sorry to hear your feeling like this. at least you have been to the doctor.

how about you write your h2b a letter explaining everything? maybe that will be easier.

you hav a lot on...seminars, work and planning a wedding- no wonder you are stressed!!

maybe take a week off from the wedding. i know that is easier said than done but it may give you the rest you need and then the motivation to finish planning it when you re start xx

talk to H2B.

I get to feel like this on occasion - and I keep things bottled up and then one day it all explodes and me and H2B spend about 2 hours crying and just losing it - i always feel 100% better afterwards as he calms me down, but it would be nice if i didnt let it get to that in the first place and he keeps telling me he wished i talked to him when i feel down.

it a really horrible way to feel. You feel helpless and no one seems to understand.
(sorry am i being dumb whats cbt? )

why does your doctor not want to put you on antidepressents. i mean its not the answer for everything i understand but with the right guidance and the right people around you they can help.

Im sorry your feeling like this. I went through something similar end of last year. I found the best thing to do was to keep busy, arranged to meet my friends and pop to the pub now and then with h2b (just little things like that that helped keep me feeling sane!) As for telling h2b how you feel, just wait untill your ready, i'm sure he will understand exactly what you are trying to say and can help and support you more than he probably can now as he will know how you are feeling.

Big Hugs, hope you feel better soon xx

have you ever tried a health trainer? its run by the nhs its not just one thing they deal with they can help with all sorts! and the letter to the hubby is gr8 or if not a letter just jotting down things that are playing on your mind xx

Write it all down hun and then once its on paper you can either send it or keep it but it may help to have all your feelings down on paper in one place

As for lack of sleep have you tried all the usuals warm baths horlicks not eating to late or drinking to much caffeine

Hugs hun hope you feel better xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks hun oh and your point about weightloss I am still overweight according to my nurse and doctor so am still steadily loosing 1-2lbs per week. I'm trying to write this letter and nothing is happening! I haven't managed a single sentence that makes sense! I'll keep trying but maybe I'll feel better once my presentation is over with today :/

I do have a lot on I suppose but just can't seem to get my head straight :( I keep getting shooting pains above my left eye which make me want to just curl up and cry. I just want h2b to be here holding me safe while I sleep :( Sorry I know that sounds corny xx

I have just finished writing it up but feel really unsure of leaving it for h2b as I don't want him to think I'm loosing it again :( I want his help but don't want any pity from him xx

Rhiannonollie thank you so much! I am goin to stick it on his computer screen for when he gets back xxx

The thing is my Mum did a lot more on the run up to her wedding she had me a few months before getting married, lost the weight, planned her wedding, kept up her really tough self employed job... I just feel like I'm whining over nothing in comparison but it is starting to get on top of me :( xxx

here here jen!

I think women can be their own worst enemies sometimes, putting all this pressure on themselves and for what!!?

I hate the way media and modern society brain wash us all to want to be this 'perfect' thing! where in fact were all perfect as we are - stuff what the media or society says!!

grrr it gets me angry - no one should ever be made to feel crappy about themselves !

hope you get it all soughted but for now here's a hug from me

i had anti depressants both times after i had the boys, and in both pregnancies close family members died, i was 21 when i had mitchell & was on the anti depressants, and 22 with robert, so i dont think griff is to young to go on them should she need to and i havent got addicted to them

u had valid reasons tho! post natal n lose! the dr wont give it out 4 weddin/uni stress!

lol mrsfirth 2be don't get me wrong I don't want antidepressants it's just when one dr says i need them and the other says I'm too young i get a bit fed up. Oh and actually I have been sufferring with chronic depression since I was 13 got diagnosed when I was 17 and have been on off controlling it since. Drs have been well known to give out antidepressants to people with ui stress in fact at least 5 people (that i know of) on my course have been prescribed antidepressants whilst at uni as their depression was inhibiting their lifestyle whilst at uni.

I happen to know quite a lot about the subject in great detail which is why I discuss them because even though I would prefer not to take them, there are certain antidepressants when taken at low dose can help to bring the depression under control enough to help the patient control the rest through CBT. When I went to the specialist and not the GP they told me I should have a temporary dose prescribed, also they are not all addictive which is why certain drugs go in and out of fashion as addictive properties are discovered they become less commonly used.

