Wedding Forum - I just need to get this out...

Ok so ive not had the best of times lately (Not just with the wedding)

First of all we are waiting (For over three years) on my gran to go to the other world. She is 93 years old and is in tremendous pain and is suffering from Lung Cancer (they cant do anything for her but its not aggressive hugely due to her age as cells don't multiply as fast) she has dementia, osteoarthritis, has now been registered Blind and has hearing aid but is practically deaf. She relies hugely on my mum and uncle (Who still lives with her) I can see it getting to my mum and I feel awful for her but not only that my mum looks after Connor for us 2 full days a week so I can go to work and we can have a good life and I feel guilty about that she is my number one sitter so we don't ask her too much for extras over and above the two full days but Connor starts school next week so will have her days back to herself.

My dad has been in hospital 3 weekends out of four with pains in his tummy (He had bowel cancer 13 years ago and is convinced its back) he had an endoscope done last week which showed a gut bacteria and will need intensive antibiotics for at least 8 weeks (He also helps look after Connor 2 days a week as my mum goes to work at 4.30 and dad has him until I get in just after 6.30. We are hopeful that its nothing more sinister but he is waiting to go for a colonoscopy.

On Thursday night my SIL text Alan to say the boys (Alan's Nephews) will not be at the wedding this is down to the fact that the only other family room at our venue has been booked by one of my closest friends and the only other couple with a family invited to the wedding. SIL had 3 months notice before anyone else to book that room and was told there was only one other family room so if she wanted it she needed to book it asap 9This was in Nov 2013) April 204 she booked the family room well got my friends moved as it was her brothers wedding and there was 5 of them long story short the hotel had to call her to say the family wasn't available after my friends hubby went mental and old the hotel to put him back in the room he had booked.

In may SIL said she wouldn't be taking the boys to the wedding if she cant get the room so I said I would see if the friends would move but they wont move (That's their right they booked the room 2 days after they were told they could)
Now its SIL decision that the boys don't go but I feel like its my fault and they think ive not bothered trying to sort out the room situation and I have, they turned against me 2 years ago when I told me 2 yr old to hit his 4 yr old cousin back (That's another story).

Anyway the icing on the cake was today finind out the my BEST friend wont be at my hen weekend (Its her daughters 11 birthday during that week) but then I found out that only one of my closest best friend sis going to my hen weekend. I have decided that the ones that have made the effort to go not only to the hen weekend but have booked rooms for the night of the wedding knowing that they are probably only getting an evening invite will be getting an all day invite and my BEST friends will be getting an evening only invite. Its not just them not going to the hen weekend they exclude me from loads of things like they had a night in last night but never invited me I just feel im not good enough for them any more and my son is too old for themand their precious one year old princesses.

Oh gosh it feels so good getting that all of my chest sorry everyone

Well what a shitty time you've had. Your poor nan, hope she doesn't have to suffer much longer. I know it sounds cruel but if she's in pain it's horrid. Hope everything works out and I'm sure things will start to get better xx

You know where I am if you want a rant hun xxx

I know ive spoken to you about this on another thread, but sending hugs, its good to rant, we are here to listen (well read) and offer support, you are going through an awful time, time is a great healer im sure things will work out, if things are meant to be they will happen, more hugs xx

Im so sorry to hear all this. It sounds like you are having an awful time of it at the moment. Its always good to get stuff off your chest though. Big hugs! :( xx

Thanks I feel a bit better today :)

Oh dear, it does sound rough. I understand what you mean about your gran, it sounds like she needs to let go for her own sake. At least bowel cancer is generally quite treatable, I think they can usually just remove the part of the bowel that is affected. It's still not easy to go through though.

Your SIL was clearly given every chance to book the room for her family. Your H2B will have to stand by you and explain that it is not your fault. Can they not find another family room in another hotel nearby?