So it's a long story but ill ry to cut it short. Two of my best friends from school who are my bridesmaids offered to arrange my hen Do for me, they have been brilliant and want to keep it all a complete surprise for me. They have even made it so everyone pays slightly more to cover the cost of me to go which is lovely. Now they have put a lot of time and effort into organising this and getting in touch with everyone to ask who is interested in coming, this can be a nightmare as I'm sure you'll understand having to constantly chase people up all the time. So they arrange where we were going to stand and what we were going to all do and tel the people know that had confirm,ed they wanted to come. Now before they booked anything, they double checked that everyone was stiLl defo in, on 3 different occasions to which they said they were. They were all aware of prices etc so one of the bridesmaids Sarah booked it all for everyone and paid on her credit card. Everyone apart from two people emily and Amy had paid her back after a couple of weeks, so Sarah text Emily and Amy just asking when they would be able to get the. Money to her as her credit are statements had come through. Emily replied that she wouldn't be able to come now as things have come up that she has to pay for. Obviously my bridesmaids are fuming as they have paid out of their own money and they made a point of checking everyone was still up for it so many times before booking anything! Then she got hold of Amy who said the same thing, so Sarah is now down by £150! Which is not fair! I'm so angry that my so called friends would do this to other friends that are trying to hard to make a nice weekend for everyone. And now I've had to e brough into the situation to try and sort things out and make sure Sarah gets her money back, so mow I'm having to be told things that were meant to be a surprise for me! :( Emily or Amy armt replying to anyone's texts or calls, to try to sort this out, or even pay back the money in instalments if they can't afford it now. The annoying this is on twitter, Emily even put how she had been shopping and posted a picture of a new Michael kors watch and ted baker handbag!! And how she it getting tickets to a show, but she said she can't afford to come on my hen do! I'm disparate to get the money back from them both for Sarah but don't know how if they are ignoring everyone! I feel like going and knocking on their doors with Sarah's credit card bill. Please help its getting stressful now and me and the bridesmaids have better things to be dealing with! Thanks in advance Xx
CommentAuthorAbbieB56
Arranged where we are going to stay*
Sorry about mistakes I'm typing quickly :/
CommentAuthorAmyK
Aww Hun, that's not fair on your BMs or you... If a knock on their doors is what I takes, then maybe it has got to be done, although evn if the non-payers do come along there is the potential for tension between your different groups of friends. But it is deffo NOT ON for them to say yes three times, then no when its too late, then claim poverty when they're splashing out on treats - not essentials - but frivolous treats, instead of putting your friendship first. Is there anyone else you can invite in their places?
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I would see if there is anyone else that can go in there place if you can't get the money back.
Did the non- payers know it was going to be booked when then they confirmed? This worried me, too, so we collected the money before we booked.
They are behaving awfully, and it needs to be pointed out that they said they could come and now owe your bms the money, end of story.
Hope it gets sorted Hun xx
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CommentAuthornadia13
Oh that's so out of order, I really hope u sort it... As Amyk says is there any1 else u could invite instead?? X
Oh no!!! that is pretty rude of them tbh! Is there anyone who can fill their space? They should be paying out especially as your bms have paid on their behalf and are now out of pocket!
Ive had this issue i double checked and checked again that everyone was coming before i out down deposits then surprise surprise when it came to collecting everyones money (£40) i had 10 people drop out so now ive got to make up the costs myself which im pretty miffed about and theye the same on fb posting piccies of things theyve brought and tickets too!!
CommentAuthorBobsi
Aww Hun that's awful. I'd uninvited them from the wedding just to make a point but that's just me.
try and invite other people as well as trying to get the money back form them, just to cover all your bases. turn up at their houses that way they can't avoid you.
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CommentAuthorGillianE
how awful, i would go and knock on their door and ask for the money either in full or instalments, they are totally out of order and they need to know just how awful they have been. As previously suggested i would also tell them they are not invited to the wedding.
Can you get someone else to take their place instead so at least your pulling back in some of the money if your friends are adamant they are not going to pay.
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CommentAuthorsarah
This is pretty standard for these kinds of events. I agree with others that the best course of action would be to find someone that can replace them on this trip. Otherwise lesson learned, next time collect the money or a hefty deposit before anything is paid.
CommentAuthorAbbieB56
Everyone I wanted to come was invited initially this is the problem. And their our friends we didn't think a deposit would be needed as we checked so many times with them and trusted them, can't believe they ave done this! They will definitely not be invited to the wedding now. Thanks for all the suggestions. Just need to find a way to make them pay their share.
CommentAuthorbrilly
I would pull them face to face hun and just explain they were asked numerous times to make sure and they all agreed they were going so therefore owe Sarah £75 each especially if one of them can afford ted baker etc. Its not on the fact Sarah has gone out of her way to do something nice and they have let her down does Sarah know the 2 of them well? if so she wants to demand they pay her back what they owe as they had plenty of chances to say they wernt coming x
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CommentAuthorMichelleB2b
That's awful. I don't know if they really want to go to these extremes, but if they have email evidence of these two saying definitely yes, then maybe they could be taken to the small claims court? Not what you really want to happen, but it might be a way to get it back. Or tell them you will do that and it might scare them enough to pay. I hope you manage to find two people to replace them as the others have suggested as that would be the best option by far. And I hope that neither of these girls are invited to the wedding anymore! x
CommentAuthorKatya
me personally i would make them pay & get others to take their place. When they refuse to pay... I would take the bag as payment and sell it on! but thats just me.... cant do you for theiving as really this sarah woman paid for the bag cos the woman didnt pay for the trip... if thats makes sense...
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
Yes i agree with the other girls, tell them they dont have a choice and call them on bying new stuff despite having the money! And see if theres anyone else who can take their places xxx
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
The small white lies about the small claims court could be a good plan, just to scare them a bit like Michelle said! Do this face to face not by phone or txt where they can hide behind their phones x
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CommentAuthorAbbieB56
Such a good idea, might have to say about the small claims court. Ill let you all know how it goes. It's just really stressful :( and makes me feel rubbish that my own friends have dropped out of my hen do when I'm the first out of all of my friends to get married and they would rather buy new handbags then celebrate with me :( x
CommentAuthornadia13
It is very unfair of them, as close friends they should put ur hen do 1st as its been planned 4 ages!!! X I feel 4 ya Huns x
