I thought I would use the opportunity as Dee asked me to become a member to ask your opinions on a long standing debate we are having.... I want us to have a pre-wedding photo shoot at our venue, the grounds and in the tunnels, 2 hours before the wedding. To me it makes sense as later on it will be full of guests, knowing Dee she will most likely have cried during the ceremony so she will be worrying what her make up looks like for photos after the ceremony .....however Dee doesn't want me to see her or her dress until she walks down the aisle. Dee is camera shy so not sure if it is the fact she doesn't want the photo's or that she really is that concerned about me seeing the dress before the wedding. Please help.
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
How about extending the wedding day and having photos the next day, she gets to wear the dress again and you still get the surprise of seeing her in the dress for the first time at the service???
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i wouldnt want my h2b seeing me before the wedding so i understand where she is coming from.
why do you want it on the morning?
CommentAuthormrs handforth
it sounds nice but arnt u going by tradition bynot seeing herbefore wedding?
CommentAuthorlinzi
no no no!!!! yes it makes perfect sense. You get time to get good photos. BUT NO! one of the most important things to us is seeing your face the first time you look at us when we walk up the aisle. its what we dream about as little girls, walking up the aisle towards the love of our life. So being super organised and doing photos before would ruin it
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CommentAuthorlinzi
and in your photos you wont actually be married?
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I agree. If you are going to have a pre shoot to help you feel more relaxed with your photographer then have it the week or a few days before hand. If you want photos in your wedding outfits etc then do it the day after or something? Every bride gets emotional on their day but waterproof mascara etc can work wonders. Dee can always get a little make up bag to top up if need be.
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Pre Wedding shoot is a no no for me im a traditionalist im afraid - but I like the idea of another day of wearing my dress :D
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CommentAuthorMr Stevie-Dee
Yes that could have been an option only the photographer would not be available on the Sunday and we are having a Cornish cream tea party the day after.
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I dont want my H2B seeing me the day before the wedding at all, never mind in the dress .... It will be tricky as we will both be in the same hotel. I will have to hide in my room lol...
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
NO NO NO! Sorry you cant see her before the wedding to have pictures done. She can always have her make up touched up by herself or one of her bms.
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CommentAuthorMr Stevie-Dee
Where did all the replies come from? Sorry I am a bit slow at replying. My reply was to the day after. I understand the surprise element. I think! Am I being too practical?
CommentAuthorFreyFreyMrs.Carney2B
No to seeing her in her dress- have one the next day! Nice to see another man on here!!!
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
We are having Pre Wedding pics.. but thats 6 weeks B4 the wedding! There is No way i would even consider having Pre Wedding Pics on the day...
There is no way he is seeing me till i walk fown that Aisle..
CommentAuthorMr Stevie-Dee
I thought it was just Dee that took forever to get ready. (-: I was thinking that as someone else was doing her hair and make up she would have more spare time, or am I being super dumb? I think I will have to invest in a different photographer and hair/make up for the Monday so we both get our way. Though I'm sure I will still have to pick my jaw up off the floor whether I see her at the aisle or before.
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I agree, I wouldn't want pre wedding pics on the day, weeks before hand or even days, yes - but the first time I want Ross to see me in my dress is walking down the aisle...
CommentAuthortilomilo
how long do you have after the ceremony before the wedding breakfast, and then after the wedding breakfast before your evening guests arrive, couldnt you both sneak off with your photographer for an hour or two and have some pics taken then!
our co-ordinator at the venue has organised it so we will have an hour after the ceremony to have some pics, which will prob be of all the guests and us, then we have our sit down meal about til about 5 at the max, and then the evening reception doesnt start til 7, so hoping we can have some pics of us taken then around the venue.
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CommentAuthorMr Stevie-Dee
I am not exactly sure of the timings but I believe the guests will arrive at the venue before us. I think we need to have another talk with our photographer to see what can be done or get a different one to do a shoot on the Monday.
Thanx ladies for all your advice. Much appreciated! Cheers
CommentAuthorMcDonnell Images
We do a "Cherish The Dress" shoot, which is sometime after the wedding. It basically involves getting dressed up again and going to either a studio, or back to the venue. I would recommend that. Good luck with it all. Andy
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
no you can't do that steve. She needs time to get ready and be calm before she walks down the aisle and the surprise of her dress and how she looks must be as she walks into the room with her guests there and you waiting for her. It won't feel special for dee otherwise. And as for not wanting photos at all that won't be true despite how shy as she will def want treasured memories of your big day AFTER you are both hitched not before!!!!!
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CommentAuthorcharlotteverity
no you cant see the dress before you get married. she will need to to get ready and relax before she walks down the aisle. x
CommentAuthormrssidders2b
Mr Stevie Dee - normally pre-nup photo shoots are taken weeks or days before and does not involve you wearing what you're going to wear on your wedding day. But if you want it to seem like it was taken the same day... sorry but you might have to re-book that another day after the wedding. The most magical moment is when the groom turns to look at his bride walking down the aisle and realises how beautiful she is on her wedding dress.. it will just ruin it if you see her first to have your photo shoot. I'm sure she'll feel more confident, happy and relaxed if you do your photo shoot after the wedding cos she won't have the worries and nerves anymore which she'd be feeling on your wedding day.
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CommentAuthork
big no no, us girls want to walk down the ailse and look at out future hubbs face when he sees it with everyone around, do it after the big day, would be so much better and you will both be more relaxed xxx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
so after reading all the way through this thread i think i`m safe in saying that that the collective answer to you question is a big super fat .......
i wouldnt want my h2b to see the dress before the big entrance, i think that would spoil the overall affect, perhaps like Hails says, have them the day after then it wont spoil the moment :) x
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
it would be like opening you presents the day before christmas ..rewrapping them to then fake surprse on christmas day
for your guests it the moment that they see your face as you see your bride for the first time ...
It's a lovely idea stevie but i really wouldn't want my h2b to see me in my dress before the ceremony. The thing I am most looking forward to is seeing my h2b at the end of that aisle who will see me for the first time that day. I can't wait to see his face!! And I would need all the time I could have in the morning to get ready as I am getting married at one and it will take 4 hrs for my hair and make up artist to make me look pretty!
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CommentAuthorVicky
I dont know i wouldnt mind H2B seeing my dress, but it would depend on how much time you actually have before the service to get ready.. Make up can be touched up if she does cry. Overall I think I would chose a completly different day to dress up again and get the photos
CommentAuthorRags
Argument over, say sorry you were wrong Mr Stevie Dee, Dee is right you can't see her in the dress before the big moment.
You are just gonna have to settle for the shots on the day or arrange another day for her to get made up and have a super special day of just the 2 of you being photographed from every concievable angle.
It is so sweet of you to want to get the venue shots of the 2 of you and to be thinking of her and her make up etc.
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Sorry Mr s I totally agree with everyone else lol After the day yes of course but before NOOOOOOOOO
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
i completely aree with the others. no way would i let my hubby to be see me in my dress before the ceremony! I want to see the look on his face as i am walking down the aisle, have the oohhhs and aahhhs from the guests before i have the pics taken! she needs a little make up bag that her bridesmaids or mum or someone can look after with some make up remover wipes and a few little bits for touch up!! she will still look stunning and that happy teary look in her eyes will only add to the magic of the pictures! it will show just how happy and emotional she was!! xx
