Wedding Forum - I feel like my wedding isnt going to be...

I was so excited about planning and booking our church wedding, as we are paying for it ourselfs we are in a very tight budget, one of my friends is getting married next year and its no expence spared as her parents are paying for it, every time I mention some of my ideas, they just dont seem good enough this is supposed to be such an exciting time but I feel so deflated

You must stop feeling like this. A wedding isn't about out doing someone else or showing off, it's about a commitment you make to the love of your life. There is plenty you can do on a budget to make your wedding special. I found that buying little bits and bobs over the 2 years of planning helped with my budget. There were things that I changed my mind about and sold on but there are things now that I'm finding and really happy about. You will get lots of tips and ideas from the ladies on here. I think most of my ideas have come from this site. Try to cheer up about it all, we all feel like we're not doing enough but most of the expensive elements are barely noticed by your guests, it's how you make them feel on the day.

I feel exactly the same. We're on a tight budget but have friends and relatives who have had or are having extravagant weddings funded by their families. Every time we have mentioned our ideas to people though they have been really excited and said it will make a change from going to a hotel packaged wedding. (Our reception will be in a village hall) There are lads of hints you can do to make your wedding look amazing on a budget as I have found! No one that matters will be judging your wedding anyway..your friends and family will just be happy to be there and to be a part of your day! X

Thanx guys, just very mixed emotions I know its gonna be special to us, just want everyone to feel the same, xx

They will... Those that matter will be there to support you and be happy with whatever u decide to do....


Have some flowers to cheer u up x.

My BM got married last year and her budget was a lot less than ours and I look at her day and think she did a brilliant job. Like you she did lots of homemade touches, she had it in a village hall, had a thai buffet, did a few cash & carry runs for booze and basically gave all her guests the best day and night ever. Your friend might actually be a bit peeved at all your wonderful ideas and the fact that you are doing it within your budget. How nice will it be once you are married with great memories of family, friends and fun and knowing that you are not starting your marriage in debt up to your eyeballs, oh and you did it yourselves. I love homemade touches and I'm always jealous of people who are creative. I surprised myself by making my own brooch bouquet but other creative touches I've tried haven't been so successful. You are going to have a lovely day, I would love fudge favours. You can't go wrong.

No pic but 3 generations have been married there and we all were christened there including my son and family buried there so very special to me

Ahh that's lovely, my grandad is buried in the cemetery of our church so I plan to give him a little wave on the way in...
Have u any other ideas planned? X

Excellent let you imagination run wild..

Every wedding day is different and I think everyone feels a little jealous over something that somebody else does differently on their day,it's all part of being individual and different and unique! I've seen ppl spend £30,000+ on their days and also ppl spend less than £5k and both days have been beautiful,which made me wonder why spend £30k when u can do so much for under £5k.... Ours would cost a lot less than it is doing except our venue has a £4k hire fee before anything else, but I can assure u on any budget ur day will be fab and you'll love it,so what if someone else is spending loads if ur with the Man U love it doesn't matter!x

Sod your friends wedding.....you have a rock band!!!! :-)

H2B's niece spent near on £15k on her wedding and I didn't think it was particularly special at all.. IMO her dress was nowhere near worth £1500, all of the guys suits were too tight pulling at the buttons, the photographers professional photo's had no wow factor, their centre pieces look tacky, the helium balloons collapsed because the reception room was boiling hot cause the radiators were on in August, their cake wasn't anything special and melted cause of the heat and cause the staff put in next to the window, you could smell the toilets from where we were eating...
Believe me, a big budget does not mean a good wedding.. Their venue was one of the most expensive around where we live and as you can read, it was really poor..

Your wedding is going to be everything YOU want.. And thats the most important thing.. Don't try and impress everyone else like it sounds like she is.. Just be yourselves, plan it around your personalities and everyone will love it xxx

FWHD for short

PS laura your wedding sounds lovely. (sorry your thread and i forget to write my comment for you first lol... where's lala when you need a slap?)

