Hi all

I really need someone to cheer me up - I think i have come to the end of the road and really cant pick myself up :o( This whole wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare and I have hated every minute of it.

We are 5 weeks away from the day and I wish it was over! my best friends hate me and havent spoken to me since january, my dad hasnt talked to me since december, every supplier we have booked has let us down in one way or another.

My dream dress doesnt fit (too small). i stupidly got it in a size smaller than I am thinking I would fit into it and I havent.

This is just not worth it anymore. This wedding has become more about what money we would lose than why we actually started it at the beginning. I cant stop crying.

The dress is about an inch and a half away but I am due on on the wedding day and it always adds inches to me beforehand. The doctor has given me something to stop the period but said it will bloat me. The seamstress cant change the back due to what it is like. it needs to zip up and meet.

The thing is I dont want to do it anymore. This whole wedding isnt about marrying OH anymore its about money and what we will lose etc and the more this goes on the less and less I love him

:o(

Big hugs. You can soon get yourself back into bride mode. Firstly friends are friends. If you had a fall out for whatever reason they should soon come back round. You might have to make the first move but its all about sorting the problem out. If they can't come to some sort of compromise and forgiveness then they are not worth calling a friend. Same with your dad. He either sticks by you or he doesn't.

All you need to get married is a man you love, the legal stuff and that is it. Nothing else really matters. We all have an idea of what we want and how it should be but the only thing that really matters is you and your h2b. You still have your h2b so its not all that bad. Go and give him a big hug and tell him how much you love him. I'm sure he feels the same.

Have you seen a dress maker to see if they can do anything with your dress? How much smaller is it? Maybe they could change the way it fasten or something so you can't tell? Either that or you can hire dresses for the day. It might be another option for you.

Are you insured? If you are then you can get your money back from suppliers if they let you down. I'm sure once you get over the initial shock and become positive again you will find ways of sorting it out. You will look back in years to come and be glad that you did it.

Hey hun, first off stop the tears and give us ladies a smile :)

I agree, i think maybe you need to spend a couple of days with h2b without discussin wedding! This will allow you to feel the bond between you again!

I know its so close, but honestly you need some time together! :) a movie night, cinema, dinner out!

Big hugs xxx

Hi
1. The first best friend fell out with me because the second best friend was going to be bridesmaid amongst other reasons - plus i think we were just friends because we had been friends for so long we felt that we had to. The second best friend ordered a bridesmaid dress 2 sizes too small thinking she would fit into it then put on 11lb and completely imploded and said she no longer wished to be bridesmaid and that our friendship was over too

2. I havent spoken to my dad since december because he is an abusive alcoholic and I decided i could no longer face his bad behaviour.

3. Suppliers are being arsey. Its like the moment they get your money and have the order the less they give a rats bum about what it is you actually want. OH is the most timid man I know and our cake maker cancelled on him the other day because he asked for a picture of what the cupcakes would look like and she shouted down the phone i have already given these to amy you shouldnt need them, then sent us an email saying sorry our cupcakes arent 'big enough' for your wedding. Thats not at all what he said so we cancelled and said dont bother.

4. I have been dieting arefull for the last 6 weeks and have lost about 3lb. i still need about another stone to get into the dress. thats not doable as the dress needs shortening and wont be able to shorten it withut it zipping up.

5. I can no longer remember why we wanted to get married in the first place if i am honest. Thats the really really sad part.

hun, you dont need friends like that and you dnt need to put up with your dad like that x sending a hug x

hails i dont get it? lol

Im so very upset for you, no bride 2 b should feel like this ...but s--t happens in life and it had to be you its happened to, i agree with every one on here too chillout take time out oh and its not to late to start that diet im doing the slimfast shake in the morning and lunch time and weightwatchers meal beofre 6pm inbetween i have fruit in the last 3 weeks ive lost about 8,1bs you can do it and it gives you such a confidence boost, were all thinking of you we really are sod everyone else ive learnt that today its about you and your h2bxxxx

lol sorry ladies talking to her on fb and we are having a convo about wedding dresses and how they make LOVELY table cloths and tea cosy's hehehe

hails i cant add you on f/b i have tried x

lol hails x

you dont even need weight watchers stuff. eat healthly and do some exercise - you will fit in your dress

your friend seems to be b***** and needs to grow up

Your dad dont know what to say there

You h2b of course you love him otherwise you would have called off hte wedding earlier.

