Yet someone else I know is pregnant! I'm made up for her but I wish it was me... H2b absolutely refuses to try before we get married and I get that I do but I feel like am getting on when I know am not really.... Am 25 and will be 27 when we get married... One thing that's always at the bck of my mind is mum went thru menopause at 33-35 and I'm scared that'll be me and I'll not have any kids by then... I've never been regular that's y I went on the pool and now I have the implant...
:( I guess am too impatient!
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CommentAuthorMrstalbot2b
I know how you feel, we so want a baby but waiting to after wedding which is turning out to be really hard as few of friends and my cousin having baby's next year which am so happy for them but is still hard to see, i'll be 28 when married I have a few health problems that can make trying hard we already tried for a year before we got engaged and nothing so am really worry as I know as you getting older it gets harder and I know 28 is still young but you still have that panic in the back of your head,
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I can understand your worries babe and completely sympathise. I'm 35 in a couple of weeks and hubby is making me wait a few more months before we start trying. It's driving me nuts...and all of my friends bar two have either just had babies or are soon to have them! I know his reasons are sound for wanting to wait (maternity leave/getting some decent money behind us etc.) but like you, I'm too impatient LOL! I guess in the mean time, we just have to enjoy the practising part ;)
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CommentAuthormym72
Keep you chin up - it will happen, you're both still young. I'm 40 and we're trying as well, so hoping even at my age it'll happen soon.
CommentAuthorLisaT18
i dont think your impatient. i have got a 2 year old already but i know how it is to be made to wait. my h2b says that he wants a july baby so i have to wait till next year to start trying,but i have other plans =) i know it is bad advice but cant you have the implant taken out. just tell him that it was hurting you =)
I think wen u plan on having a baby, its the 2 of u that have 2 make the decision. Yes ok u r the 1 that carries it 4 9 months, but u and ur partner care 4 them until u die. I think its utterly selfish of some1 2 pretend the contraceptive doesnt work, etc. Imagine if it was the other way round? He isnt saying he NEVER wants children, just wait until the timing is a bit better?? xx x
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CommentAuthorMrsA-J
Awr hun! Just think you dont have that long to wait! I know itll seem a life time away and I think youll appricate her/him more!
I know when we were trying everyone else seemed to be getting pregnant and it made me really really jelous!
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Yeah missa2b is right you will appreciate them so much more. My friends all have kids and some are pregnant. I would love to have a baby but will not get maternity pay at work so going to wait a few years after we are married so we can save x x
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Lisa I could never ever do that I couldn't live with myself and personally to trick someone is v wrong....
Thanks girls it teaching me huge patience though, just gets me down a bit tbh xx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
It will happen, though I can understand why you're anxious. Excuse me if I'm prying, but did your other female relatives go throu the menopause early too? I know it can be hereditary but in most cases it isn't.
I know it's a pain to wait, but could you maybe have a chat with your gp to find out what things you can be doing to improve fertility, particularly if you have problems with irregular periods? This may set your mind at rest a bit,as I'm guessing that you're thinking it might take you a while to conceive due to your irregular periods?
Your time will come, and I'm sure there will be times in the next few years when your up to your knees in baby poop and vomit when you're really glad that you waited xx
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Hi Laura.... Well my two aunties were of "normal" age and my nan had a hysterectomy so we wouldn't have known when it would've happend to her.... Yes I keep thinking it'll take us ages to "get caught" Xxx
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CommentAuthorTori
I can understand your anguish, but I can understand h2b point also. Glad you have said that you couldn't dupe him as he may feel resentful if it ever cam out.
Like LauraJo said perhaps you could discuss your concerns with GP/ FPC?
Just remember your time will come, I'm sure xxx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I know how you feel hun. I started getting broody a year ago, we can't start trying until we're married. I'll be 33 when we get hitched (2 months after my birthday) and I'm so worried that I'll not be able to conceive cos of my age. I really want our first child before I'm 34 so can have a second when I'm 36. Basically means I need to fall pregnant within a couple of months of getting married.
So many friends have kids and I'm so jealous of them but they're all married and been married for a few years or more. xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
All my friends are getting sprogged up recently, and they are all in the 27 to 30 age range, so I wouldnt worry about it :)
Its not making me in the slightest bit broody, but the boy just looks woefully at me everytime i mention another pregnant friend!
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Excuse me but I'm 34 and over 5 months pregnant and I'm sorry but reading through some of these comments about how you feel you might be getting on a bit at 28 is really making me so angry!
To the OP your mother went through her menopause at 33, this is no indication whatsoever of what age you will start yours. Medicine has actually advanced since then and more and more women are having babies now with the help of these advancements.
I also want to say that stressing out over not being able to get pregnant by a certain age doesn't do your fertility levels any favours ladies.
