Wedding Forum - I miss him.... :-(...

i miss how h2b used to be when we first got together.
i know the honeymoon period ends for everyone, but i miss how he used to lay stroking my hair and whispering he loved me and how beautiful i was, when he thought i was sleeping. i miss how he used to look at me as though i was his whole world and that he loved me and i could see the love and passion in his eyes, how he used to do the lil simple things for me,how he used to come sit talking to me or wash my bac while i was in the bath. i just want a lil bit of those flutterflies and feelings and passion back :-( x

That's just the honeymoon period in any relationship - tbh relationships change with deeper feelings and some of the "lesser" things seem unimportant to the h2b and you (different things obviously) its a case of sitting down and explaining what you miss and what you'd like and seeing if you can do that again now and then.

I used to sit on the floor while my h2b played with my hair - i've mentioned it to him and how i miss him playing with my hair, in return he's made more of an effort to stroke my hair, sometimes he even does it without realising. :)

its like they stop makin an effot :-( x

yerh he falls asleep early most nights :-( unless hes playin cod then hes up till late :@ x

We used to sit in the car and kiss for ages when I gave him a lift home - but now we live together we don't get to do things like that. I said this to him the other week and all he said (half joking) was that we don't have to do that now as we see each other ever day(?)

We still have the 'looks' though, like when we're out with other people but you're eyes lock - and he still plays with my hair and says I love you - and always falls asleep curled up cuddling me.

At least when the honeymoon period is over and they're still here (especially as we're planning weddings) - we all know it's for keeps. After all, when men feel comfortable and don't show as much affection it makes it easy for them (but they're happy) - do you really think they would want to start all over again anywhere else and have to start showing affection again - lol?

vamp's i did read :-)

well i as above tried talking to him, nothing.

so i txt him the following...
i miss you, i miss you watchin me sleep and stroking my hair, i miss you sayin how much you love me and how beautiful i am when im sleeping, i miss you looking at me with love and passion in your eyes i miss the feelin off feelin safe laid in your arms i miss the hugs that felt like you did them cause you wanted to not cause you felt obliged to i miss the kisses of randomness on my forehead i miss you and teh love you had for me.

that was a few days ago and................NOTHING , so last night i couldnt sleep and now im sat cryin with hurt disapointment sadness and lonliness.

i used to even get a txt message every morning that was waiting for me when i woke up sayin morning beautiful and now nothing, so ive tried two things and nohing i have 1 card left to play but its hurtfull and dont wanna have to throw it at him just to get him to realise, plus it will cause more hassle which i cant be bothered with.

i tell u what i love him and so wanna marry him but its times like this that make me realise why ppl cheat and get tempted to cheat we get now affection or attention and sometime sppl come along given us it and vice versa and wham it smacks u in face.

Didn't just want to read and run, sending you hugs xxx

Some things are bound to change but not that drastically.. We still have those moments now even living together and I don't see that changing. Its important to us both to keep that passion alive as we have both been divorced before and know that little things like this do build up resentment. Its important to have times when you are just a couple, not a parent or in our case grandparents (he is) and can honestly say that not one day goes by without us telling the other one how much we love each other and by making time to discuss our day. My advice would be to nip this in the bud now and talk to your other half so that you both know what things you value in your relationship.

Oh hon I understand what you are saying. I notice this beaviour with Mark when he has had a bad day/week at work. He is grumpy and just sits playing his xbox. Just recently I seem to be begging for attension or offering sex as a way of feeling loved. I told him that it seems like the only way i get cuddles, love and affection is when sex is promised. He tells me im being silly and we dont need to be joined at the hip every 5 min's. I said well thats impossible because your always watching football or playing on the xbox.

Only difference in this case is, Mark has never been romantic. I only get flowers when he is in th dog house and its very rear he takes me out. When he does its to the pub (which I hate) and he gets hammered and annoys me because I dont drink. I dont mind going for a meal then a few drinks then go home. Never have been a stay out person and after 5 years I would have though he wud have known that.

Anyway rant over. Just want you to know I know how you feel and your not the only one hugs huni.......