Wedding Forum - I am fuming, really don't know what to do...

So a few weeks ago, I was really upset by h2b as I am at the moment off sick for stress, conditions at work really hard, and my dad announced he wouldn't come to wedding, was waiting for grievance meeting for work to be set up, and h2b comes back home from work, starts moaning, I ask him for help and he just starts kicking off, so me very upset put a post on facebook about him being totally unfair and unsupportive, and then his cousin starts commenting and his sister as well, she says I should keep these things private. Fair enough I remove the post, and all is good now until today, all happy to maybe have found the venue I really want. MIL2B texts H2B saying she needs to talk to him. after about 20/30 min chat (in another room) he comes back to me and says we need to talk (you know the "I need to talk to you") basically she is wondering if he's making the right decision in marrying as apparently I keep constantly on facebook and in real slagging him off, and his uncle (father of cousin who talks to me on facebook) gave her a message for Gary that he will not in any way attend our wedding as he thinks Gary is making a big mistake in marrying me, and another uncle said something similar. So here I am wondering if we cancel everything because if those two uncles won't come one of them is his godfather, then it lowers our guest list of at least 15 people if not more basically just his dad side will come, and his mum. and also I don't know if I can be married to someone whose family does not approve of me, and will not be invited to family Dos. I am devastated they ruined one of the happiest day of my life, as the venue I just visited really felt like the one, I had a vision of me and our family there for our wedding.

At the end of the day hun, its yours and your H2Bs decision to be together - not his families.. I would definitely have a heart to heart with your h2b and clear the air over a few things, and maybe limit what you put on facebook from now on! People read things very wrong sometimes and it causes a lot of unnecessary heartache!

Keep your chin up hun... things will get better! xxx

oh hun sorry to hear it have a sit down and good chat with ur H2B and clear the air and see how he feel about what his family are saying then see if u can have coffee and chat with his family to proove how lovely u are and that they did read things all wrong
I hope u get it all sorted

Thanks girls, I have spent over 2 hours last night talking to h2b who really really loves me no matter what they say he still wants to get married, he will call both uncles tonight to clear things out, and I will have a chat with his mum, his sister called us last night after her mum told her what she told h2b she was absolutely outraged, and totally support us. I will need a chat with his cousin, as I think she has played a role in relating some things said on facebook. I am stopping posting on facebook when I am upset, as now you can't be too careful it is all so childish and being due back to work tomorrow, I know I can't I just called to book appointment with gp as I know it will make me worse to go back to work without sorting things out with MIL2B

I would have a good chat with your H2B and see how he feels about you writing stuff on facebook. I know I write thinks that annoy me but I have a dairy so no one eles can see it. I do think sometime people just get carried away in the moment. But its not for his family to decide what your H2B should do it between the two of you.

OMG im forever slaggin my h2b off on facebook lol he annoys me i vent on facebook if anyone other than him said anything i would tell them to mind there own buisness including his family, only he ever says anything to me and i tell him if he dunt like it dont read and i deleted him of my friends haha x

ignore them u dont need there aproval what u and he wants is what counts.

my only concern is what your h2b said to his witch of a mother????

if he said anythink other than shut up mind your own buisness i love her she loves me i dont care what u lot think and i dontcare if you all dont come as long as she's there and im there then im 1000% happy and put phone down then i think id be seriousley havin words with him, and sorting it one way or another x

good luck hope u sort things out x

well he didn't tell her to shut up, because she was drunk and he will have a chat with her to tell her he knows I'm the one and we truly love each other and we're getting married anyways, but I think I need a 1-2-1 with MIL2B as soon as possible in person preferably, I am actually thinking of inviting them other for dinner on a Sunday and in that case I'll have a chat. It's true we've had our ups and downs, but its not a reason to think I'm trash and not good enough for him. Now H2B and I agreed I will not post anything on facebook when I'm upset or I'll do it in French slang so they would not understand and show them all that we love each other by still getting married on same date. and we will send invites to everybody as planned, too bad if they don't come we know we'll have the people who truly matter and who love us

Facebook is for talking about your life and if something bugs you then you should be able to vent! It's silly that something so small has been blown out of proportion like that, you shouldn't have to give up your ability to vent.. But you can always vent on hear, we have open ears! = )

I really hope your mil2b was just having an off day and took it out on you, after all nobody truly knows what goes on in a relationship except the people in it. Some relationships look perfect from the outside but are awful for the people in them, others are the opposite and most have those moments when you want to rant and rave about the other person but at the end of the day you know that you couldn't live without them! The reason we get so angry and rant about our h2bs is because we love them so much that we do get a bit over the top and we know that no matter how crazy mad we get they'll always be there to calm us down! Don't worry about your in laws, you know you're perfect together and in time they'll see that too, I just hope they realise in time for your wedding or they'll regret missing it = ) xxx

yay go h2b :-D X $crew mil2b the biatch x

maybe tell them all how you feel and put the date back. maybe then they will realise how upset you are and things can carry on as normal! families will always side with their own, so dont bother fighting a losing battle! just tell them how you feel and see whats said. people say things that they dont mean when they are upset about something, so see whats said once you asll have a talk and go from there x

H2B don't want to change the date, and I don't either, can't postpone much anyway and if they are not happy now they won't be happy in a couple of years, so f*** them, it is H2B and My DAY

I am sure MIL2B will come and as soon as we can I will have a chat with her because I can't forget and forgive just like this. Her other daughter who is my friend and a bridesmaid was so upset at her mum last night so thanks to her I might be able to talk better and make her understand I love her son, and he loves me and she'd better accept it.