and it was absolutely lovely!!! It was the wedding of Steve's cousin's Nicola. I can't understand why some people would put hotel weddings down. It doesn't need to be an exclusive castle or manor house for an amazing day. It's most definately the people and the little touches that make it. We were taken very good care of from the moment we arrived. All staff couldn't do enough for you. The couple were treated like royalty. I was quite impressed with the civil ceremony, made all the more personal as their little daughter stood between the happy couple swinging her wand to and fro. Nicola was absolutely stunning, with a figure to die for. Her groom got very choked up during his speech about his bride and there were a few teary eyes. Favours were chewy sweets in very pretty boxes and everyone found this fun and quirky and my son particularly benefitted from the people that didnt eat sweets. Guests danced past midnight and a great time was had by all. My MIL had a few too many and told a lady she looked like Edwina Currie, which I don't think she took kindly. All in all it was a very good day and night.
I only have two small negatives to say and this may help other ladies when planning, regardless of being in a hotel, castle or any where. 1) My son is 11 and as such had the kids meal, tho at 11 he really does have an adults appetite. This was 2 courses instead of 3. They brought his main while we had our starter and his dessert while we ate our main...which meant he sat there very bored and fed up and looking longingly at us while we ate our dessert. I think if you can try to get a kids menu with 3 courses even if its only a fruit cocktail for them for starters....or give them something like a kids activity box if you know they have 1 less course than the adults.
The second small negative is one of Steve's aunts lost her husband 6 weeks ago after 36 years of marriage, however this obviously wasn't passed on via the table plan and she sat through the entire wedding breakfast next to an empty seat and place setting. It was quite sad for us to see, so can't imagine how it was for her. It would have been so much simpler had they just sat 7 on the table and each person had a little more space, than make it so it was obvious someone was missing. xx
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
the kids meal is down to the couple ordering him a kids meal hun not the hotel! we have 7 kids cumin to ours and only 2 will be havin kiddie meals ( one as he only be 3 and other cos shes a fuzzy eate rn live soff chicken nuggets haha)
awww thats not nice on steves aunt! i have been thinkin cos i got cancer pins that cum wiv 'cards to explain them' on h2b nans table puttin piccie of his aunite that passed away of cancer on it?
am glad u loved it! my hotel is my fav
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Yeah I understand the couple choosing a kids meal for Connor. I just think to avoid disappointment or fed up kids. Hotels should offer 3 courses and not just 2 even if its something simple so they still feel like they are having the same amount of meals. I don't suppose it is as important for very young children but at 11 they notice everything! lol
I think the cancer pins are a lovely idea hun and I am sure the guests will see the sentiment behind them. xx
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes thats true! wen i went to a weddin last year the kiddies meals did hav 3 courses ( cos i nicked a strawberry off kids starter n she wasnt impressed ha ha
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CommentAuthorJill
Aww Dee - poor Steves aunt! I really feel for her, weddings are hard at the best of times if you've lost a loved one without the added emphasis :( x
my kids meals are 3 courses which im glad at cos some of the kids that are coming are right pains and hopefully the meal will keep them quiet so the adults can enjoy theirs!!!!
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CommentAuthorClareS
Thanks for the advice regarding meals. With my invites I'm going to send out the menu options so the parents can choose whether they wish children to have the same meal as adults (full or half portion) or choose from the childs menu. will def make sure there's 3 courses on the childs menu though. I'd not thought of that! x
CommentAuthorDee37
Hi ClareE,
We did that and put little rsvp cards in with tick boxes and a menu enclosed. That way we had exact numbers and the kids could see what the adult meals were and if they fancied it. Has worked really well and some kids you thought would have gone with junior meals have gone for half adult. I'd advise anyone with sit down meals to do the same. The RSVP's came back a lot quicker as they were small cards with addressed envelopes, some still bought pretty cards to put them in. Hardly had to chase anyone. They were easy to make and print, got them from a large craft store.
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CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
we have the choice for kids at at our venue............ 3 course kids meal or half portion of adult meal. We have kids ranging from 3 to 15 so we needed something a little different for the older ones! We are going to ask the parents what they would like ie whether they would prefer smaller portions or whether thy would like something like chicken nuggets etc!
