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    my daughter died last yr and im getting married in the church where i had her service,our family church,its going to be many tears and joy at the same time,im trying to think of some extra things to do,i have her friends as my bridesmaid and the flower after church are going to cemetry,its a very hard day to organise,as there will be tears and joy at the same time,i dont want to many tears but at the same time i want it to be a happy day ,
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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Mar 17th 2010
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    Blimey hun what an emotional day it will be for you all... How about a big framed picture of your daughter in the church and reception!

    As a medium I know your daughter will be there with you on your special day!

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    • spooney24
      CommentAuthorspooney24
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    What about a unity candle that you can light during the service and have a wee reading that has a few words within it to say about your daughter. x

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    yes i will look in the shops for a big candle that i can light during the service, i will write all yr ideas down for when i next see the priest..dont want it to be a dull day as i no i have to carry on in life but rachel will not be with me so im trying to think of some nice ideas.thank you ladies x
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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Mar 17th 2010
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    Did she have some favourite music you can use at various parts of the day?

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    • Walesfromafar
      CommentAuthorWalesfromafar
      Got married 7 years ago
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    Awww darling that will be an emotional and moving day for everyone but I'm sure it will be full of joys and memories too. Maybe you could use her as part of your something old, new, borrowed and blue, maybe wear a locket with her picture in or something. My friends granddad died last summer a couple of months before her wedding and everyone involved so bride, groom, families, bridesmaids and groomsmen carried a photo of him in their bags or their pockets. You can get really lovely in memorium candles. Think there was a post about them months ago so try having a quick search maybe, there has if I'm right also been a post on remembering dead loved ones at a wedding ceremony but cant remember the exact wording so there might be some other ideas on there.
    Maybe you could also set off skylanterns (though my experience of them was disastrous) or helium balloons or doves or something x
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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
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    She might not be with you in person hun but she will be with you in spirit! Im sure you will have a fantastic day! How about some of her favourite songs? Did she have any favourite hymns that you could sing in church?

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    her music i cant listen to as i go into pieces!! so thats a no no im affraid,,something borrowed yes i can do that one.x
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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Mar 17th 2010
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    Name the tables after her favourite places/ hobbies?
    Favours in her memory?

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    tables will be......R n B.....chocolate..big brother,,,xfactor,,,and pot noodle!!! lol cool x
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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
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    Aww I know what you mean hun! I lost my brother 22 years ago this October and I still cant listen to his music without breaking down! Ok cross that one off the list lol x x

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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
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    LMAO @ the table names, brilliant..!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    the tables names i will have...will give everyone a laugh!x
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    • Walesfromafar
      CommentAuthorWalesfromafar
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    Lol the table names are brilliant!!! How did she die if you dont mind me asking? Maybe there's a charity you could do donations to instead of favours or a speech sweepstake like someone suggested in another post to raise money for it x
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    she got killed by a driver who had no licence tax ect he in prison now, court case not long finished...
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    • Walesfromafar
      CommentAuthorWalesfromafar
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    I'm so sorry darling. It must be so hard for you. I dont know if there's a charity that would be able to directly link in with that. But maybe you could raise the money for a bench in her favorite park and put a quote that she would have really appreciated on it. Or Put it towards something that she was passionate about. Like if she liked music or dancing or something make a donation in her name towards a scholarship for a student who cant afford to pursue their dreams, one of my friends was sponsored for one of her years at music college by a trust in the name of a little girl who loved to sing and was killed on the road x
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    • spooney24
      CommentAuthorspooney24
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    Did she have a favourite flower and if so you could include it in the buttonholes and bouquets.

    Also this is a few words that can be read at the reception, can be changed a bit if you like it:-

    Standing here with so much pleasure,
    I add today to memories I treasure.
    The only thing that’s missing is Rachel my love,
    But she knows I can sense her from above.
    I promised her not to shed a tear,
    And that’s alright as I know she is here.
    So raise your glasses now with me,
    And toast my Rachel, who I love totally

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    the scholarship is a great idea! and the poem is beautifull i will not beable to read it out but i cud ask the priest to do it during the service.x
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    • Walesfromafar
      CommentAuthorWalesfromafar
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    Search for Sophie's Silver Lining Fund. It might give you some ideas. All of the money they give out is very small amounts but it all helps people's dreams come true x
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    ok i will look it up on internet thanks x
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    • x~Hails~x
      CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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    Spooney thats beautiful, i had a tear in my eye :-)

