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    • ocean
      CommentAuthorocean
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    Oh Ladies, and Gents i feel so sorry for my h2b right at this moment. Its 11 weeks on Saturday until the big day and Yesterday, via a text message my h2b's best man, a friend from school, sent a text message saying that he no longer wants to be best man "because his heads fucked".

    My h2b is shell shocked and gutted as he doesn't understand what the hell is going on with his mate for him to turn down the duties. He is also worried that he is ill or their friendship has ended but for no reason as far as he is concerned.

    My h2b only has a select few friends and we found it difficult enough to pick ushers! We still need two ushers so we've decided to keep them as ushers and try to decide on a small selection of who's left that would fit the bill.

    I'm just worried that with their only being 11 weeks to go, people might say no :(
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    • GemmaR81
      CommentAuthorGemmaR81
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    That's awful. Hope your h2b is ok. Did his friend give any more of a reason? Maybe give the friend a day or two then suggest maybe going for a drink and see if things can get sorted. If he still says no, then maybe worth one of the ushers stepping up and getting another usher. I am sure that people would jump at the chance of being part of your special day. Hope it gets sorted keep us updated xxx




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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    • ocean
      CommentAuthorocean
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    yeah i know, he's flabbergasted and doesn't really know where he stands, with the wedding and friendship. He did message him and ask if the friend wanted to talk about it and the reply h2b got was a plain No. :-/

    I'm sure the person h2b has in mind for best man will jump at the opportunity.
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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    Give it a few days I know you mention he asked if he wanted to talk but maybe it's too soon for whatever is going on with the friend .
    Even if it is something that can be resolved think maybe asking the other person maybe a saver option :)

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    Maybe the bestman has something going on in his life and feels hes not able to do the job. There could be a million and one reasons why hes decided its not for him but I think its best if your oh goes and has a chat with him either way.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 9th 2014
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    It sounds like there might be something wrong with H2B's friend, with a text like that. Maybe he'd have a drink with your H2B if he promises not to discuss the wedding, and says he's worried for him. As for best man, I'm sure it wouldn't be difficult to fill the role if you're asking someone who is already coming to the wedding. Alternatively you could promote both ushers and share both roles between them.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2014
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    tbh i would send a message as follows

    Hiya mate,
    after getting your txt im really worried about you,you said you dont want to talk about it ,just wanted to let you know what ever it is im here for you buddy .. dont give wedding a second thought,just let me know if anything i can do

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2014
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    then give him a week or so before asking some one else to step in

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    • AmandaK74
      CommentAuthorAmandaK74
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2014
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    lala

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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 11th 2014
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    Maybe he's freaking out over something such as best man's speech??? What Lala has said I think is spot on. x

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 11th 2014
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    Lala's sounds good, there must be something underlying this, especially if it's so out of the blue x

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    • *The NewMrsMalin*
      CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 11th 2014
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    Yeah I agree that there must be an underying cause; talk to him and see what it is but don't push him as if there is something wrong then he might shut down more :S Hope you get it sorted :)

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