Just remember however small your wedding is, your wedding is personal to you. Yes it would be nice to have a string quartet and 100 doves and a grand old manor with a firework display. But what you're doing with your DIY is not making "things" but creating little different ways to show your personality and make it your own. Anything you make... no-one else is going to have that exact same item for their wedding are they? your wedding is unique and that in itself is "Grand"

xx

LOL

I was given that nick by Mrsrichardsontobe on the "sneaky bridesmaid" thread :-)

hmmm well you didn't give it to yourself so that's a start....

I still like Fluffy-Wedding-Helper-Dude tho

well FWHD i do like it :P:P:P:P

I think your plans sound fab hun and it'll definitely be more intimate and more personal! Forget what people think of your ideas, as long as you're happy with them, that's what matters! Your friend might be spending more but it's not about the £££, it's about putting your personal stamp on the day and the things involved and having the time of your lives. xxx

lol!

The bottom line is, anyone can throw wads of cash at a wedding. it's how they use it, and what happens is the key. You can have the most lavish wedding in the world, but would you and your guests really enjoy it? I'm thinking the answer would be 'no', and you would all feel right out of your comfort zone. ;o)
it's your wedding, your day. Enjoy it when it comes!

I think that the smaller DIY weddings are more intimate , you can really play on the personal details and that is what makes a day special. Get your friends and family involved and enjoy the process of making the details together - I am sure it will be stunning and as long as you and your H2B are happily married that's all that matters - enjoy xx

My grandparents were married on £18! In London!

OK so that was MANY MANY MANY moons ago.... but they got married in a registry office, had two witnesses that they took off the street and didnt actually know, and took themselves to the local "Pie & Mash Shop" bought one meal and shared it! To this day they (despite living in Cambs) still order pie & mash from that shop, they order it and have it delivered frozen, fill their freezer and when it gets low, they order again!

The had their Golden Wedding Anniversary last year! They are very ill, however they couldn't be happier! They are the couple that can barely walk, that sit on a park bench holding hands and watch the world pass them by! They are the couple that you cant help but silently say "awwww how cute, can we be like that when we are old and wrinkly like them?" to your partner.

So to be THAT happy when your most of the way through your married life.... yes its worth more money than anyone would earn in their life time, however, it doesnt COST that much!

We dont have a budget, we are not loaded with money (hes the only one that works due to my ill health & hes only on NMW), I am making everything possible, have got maxi dresses for BM's(£5.49e), they are paying for their own shoes, our boys will wear school shoes, schools trousers, school shirts and will only need jackets, i found the favours i want & am making them myself (found them for £29 making them for £6.95), i have made all the stationery etc. I have a thread "It's been a long ol' journey" (many of us do have threads, these are our wedding diaries, check some of them out, they will include pictures and some even tutorials of how to make certain things at a fraction of the cost, they include all of the bargain we have found, seriously check some of them out, its well worth it!

And remember, Don't try to be someone you are not, don't aim to spend stupid amounts on one day then be in debt and feel bad about it later..... just think about how happy you could be around your golden wedding anniversary!

woooooowww!!! Stop! this is YOUR wedding. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks about your day only you and your h2b. I've been to a few weddings where its not my 'taste' however you can see that the day reflected them and that's exactly how it should be, a reflection of the both of you. If any of my friends ever reacted like that to me then I would seriously have to question our friendship. Yes money is great to have what you want but sometimes the more money you have the less impersonal it can become. I have a budget as do most of the brides on here and pretty much everything is handmade by me and my friends. PLease please don't let people dictate to you what is good or not good for your wedding.

You have everyones support on here and we all love a handmade wedding xxx

Your church is beautiful! The most important thing is that you're getting married to your 'one' and in my eyes, there's nothing more beautiful than that.

I'm a budget bride and i'm also going to try and make most things... Even if i have the money though, i'd still probably make my own things, i just think it adds more personality xxx