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I'm having my ceremony and reception in a hotel and it's beautiful, I've been to weddings there before and had a fantastic time. I'm not sure what they do about kids meals though and hadn't thought about it. I'm not sure how many kids we'll be having as we have my h2bs son, my niece and 7 friends who are currently pregnant so all those babies will have to be considered by the time it comes round. Oooh eck you've got my cogs whirring now.
I love the idea of charity pins, we are going to have Help for Heroes as they've helped lots of h2bs friends and their families.
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i had my wedding in a hotel. kids had 3 courses as well. not sure why you would only give them 2! very strange.
i think hotel weddings can be amazing. i know i wouldnt change mine for the world x
CommentAuthordodge
shirley girly thats a fab idea i may do that help for heros my self sorry to pinch your idea but h2b son is in army so i think h would see it as a nice touch
CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
We have a 3 course menu for the children at our wedding, but with the option for parents to cancel the starter if they thought their child would not want it or eat a full 3 courses. Most have still got the full 3 courses, but a few have said to leave the starter. We also didn't even offer the option of things like chicken nuggets or sausages or anything like that - when discussing what the children were having with their parents they were told it's a half portion of the adult meal, no argument - and nobody has said anything about it :)
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Omg I can't believe that about the aunt, that must have been so painful for her! I hope the couple have apologised to her for not updating their table arrangements...
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
Hey dodge, I've got no objections to you using that idea it means more money to a brilliant cause.x
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CommentAuthorNavyBaby
Our caterers outline that kids between 2-10 get the kids meal which is £18 per person...fair enough, a 10 year old would probably eat all and it'd be worth the money. However, my niece, who is 2, wouldn't eat 2 courses (although she'd probably give it a good go...little piggy!) so we're not sure what to do about that. (She'll obviously be older when we get married but there could be other babies by then!)
My Auntie died from Cancer last year and when we were setting the date, we wanted it around my birthday (June so fingers crossed for the weather, and H2B should only have to remember 1 date!) We decided on the day before my birthday, 15th June, which also happens to be my Aunties birthday. It's our little way of remembering her and showing we're thinking of her on the day. We've also decided that through out vows, I will be Fiona-Maisie (Maisie was my Nan's name) but we're not sure what to do about H2B...His name is J...Clive Robert Sammuel H...bit of a mouthful for the poor registrar!
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Hi Navy, surely you can't just change your name during your wedding vows as this goes on your marriage certificate? I would have thought it would have to be as it is on your birth certificate for public records etc - we're using my full name which has a middle name and my Chinese name as part of it!
CommentAuthorSijen
Stevie_Dee, our hotel provides a 2 or 3 course meal for the children, we just have to specify what when ordering, but as others have said here, we're giving the menu to the parents to pick what their child would prefer. Also, sad news for the auntie, surely the couple knew about her husband, it's obviously just an oversight on their behalf - and quite upsetting I would imagine.
Also, NavyBaby - I agree with bridalmiss on that one - we had to take proof of our names etc when we went to give notice as it's all the legalities on the day. If you were just having a blessing or a non-legal cermony it wouldn't be a problem but for the legal ceremony you have to say your full legal names.
I would recommend writing your own vows to include the personal names in but when you have to say all the legal vow stuff, you have to say your full name - sorry if I have piddled on your parade hun but it's wort checking with the registrar before hand.
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CommentAuthorNavyBaby
Sorry...I should've made it more clear! Maisie is my middle name! So I'm not just changing my name for the day :) It's on my driving licence and passport etc! I just meant that all the way through the ceremony, I'll be 'Fiona Maisie' rather than just 'Fiona' Hopefully it's more clear now!
And we're thinking of writing our own vows...Im just so worried they'll end up rubbish!x
CommentAuthorSijen
Ah makes sense now lol. It did read as though you were adding it in to remember your nan on the day.
As for your vows I would just write from the heart. There's plenty of ideas floating around in wedding mags and online etc if you need any inspiration. They don't even have to make sense to anyone else except you and your husband.
My H2B and I have said 'Lub You' for years since I sent a text and accidently put Lub instead of Luv - so we were going to say that to each other at the end of our vows lol. Stupid and pointless to others but meaningful to us.
