Wedding Forum - I felt violated...

So, my hen weekend came around and I was super excited to see what my moh had arranged, having asked her to surprise me. So on Friday, 5 of us go upto Nottingham, with another 4 joining after work. Got caught in traffic really badly and got their late, a room had been set up with bunting, cakes my moh had made, and party packs for us all. Lush!

A nice meal out, some drinks, and a rather drunk hen we make it back for day 2. Day 2 it's a knockout, absolutly fantastic, so much fun had by all. Go back to change for evening events... Go to a yacht club, and board a boat, in fancy dress. I am none the wiser that we are on a boat with 2 butlers in the buff. No problem, not my cup of tea, but ok, I'm here to have fun.

Butlers were really sleezy and forced themselves upon us, so much that half my group went to the opposite end of the boat to not be danced with, or have these men's groins thrust in their faces, or bodies. by these men. At this point, when it had been double ended as such, my moh then got jumped on quite literally. I had a very blurry picture of her, and popped it on Facebook. I did not tag her in it, but showed her it, whilst I was writing it, for her approval, to which she laughed and said no more, with the comment pay backs a ****, love you. I meant it in a fun, and friendly way, as she had already done something I wasn't happy with. I told her I didn't want strippers. She mentioned to me later in the evening that she had told the guys to show me up, to get payback for the Facebook post, which by this point I had already taken down, as I realised she was worried about it, even though the picture was unrecognisable, and had no tags. Then comes the "full Monty" show.

A show you say, well that's what we thought until I had a naked man sat on my lap, grabbing my hands and simulating me master bating him, by grabbing my hands and putting them there. He had white lotion dribbled on his body, and then parades his **** right up at my face. I have never felt so violated. Uncomfortable and horrified by anything like this. I had everyone in teh audience watching me, and the looks of horror was all I could see. I froze, and broke into tears afterwards when we left said yboat.

My moh has now distanced herself, and afterwards in a club she disappeared with another friend and couldn't be found for an hour or so, at this point I had pulled myself together with the help of my friends who were mortified and disgusted with what I was forced to do. Ive said to her I don't hold

My moh since has been very distant, and this morning, and car journey home has been awkward. Any excuse to not be around me, and head out with my other friend. My other friends have been asking if we have fallen out as she, and other friend are not themselves. I don't know what I have done. To be honest I'm feeling so violated, I've been in tears a lot, and I'm struggling with it, I hated it! But I hate even more so that I don't understand why my moh is being the way she is, I said to her after breakfast I felt tension between us and didn't know why, as I don't blame her for what happened. She said she didn't know the show involved me to that extreme, and that if she had of realised I felt that awkward she would have pulled me out.

I'm distrought, and I don't know what to do. The venue did not ask me if I was ok with any of this prior to the show, and I just feel disgusting....

What do I do I with my moh? My partner has now said he doesn't want to go away with her in two weeks with moh and friend, plus other friends due to how she and other friend has treated me this last day or so

Help please...

;-(

I'll be honest I think it sounds like a lot of drunken misunderstandings.

I'm sure your MOH never realised how bad the show was going to be either and just thought it would be a bit of a laugh, to get you embarrassed by having you involved. My friend has been dragged up on stage at a similar show before, but it was nothing disgusting like that, just a half naked man dancing and her not knowing where to look. That to me is a bit of a laugh, it embarrasses whoever is on stage but they can laugh about it after, what happened to you sounds awful and I can see why you are upset.

I think your MOH is probably upset about the picture and also upset that you got upset. I think the main problem here with how she's now being with you is that everyone had a little too much to drink when all this was going on :(

I hope you can get it sorted

Personally I'd've walked out and gone home! That is disgraceful and I feel for you... She probably is feeling guilty about it but really should come to you and outright apologise! I don't think I could bring myself to speak to her again, I'd be mortified, humiliated and never ever trust her again xxx

That's horrible; I would have felt horrible as well. Maybe it was a misunderstanding or something on your moh's part; I think you should both sit down and have a good talk about it and how it made you feel then go from there :S