and IN my opinion I dont like them. like i said previously, had i known she had them before I would have re-thought the dress design. Tattoos are definatley a personal choice, and I personally dont like hers. so I will make the dress in MY personal choice, as it is our wedding and I paid for them....
I do believe in to each their own, but this is our day, not a day where she can show off her defaced arms to our guests, just for shock value.
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CommentAuthorStaceyP91
like others, i have no problems with tattoos, i have 3.... one on top of my back (butterflies) and 2 on my ankle (sons name and flowers) ill be wearing my hair down so back one wont be seen :)
However.... i disagree with getting what she has on her arms considering where she works! its not something you do. I also work in a disabilty school for children and adults.
I do like the idea of the sleeves, the cap sleeves for your daughter will look lovely! wish i had your talents for making my bridesmaid dresses.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Thank you Stacey..... my son works at a home caring for adults with Autism and Aspergers Syyndrome, and god help me if I say a word wrong! I once said something like do some of them have to wear nappies? He shot me down in flames....THEY ARE NOT CALLED NAPPIES! THEY ARE CALLED PADS! nappies are for babies. Oh god sorry but I didnt know what to call them. Thats the difference, he takes his job very seriously and would never do what she has done, I dont really know anyone else that actually would.
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CommentAuthorStaceyP91
I know exactly what you mean lol.... we even get one of the parents of an adult we look after call them nappies!!! I work with all ranges of disabilities, majority of them in chairs...
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
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I had no idea its very faux par to call them that.....
Daniel is a key worker for one of them and takes him to town to get his toiletries etc, and he really enjoys his company. He is very protective of him. and the others too but especially this particular one as he works with him on a 1-1 basis most of the time. My son went to University and studied web design.......totally different to what he is doing now, but like most people he took the first job he could to get money, but he loves it and is very good at his job, and I think he is very happy there, happy enough not to even bother looking for the job he trained for.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Both my parents are psychiatric nurses and my mum is now an academic (in that field) so I have always grown up learning the PC way to talk about those with mental health conditions. I do find those tattoos distasteful, sorry xxx
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CommentAuthorStaceyP91
Always the way... i studied childcare in college and always wanted to be a teacher but after working with a special needs child it totaly changed me but didnt think i would be doing what i am now... also studying my level 3 diploma in health and social care xxxx
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
My sister her whole working life, worked with people with disabilities.......and loved it. My son has his work cut out at times, the people he cares for have challenging behaviour, and more than once Daniel (my son) has rung me telling me not to worry but he will be late home, he has been hit, or bitten or something, and is being checked over at the hospital. I used to work at the place he works at, but I didnt stay.....not because of the work, but my marriage ended and I didnt have a sitter to look after the kids when i had a night shift.
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CommentAuthorStaceyP91
Yeh its a lovely job and sooo rewarding and like your son's, it can be very challanging, espeically with the hitting and biting but you just take it... we do get taught breakaway training to help us. but they dont do it intentionally...
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CommentAuthormadhen
Good luck altering the dresses RA, I really like them with sleeves! ;)
CommentAuthorJilly17
Loving the long sleeves on the dress but pretty horrified at the insensitivity of the tattoos considering her job!
CommentAuthor~feebee~
Those tattoos are a mess!
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Yikes! The fundamental issue here imo is how insensitive those tattoos are considering her job! have her bosses seen them?? I don't think you've been a bridezilla & I love the sleeves you're doing :) That other purple dress was lovely too, but I like how each of your dresses are unique Xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
ann u not showin us ure dress til its finishe dthen??
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Its on here somewhere.. I cant remember which thread. Its not completed yet, it needs hemming and just a button on the back......and needs pressing.
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww let me see if i can find lol
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
yeah its in a thread called ........ Complete Dress or Seperate Bodice & Skirt?
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CommentAuthorfiona
I actually really like the long sleeves and the cap sleeves.
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
Well.........the girls cam round the other night for a fitting, and I looked at ther tattoos, and THANKFULLY the 'Crazy' tattoo in actually on the inside of her upper arm.......and the other one is quite small......So I am not so worried about it now......
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CommentAuthorBobsi
relief for you then. xx
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