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I must apologise for my previous post, blame it on my hormones.
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
lol I agree with u tho I'll be 36, a lot of my friends think they r old wen they reach 26 2 have a baby... r u 4 real? It is very common knowledge now that yes, ok ur fertility does lessen as the years go by, but u shouldnt b worried at 33!!! 43 perhaps. x
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
At 26 I was too busy going to parties or on holidays with mates to even give much thought about starting a family. It wasn't really until a few months before my 30th when I was on holiday in Rome with a workmate that it struck me that I wanted to find Mr Right and have kids to be honest. It was September, I was 30 in 3 months after that and I was sitting alone enjoying listening to this singer at our youth hostel. My workmate had gone to bed. This girl sat down beside me and we started talking. The topic came around to my age lol and I said I was turning 30 in a few months. She says omg yeah turning 30 is so hard isn't it and I said yeah I suppose it is. So anyway I said to her "When did you turn 30?" And she says "Me? I'm only 20!" So I said "Come back to me in 9 and a half years and tell me how hard it is!" She had made me so angry yet turning 30 had never even bothered me until that point.
Looking back I don't even understand why it bothered me at all because 30 is not old, I had at least had a bit of life experience and independence behind me and I also had a future in front of me yet that night and for the next few months I felt like I was being forced into another decade and wanted to be 29 forever which is silly and a bit childish.
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I meant to finish that off with I think that us women are unnescessarily forced by society into thinking our clocks are ticking faster than what they are actually ticking. A few months ago we found out I was pregnant. Ever since then if I had a pound for everytime a doctor, ultra sound technician, midwife or any other joe blogs had asked us if we are having the Down's syndrome scan I wouldn't be far off a millionaire. Every single appointment I have had I've been asked "Are you sure you don't want the test because after all you are 34!" I'm sick to the teeth of being asked and keep saying "No we don't want it, thanks!" They generally make me feel like they are trying to put me under unnescessary pressure and the best about it all is this internal scan I kept being offered causes 1 child to be miscarried in every 200 scans and I've been reading that most babies are perfectly fine anyway so I will take my chances.
My grandmothers both had healthy children well into their 40s, my mother had 3 children in her 20's and 1 in her 30's and then had a hysterectomy at about 39 and someone close to me suffered a miscarriage at 25 years old. Society needs to get a grip and give us a bit of breathing space. Women can give birth to disabled children or have miscarriages whether the woman is in her teens, 20's 30's and older. I know a girl who was told at 18 she won't be able to have kids, and a cousin of mine got pregnant naturally having gone through ivf treatments for almost ten years.
Have your babies when its right for both of you and not when society decides you are too old. I got pregnant unexpectedly but we both soon realised (within a few hours, literally) that it is right for us and we can't wait to be parents, we had often talked about having kids anyway but had no real set time
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Thanks for the apology.... I feel 28 For me IS getting on a bit as for my mums early menopause I'm WELL aware it may not affect me (mum was 33 when she had me and 35 for my sister, and yes medically she was in menopause) my two aunts were 'normal' age..... It has nothing to do with "my body clocks ticking i must get pregnant" I would like at least one child before I'm 30!
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I know a lot of guys who have absolutely no intentions of becoming a dad, at least your h2b does want them in just a few years time. Your clock really isn't ticking as fast as you think. Are you prepared for a child right now? I've been finding out lately they cost a lot of money and completely change your life. Trust me at 34/35 or older you will look back and think that at 28 you had your future ahead of you and you had plenty of time on the clock but you just didn't see it at the time. My mum had breast cancer at 34, the same age as I am right now and I have never once thought that I definitely get it too.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Well tbh hun u don't know my financial situation... For all you know I could be millionaire so I don't think that is an area up should I into....and I do have a disability which again you didn't know so please don't judge me.... I don't really get why your so upset because looking back over the comments no one has put anything offensive or derogatory....
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CommentAuthorMrstalbot2b
Well said lilmisschuckles.
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
:)
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CommentAuthorEleanorR
Your mum's menopause age is a pretty good indicator; not guaranteed but enough to influence your decisions. There was a study in the news 2 weeks ago that said your fertility starts to decline 20 years before onset of menopause and suggested looking at the age of mothers' menopause to assess fertility so if I were you I'd be showing OH that evidence and suggesting he rethinks. I'd hate for tradition to be prioritised over something as important as having a child which you both want.
I'm 24 and we decided to try before we got married because when we decided that was more important than a wedding. If OH wanted to get married first I might have been ok with that but I certainly wouldn't if there was a risk of menopause that soon. I suppose it depends how many children you want as well, though. 6-8 years to make 1 certainly seems doable! :)
