My fiancé wanted his rather to be best man, and my two brothers to be groomsmen which is fine.
My fiancés brother is gay and his partner had been with him for 7 years, Matt (my fiancé) asked him to be a a groomsmen too last year. They have just split up and they will not be getting back together but Matt only asked him as they were together, now we are stuck as to whether he will still think he is groomsman or not?
Don't know what to do?
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Are they still on speaking terms?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorChelseyfj
Yes they are just......lol
CommentAuthorChelseyfj
We get on with him well and don't mind hi, still being part of it, but I don't know if it will be awkward?
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
If they are both on speaking terms still then I would suggest keep it at that especially if you get on well with him as well. Seems a shame to have to turn round and tell him he is no longer part of it due to the break up.
If they are on speaking terms then I would just leave it as it is. If they are both a part of your lives then you want them both to be involved in your big day x
CommentAuthorChelseyfj
Yeah that's confirmed what I was thinking. Just thought there maybe some awkwardness.
Cheers :)
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
think if it was me as you get on with him anyway i would just have a quick word! make sure he is still happy to be involved. i only say this because he may be thinking exactly the same ! wondering if you will still want him? or if he even wants too? its a big deal he will be around the family he has just split from. just have a word even if it is just to let him know you would still like him to be art of it but that its his decision :)
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
als o just noticed your wedding is in 11 months alot can happen in that time what if he gets anew partner? the new partner may not accept him going without going with? just things to think about .
One BIG day will lead to lots of little happy days !!
CommentAuthorChelseyfj
Cheers, yep I thought if I asked he may feel obliged to say no, lol which I don't want.....and yes alot can happen in that time? And maybe he will have a new partner, matts brothers has already been on 2 dates with someone and he may have a partner and we may get to know him alot in the year and he may want to be involved its quite difficult....
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Ask the ex of h2b's bro if hes still comfortable doing usher duties, so long as you are, then your h2b's bro shoukd suck it uo! They probably wont be sat near each other I assume at the reception anyway?..
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorBecky1608
I would have a word with both of them.
Do you think you'll stay close to the ex now that they've split up as it could be awkward if you grow apart and then he's still a big part of the day?
I'd see how it goes for a couple of months and then address it xxx
29/09/2008 - The Day we met
12/11/2008 - When we decided to be more than friends
04/11/2012 - A proposal in Central Park NYC
08/11/2014 - The day we say I do!