I hope that doesn't sound really cruel but I find it quite upsetting that you have been quite flippant about my stressors and my life troubles when really not knowing me you can't give it the full personal context. Sorry if that offend but it is how you have made me feel and the comment in my opinion was quite hurtful. I don't want to fall out with anyone on here I love all the b2bs but I wont just lie back and let a hurtful comment go unnoticed. Everyone has a different level of tolerance for life's problems there is no one person who can act God in saying whether they are "valid" or not.

awwwww babe it sounds like your head is in a right old confuzzle no wonder your feeling down and want to sleep all the time...

write a letter or even over the course of the next week jot down random notes or words that you want to say to h2b when they come in to your head

have a week off from everything... uni holidays are coming up soon (i think as me sister is going home for 2 weeks unless shes bunking off) have a couple of days with h2b out the house go for a walk or something have a laugh and a joke be silly etc as laughter is brilliant for depression and really lifts moods...

remember through all the stresses, uni, planning your bday, wedding, weight loss , work etc ..... dont compare your self to any one else just because 1 person seems to handle all the pressure doesnt mean everyone can and i bet deep down inside i bet anyone who seems to be able to handle all that at once is very good at hiding stress

stress is perfectly normal and you just need to remeber the positives and to think happy thought once in a while and take time out every now and again and go have a laugh and remeber who you are away from stress and thoughts and stress and i promise you will feel better

my ex suffered with depression through stress for 5 years was on tablets from the doctor signed of work for 2 years so i kinda know how your feeling its hard to motivate but once your having a silly time everything is less black for a few days xxx

sorry if iam no help xxx

Sounds like you're feeling a bit better. Excellent!

I used to get very depressed as a teenager doing my A Levels - verging on suicidal - but these days I am a lot better. :-) I still have good days and bad days, but I have learnt how to manage my emotions, so it is so much easier! I am stronger and more balanced. I have had three courses of counselling, each 6 months to 1 year in length, with gaps. Core Process Psychotherapy. Psychodynamic Counselling. CAT. All were very good and I would recommend them as a solution if you're willing to take the journey. I see CBT as a short-term solution or as a way of providing people with some more tools to help themselves here and now. But personally, my problems were more than surface deep and that's what I needed.

Also should things worsen, do remember that the Samaritans are available 24/7 and they are confidential, nonjudgemental, trained telephone counsellors. You can speak to them when you are 'merely' distressed, not just suicidal, so don't worry about bothering them. They are free, just the price of a local call.

If your depression does continue, you may find that antidepressants do help you manage on an everyday basis. But personally I have never taken them, so can't comment. But I know people who felt they really helped them keep on an even keel when they were 'all over the place'. Of course you can discuss this with your doctor if you get to that point.

Hope you enjoy your birthday and the rest of your wedding planning. :-)

sorry griff? but am havin a blonde moment wat part of me tellin u to have have sum 'me' time ,natural remedies and talkin to ure h2b upset u? aint depressants like citalopram are addictive many patients that cum in get bad withdrawal synptoms etc if the doctor doesnt prescribe them for the patient! most have been on them for years (new guidelines ar ein now so what happen to the younger generation etc)

well u shud tell th eold ladie sthat have been on it for years that!

yes it works on the inbalance! so ure off them now? not takin an alternative? my mates mum has been in and out of pyschriatirc ward a few time slast year or so! she takes anti depressants but drinsk wiv them ( which doesnt help) she was doin really good but last weekend she feel backwards off her front steps and broke her neck and back shes still in hospital at mo! but we are really concerned as its a really lengthy recovery and you need to be strong mentallyt and physically! ( she also had a pacemaker fitted in middle of one of her admissions to the pysh unit and her daughter had to stay wiv her all time or she wudnt have it done

I was thinking of going to the GP and speak to him about anti-depressents, I just don't know now.. I don't want to be addicted or have horrible side affects. I haven't got a clue about them so sorry for my ignorance

mrs walker 2b.... i wud do if i ws u go for a chat , he mite start u on them and send u to a counsellor then at keast u be in rite frame of mind to get ureself phyically better!

ure an old mum these days lol am 28 wen i was at school the youngest was 13!! then after that they all started! aint there an on line help group? a community similar to this

yes am one a the few that aint had a baby yet!! however i aint fussed yet my mumn was 37 when she had me lol

awwwww, wat u trainin2 b? no we r waitin for after bd, but been on injection for about 5 years so thinkin comin off just b4 weddin to get it out of system etc! awww i hav a little nephew he make sme broody lol

yes megs finish trainin and get urself strong! lol my h2b keeps sayin names , silly 1's at that lol