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    • mrsmada
      CommentAuthormrsmada
      Got married 9 years ago
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    why dont you hav her name embriodered into the lining of ur wedding dress then she is with you as u walk down the aisle x
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    • Suzi
      CommentAuthorSuzi
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    Lovely idea Mrsmada! x x

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    • CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
      Posted: Mar 20th 2010
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    all the ideas above are beautifull,spooney that poem nearly made me cry..its going to be an emotional day for you hunni,
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    • mrsmada
      CommentAuthormrsmada
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    a friend of mine lost her granda just b4 she got married and thats wot she did x
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    • Magsy
      CommentAuthorMagsy
      Got married 9 years ago
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    all wonderful ideas, Rachel will truly be with you on your day x
    spooney, that poem is beautiful-made me cry!!

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    • CeCe
      CommentAuthorCeCe
      Posted: Mar 20th 2010
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    Have some Sky Lanterns to light and let off int he evening to remember your daughter and any other folk that have passed away...

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    • Mrswright
      CommentAuthorMrswright
      Got married 9 years ago
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    I know it isn't the same and my heart brakes for your sad loss ,i lost my grandad and had his name tatooed onto my side so he is with me as i walk down the isle it didn't hurt and is very beautiful ,i will also be leaving an open seat for him in the church marked by a bouquet of his favorite flowers .
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    • CeCe
      CommentAuthorCeCe
      Posted: Mar 20th 2010
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    ...would you consider setting a place at the head table for her..perhaps put her fave drink, pot noodle and a beautiful picture of her ...

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    • essexk
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      Got married 9 years ago
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    At a friends wedding they had candles on every table at the reception for the grooms mum who'd died of cancer earlier in the year and they were lit by nomimated people during the grooms speech and while they were being lit they played her favourite song and everyone took a moment to remember her. it was very emotional but a lovely tribute. x x
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    • weenymoo
      CommentAuthorweenymoo
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Mar 21st 2010
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    I'm really soory to hear about your lose.
    I know it's not the same but my nana died 3 years ago and my partners great granma died just after. we were thinking of having night laterns at the reception you can write a message and send it into the night. My 2 daughter always say they are watching over them sitting on their stars.
    Or set of doves is another one of our ideas.
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    • CupCake
      CommentAuthorCupCake
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    aww hun ... I felt really sad reading this post, I can't imagine losing my daughter, your so brave. What about wearing a locket with her picture in it to keep her close all day? I hope you find the things that comfort you yet make you happy on your special day too xx

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    thank you ladys you have given me some wonderfull ideas!!! yes it will be a very hard day for me a day in a way im dredding!!! but i got to carry on rachel wud not want me to be scared of getting on with my life because she is no longer here with me xx thank you all xx
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    • jo
      CommentAuthorjo
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Mar 22nd 2010
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    im so sorry adele, she'll be watchin over you all day - waiting for something to laugh at! you could ask your venue if you could set up a little area with her picture, candles and a donation pot to donate to a charity, and if you decide to release balloons or something maybe tie a personal msg to yours.... alternatively you could make pot noodles your starter! maybe wear a piece of her jewellary on the day as your something borrowed.

    my thoughts are with you x
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    • Kelley
      CommentAuthorKelley
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 22nd 2010
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    Hey, im so sorry to hear about your loss. when my grandmother died we didnt have a wake we celebrated her life. what about releasing sky lanterns at your reception and everyone can put something about your daughter on the tags, how special she was, how she looked or a fond memory. that way when they are released into the sky they float up to heaven for her to read. this is what we did at our grandmothers funeral, and it was tough but a fantastic way to celebrate her life rather than mourn her death.
    My thoughts are with you. I cant even contemplate how you must be feeling, remember she is watching over you.... make her proud x
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    • CommentAuthorjenniebean
      Posted: Mar 22nd 2010
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    the idea of having her name embroidered into your dress is lovely
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    • mrsr2b
      CommentAuthormrsr2b
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Mar 22nd 2010
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    im very sorry to hear of your loss huni, i think all the ideas here are great, the tables names are brilliant, and havin her name embroidered into ur dress is great too!!! :D
    xo
 
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