Blimey hun what an emotional day it will be for you all... How about a big framed picture of your daughter in the church and reception!

As a medium I know your daughter will be there with you on your special day!

yes i will look in the shops for a big candle that i can light during the service, i will write all yr ideas down for when i next see the priest..dont want it to be a dull day as i no i have to carry on in life but rachel will not be with me so im trying to think of some nice ideas.thank you ladies x

Awww darling that will be an emotional and moving day for everyone but I'm sure it will be full of joys and memories too. Maybe you could use her as part of your something old, new, borrowed and blue, maybe wear a locket with her picture in or something. My friends granddad died last summer a couple of months before her wedding and everyone involved so bride, groom, families, bridesmaids and groomsmen carried a photo of him in their bags or their pockets. You can get really lovely in memorium candles. Think there was a post about them months ago so try having a quick search maybe, there has if I'm right also been a post on remembering dead loved ones at a wedding ceremony but cant remember the exact wording so there might be some other ideas on there.
Maybe you could also set off skylanterns (though my experience of them was disastrous) or helium balloons or doves or something x

her music i cant listen to as i go into pieces!! so thats a no no im affraid,,something borrowed yes i can do that one.x

tables will be......R n B.....chocolate..big brother,,,xfactor,,,and pot noodle!!! lol cool x

LMAO @ the table names, brilliant..!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lol the table names are brilliant!!! How did she die if you dont mind me asking? Maybe there's a charity you could do donations to instead of favours or a speech sweepstake like someone suggested in another post to raise money for it x

I'm so sorry darling. It must be so hard for you. I dont know if there's a charity that would be able to directly link in with that. But maybe you could raise the money for a bench in her favorite park and put a quote that she would have really appreciated on it. Or Put it towards something that she was passionate about. Like if she liked music or dancing or something make a donation in her name towards a scholarship for a student who cant afford to pursue their dreams, one of my friends was sponsored for one of her years at music college by a trust in the name of a little girl who loved to sing and was killed on the road x

the scholarship is a great idea! and the poem is beautifull i will not beable to read it out but i cud ask the priest to do it during the service.x

ok i will look it up on internet thanks x

why dont you hav her name embriodered into the lining of ur wedding dress then she is with you as u walk down the aisle x

all the ideas above are beautifull,spooney that poem nearly made me cry..its going to be an emotional day for you hunni,

all wonderful ideas, Rachel will truly be with you on your day x
spooney, that poem is beautiful-made me cry!!

I know it isn't the same and my heart brakes for your sad loss ,i lost my grandad and had his name tatooed onto my side so he is with me as i walk down the isle it didn't hurt and is very beautiful ,i will also be leaving an open seat for him in the church marked by a bouquet of his favorite flowers .

At a friends wedding they had candles on every table at the reception for the grooms mum who'd died of cancer earlier in the year and they were lit by nomimated people during the grooms speech and while they were being lit they played her favourite song and everyone took a moment to remember her. it was very emotional but a lovely tribute. x x

aww hun ... I felt really sad reading this post, I can't imagine losing my daughter, your so brave. What about wearing a locket with her picture in it to keep her close all day? I hope you find the things that comfort you yet make you happy on your special day too xx

im so sorry adele, she'll be watchin over you all day - waiting for something to laugh at! you could ask your venue if you could set up a little area with her picture, candles and a donation pot to donate to a charity, and if you decide to release balloons or something maybe tie a personal msg to yours.... alternatively you could make pot noodles your starter! maybe wear a piece of her jewellary on the day as your something borrowed.

my thoughts are with you x

the idea of having her name embroidered into your dress is lovely