Ok, we have our venue but im starting to worry about the whole cost so was talking to h2b about maybe putting it together ourselves rather than paying more to have it all in one place and alot dun for us i.e. caterers, dj etc etc.... so finding a venue for ceremony or having church wedding which h2b would like as hes catholic anyway or registry office then finding somewhere to have wedding breakfast and evening reception.........

My friend and MOH had her 30th in a lovely Hall in Kew which is an old church and the hire charges are £40 per hour which is sooooooooooooo cheap!! so im wondering how much caterers cost roughly, djs etc etc and all them bits that would of been provided by our venue that i'd have to get myself?

Sorry if im not making any sense and well done to anyone who can actually understand me lol

i was lookin into caterers n found them very expensive where i live (isle of man) but there is only a few companies that do catering.. Id email around companies near you n find out what prices they give you...

The key question when having external caterers is have they got their own equipment? Some venues don't have enough cookers, fridge space etc and they have to bring in their own (it can be done). Find out what the venue has and work around that. You can shop around with a venue like a hall and get it loads cheaper than if you go to a hotel venue.

You would have to ring round and compare what exactly you are going to get for what price and then haggle like mad - it does work x

Im just having a total panic as like alot of you on here we're paying for the whole thing ourselves and with only h2b working, 2 kids and all the other household & car bills am worried it all might fall apart at last minute :(

We are paying for everything ourselves, so I know the pressure you're under chick. Try and sit down and work out roughly how much you can afford if you can, this will help ALOT!
You will always pay a premium at a hotel for all the little extras, so you will save money left right and centre on those things straight off if you have a hall and decorate it yourself. Catering varies, so try and get some quotes and compare the prices.
We have also saved alot by getting married later in the day and having a hot buffet rather than a full wedding breakfast, then later having bacon rolls for evening guests. If you're doing it yourself then you could put cold nibbles out at night, rather than a massive buffet. Gets several quotes for DJ's too as they all offer different things also.
It can be done babes, you just need to ditch the things you don't need, and cut back on the things you do!
Hope this helps xx