oh and suppliers are all like that some you will find will help you others take your money and get you stressed

Its more then likely stress just have a nice evening in with h2b and relax no wedding talk

big hugs hun not sure what to say coz the girls have covered everything but try and think positive xx

Ok my twopenneth and ideas for solutions

You seem to have lost sight of what your wedding is REALLY about

Its about you and your H2B making a commitment to each other

Nothing else matters

I dont know what to suggest about your dress - if its too small its too small.... unless your dressmaker can put a couple of panels in the side theres not a lot else you can do, so you need to think about getting another dress.... or getting to the gym as of tomorrow.....period.

Your so called friends and your dad - well they really aint worth worrying over are they? I mean lets face it - if they treat you like this why the hell should you have to put up with it - sever the ties and forget it.

Your cakemaker - **** her. Take your business elsewhere. Just because she got up her own **** ont he phone to your H2B doesnt mean they are all like that. You got time to find another.

Your weight. STOP stressing about it. Your dress wont fit, so unless you can get it panelled, again you may need to get another one.... if you dont want to then get your **** to the gym, change yor diet and work bloody hard at shifting that stone. Only YOU can do that and sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself wont help one iota.

The reason you are getting married is because you love each other..... end of.

Now you need to get a grip of this situation, and sort your **** out cos you aint got long.

The dress, and your ex friends and dad you cant do anything about and its too much stress for you to try this close to your wedding.
The cakemaker is over and done with - forget it
Your weight - i already told you what i think

Now put a smile on, have a cuddle with your intended and go sort it....

@J are the diet instructions on the tubs? iv been eating healthy for weeks and it dosent seam to be helping i do wii fit alot too lol x

hi bumble, i have to agree with the girls, there isn't much i can really add either,
your so called friends are not worth the effort, do you have any other friends, or family you could ask?

about your weight, if you are quite overweight you can ask the doctor for xenical diet tablet, they stop 50% of the fat you eat being absorbed into your body. although it is a short term solution, but it might help. i was 13 stone when i got it. you have to have a body mass index of over 30

if you cant find a dressmaker to alter your dress you could get one as cheap as £80 on ebay. they are still gorgeous.

i really hope you get everything sorted hun. BIG HUGS!
xx

What a pickle eh? :/
It sounds like you've got yourself in a situation that seems like a mountain to climb, which is making you quite depressed by the sounds of it?
My first port of call would be my G.P to get some mild anti depressants, as this will lift your mood and allow you to cope with all the other stuff.
Make a list of what needs doing. Tick off your Dad & your so called mates, as there is nothing that can change that ( not in 5 weeks anyways )
Personally I'd buy a new dress, beg steal & borrow, the sales are on at the moment, I'm sure in the next few weeks you could get one that fits you. You will kill yourself trying to lose a stone, which will in turn make you more miserable.
If you don't turn this around now, you won't enjoy your big day and that will have an impact on your new life as a wife, so get that list written, and get cracking!
Good Luck x x x

aw chic sending u big hugs not much more i can add either hope things get sorted out try chill out n relax xxxx

sending big hugs have a few days away from all the wedding lark and try to stay positive xxx

Great advise and I hope it all works out for you.xx Hugs xx

Aww hun im so happy for you! You definitely seem a lot brighter today which is great! And honesty is the best policy, it is a fantastic foundation for any relationship let alone one which you committing the rest of your life to, so well done both of you! Fingers crossed for the dress situation, you can do it with the right attitude, so you go girl...x x x

awww bless ya dresses r a nightmare and u can get a cake from marks they r really good thats what we r having and trimming it up our selfs and got some lovely tops 4 the cake i already have mine hugs hun

so glad ur happier today hunny xxx Keep ur chin up - your going to have an amazing day I'm sure hugs xx

yay thats fab news hun ..keep ur head held high xxx

thats great news chic good luck n keep ur chin up xx