That's what H2b said to me this morning. He isn't excited about any of it and says he doesn't know if he will be excited on the day. He wanted to go to Vegas and get married their with our close family and no one else and at the moment because of how he is being about everything I wish we had just done that :'( If we were to scrap the things we have booked we would lose £1350 leaving us with £4650 to do a wedding in Vegas. I don't know what to do. I just want him to be happy and get excited with me.
What do you all think we should do? x
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
I think you both need to have a sit down and talk about what you both want out of the day and what it means to you. My H2B really wanted the small vegas thing too but my dad wont fly and I cant get married without him there so we agreed to do the big traditional thing near to home. It's all down to what you both want I'm sure as soon as he see's you walking down the aisle he'll be over joyed and vegas won't even be a thought on the day xx
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CommentAuthorsussie
to be honest. with 13months to go,my oh wasnt interested, but now it is. grooms tend to not be that bothered with that long to go.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I've felt like that myself sometimes...
Whilst I'm looking forward to the wedding, it does sometimes seem a bit 'all-consuming' and I do have moments where I am just looking forward to married life and things getting back to normal financially.
I think it would be a shame to miss out on what you want for your big day, and I agree that he will start getting more excited closer to the day.
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CommentAuthorMrsA-J
My otherhalf as just started to get interested. It took him ages to feel like its happening. Now its closers hes more involved...altho a while back he was TOO involved for my liking haha I think he will be fine closer. Altho i do think u shud sit down and tlk...maybe a wedding in vegas n a after party here? Xx
You both need to decide what it is you both want and what is most important to you. I'm the wrong person to ask about Vegas though as I'll always be biased towards it :)
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Ok as soon as I read the title and the first few lines I thought "This Groom is just nervous" and I still that is the case. Ok he might actually want a Las Vegas wedding and if this is the case isn't there room for a compromise here?
To cut a long story short I always wanted to get married at the church that was opposite my childhood home in Ireland. A few years ago I came to England to work and I met my Fiancé. Last May he proposed to me and I set about looking into our wedding. I contacted the church that was opposite my childhood home and they said they would get back to me. In the meantime my fiance's dad who is 77 years old finds out he needs an operation and he books a short trip to France but can't get travel insurance for health reasons. This makes me realise he might not be able to travel to Ireland for the wedding when the time comes so anyway I'm heartbroken. If I booked the church in Ireland he won't be there and I know in my heart that my fiancé really wants his dad there on our wedding day so I tell him we will book a church near where his dad lives and have a small wedding there then the following week have a party in Ireland. Put it this way I don't think I had seen him look happier :-) and even though I was gutted at the time when I couldn't have the church I wanted I knew it was the right thing to do and now I wouldn't change it for anything because A) with no sit down meal it's working out to be cheaper for us as our 100 party guests are evening only and the buffet plus ballroom hire is £900 in total and B) I effectively get 2 wedding days :-)
Yeah ok I know your groom wants to go to Las Vegas and yes it is further away therefore more expensive but if you guys come to a compromise where you both get a bit of what you want you could still come in within your budget. It is totally doable. So my advice would be to sit down and work something out and go from there. By the way if you are worried about wedding suit hire well we have found loads of companies who allow extra time for destination weddings.
CommentAuthorPB
My husband would have been happy to have just 'gone and done it somewhere' with a couple of witnesses in our jeans but now we have done it he admits it was the best day of his lifeand he wishes he could do it again and again lol! He started off 'doing it for me' because he knew i wanted the church,big dress etc etc but as time went on they became 'our plans' and he was as excited as me.I think with men they haven't been thinking about weddings their whole lives like us women, so it takes a bit of time to get their heads round it.Its like when i first started trying on dresses i felt really intimidated and wanted something plain,understated with no veil,tiara or flowers.However as i tried more and more dresses on in more and more dresses i relaxed and found myself becoming more open to differnet ideas,styles etc and ended up in a big dress with the full works! x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Mines the other way round, I can't get him to shut up, which isn't always the best either, our arguments go round that he has to have his way on everything and I haven't been getting a lot of say! X
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CommentAuthorJennyHeather
KelBel - It's like that with and H2B sometimes as well - NIGHTMARE!!!
Tatty - Sit down and have a good talk with him see what you both really want and try to come to some agreement, so he will be excited as well, but maybe he will be a lot more excited when it get's closer to the time.
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
Tatty your H2B will get interested the closer and closer you get to the wedding and he will get excited eventually the Ladies got me to realise that too I was disheartened H2B was not into wedding planning no wanna talk about it but they said you have 3 yrs to go enjoy being engaged and they said you will see soon enough your hubby will get into wedding planning with you o over everything with you but it will take time the B2Bs are right he is in and out of wedding planning ad wants to do it with me not talk about it when we are part me at uni he would rather talk about it with me by his side to show him Just Wait and See Hun your H2B will come around and =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I was just thinking if you decide not to do the Las Vegas thing how about a Las Vegas themed wedding here in the UK or a Vegas honeymoon instead? There's all sorts of ways to compromise here and that's a big thing in marriage, compromise :-)
CommentAuthorTatty
Thanks to everyone who replied! I think the Vegas for honeymoon idea is a good one, will have to mention that at some point! For now I'm just going to leave him to it! x
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
see i would tell you to just go but then i like LK got married out there ... she did in in Vegas itself while i went to the desert
i would think its because the wedding is too far away. If he is anything like my other half then it Will be only a few months before the wedding that he Will feel excited where as most women dream about it from being a child!
You do need to do what you both want to do and not others. Talk, reason, compromise if you have too, in the end thats what a happy marriage is about.
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I was going to suggest a Vegas honeymoon? My h2b did say when we first got engaged about going abroad, just a few select friends & close family & sometimes I wish we had of done that, but I just look at it as I don't care WHERE we get married, as long as we get married & I've left him to choose the honeymoon destination as I chose the venue xx
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