ok so i get a text yesterday off the MIL2B saying shes comming round tomoz (today) with a massive essay like always n then says ill show u my new engagement ring i got last week! WTH a new engagement ring? hers broke over 10 years ago and now me and tom have got engaged she goes n gets herself a new one :s and shes been married for 25 years why does she even need one lol plus its my engagement party in 3 weeks i feel like shes trying to steal my limelite x

I don't think she's trying to steal your limelight - after all it's only a ring, and I think I'd want a new one if mine had broke as well. Maybe you getting engaged has triggered her to get one. Trust me, you don't have the worst MIL2B - at least she's talking to you and getting involved. We don't talk to mine (that includes my husband). In short, she drinks, is nasty, vindictive and a bully - wasn't even invited to our wedding (it was her there or me) - and has even told me she wished I'd die!! So you're MIL2B sounds like a saint compared to mine lol.

she is a total nightmare she has a 20 yr old son who thought it was ok to have my 9 year old brother hang around with him ad go on pitbikes round places when i asked him to stop he threatend me when i told my MIL2b she just said aww he doesnt mean any harm, totally give up with her

Guess there will always be some girls who have a typical MIL and won't get on with them- sounds like you're unfortunate enough to be one of them. You don't want it to ruin your wedding so you need to figure which things you can just let slide and which you need to put your foot down on and how you do it. You need to get H2B on side too, you don't want it causing rifts! Sounds like because you have bigger issues with her, even the little things are getting to you and driving you nuts! I'm sure she doesn't mean it and her son getting married is a huge deal so it's inevitable she'll want to be involved- however it's your wedding so you just need to make sure that you do things your way (but try to keep the peace!)
Maybe you could pick a couple of little things that you don't think are that important in the grand scheme of things (favours, invite styles or something) and put her in charge of those, that way she gets to be involved, feels like she's got control of something important, and you'll have more sway to put your foot down on the important things?
Best of luck with it anyway! Hope it all works out OK and just how you want it! xx

oh my god thats awful nasty cow

I'm lucky with mine, she's a bit nuts and seriously fiery but I know how to handle her and how not to piss her off. She's also been really helpful with wedding. Compared to you poor girls I'm seriously lucky!! x

sounds like something my mil2b would do definitley wrong timing for her to be getting a new engagement ring really sorry ur having a bad time with it she will look really daft if she tries stealing the limelight and i bet your h2b would be hacked off too xx