My HTB has always said that he doesn't want to have a wedding ring because he doesn't like jewellery. This really saddens and upsets me, because I think it's a big part of a marriage to show the commitment to each other and I would find it really strange if I was the only one wearing a wedding ring.
I also don't want our kids in the future to not want to wear one because I believe it is a way to show commitment and be proud that you are married. I don't see wedding rings as jewellery, it is a part of your life.
We haven't had this conversation properly since we've got engaged, but I don't know how to approach it, or what to say to try to convince him to wear one. He has said he'll have one for the ceremony but then I don't want him to take it off.
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
My husband does not wear his very often, he does have one, mostly forgets to wear it.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
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Would he have a tattoo done instead on his ring finger?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorNicolleR45
Don't think he'd have a tattoo..
It upsets me that he wouldn't get over the idea of 'wearing jewellery' to wear a wedding ring.. surely that's more important!? It's not for decorative purposes if you know what I mean..
CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
My hubby was the same, insisted he didn't want a wedding ring as he doesn't really like jewellery. This upset me as like you, I see them as a show of commitment. He then compromised and said he'd have one for the ceremony/day only, however after doing a bit of Internet searching he found an unusual ring that he really liked and he hasn't taken it off! (He's also just said that if you nag your H2B enough, he'll give in and wear one lol!) Maybe your H2B could find an unusual ring that he likes? Or would you rather have matching rings? Xx
I would take him to the jewellers and get him to try a few on to see how he feels when wearing one. He might find one he really loves as Mrs Barrett said above with her OH and be persuaded. X
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
Oddly enough, it is supposed to be an English tradition for the man not to wear a wedding ring. Prince Charles and Prince William don't wear one!!
My OH isn't having one because of his job. I'm disappointed but totally understand. He will wear it on special occasions. But this was something we both discussed. Your OH might not realise it means that much to you.
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CommentAuthorStephH96
Maybe if you sit down and have a proper chat you might uncover a deeper reason for not wanting to wear a ring.
OH doesn't wear any jewelry apart from his 'holiday necklace', which is a cord necklace that only comes out when we go abroad. He said he didn't really know what to get as he doesn't wear jewelry. But really he was afraid of losing it as he lost his mum's ring when he was in the navy and he was gutted (she died just before he started there).
I think TNMB is right if you nag he may change his mind. It doesn't need to be expensive either you can get silver rings for £50/£60 (and less some places).
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I think you need to explain just how much this means to you. Also it might be worth pointing out that wedding bands for men are designed to suit men, and don't need to be decorative. Does he wear a watch? Perhaps you can point out that the difference between men's and women's rings is like the difference between men's and women's watches. I'm guessing he doesn't see his watch as jewellery. Maybe you can try to take the word jewellery out of it and get him to see it as something different. I agree with getting him to try some on. My husband has never taken his off, and neither has my Dad. If he really can't be persuaded, could he wear something different like a wrist band?
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CommentAuthorMrsMaherToBe
I'm with the others I think you should sit down and have a chat with him about how important it is for you. Mine is having one for the day however due to his job it would get ruined however he wears a necklace he never takes off so suggested that he wear it on there which I am happy with. A couple other people he works with have tattoos on their wedding finger of their wives. Xx
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CommentAuthorWundatigga
My H2B is having a ring initially only for the ceremony as he doesn't wear anything (not even a watch) and he finds things like that annoy him and he ends up taking them off and he's worried he'd put it down somewhere an lose it.
I understand where he's coming from as I don't really wear much jewelry as I too find it uncomfortable, though I will be wearing my e-ring and wedding band once I have them as I like what they symbolise. I obviously would also love it if he'd continue to wear his ring after the wedding but at the end of the day I can not force him to no matter how I feel. As a compromise I have asked him to wear it for at least the week after and to see how he feels about it at the end of that time. If he really isn't getting used to it/doesn't like it then I will accept this and we'll put it away safe.
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CommentAuthorLaurenD45
It was the same with my fella. In the end we sat down and discussed both sides of the story and i said that he could have any ring he wanted. In the end we agreed that he would wear the ring continuously for 6 months and if he decided after that, that it wasn't for him he would be able to put it in a box for special occasions and he would have my blessing. He thinks this is a good compromise. I think i won haha, he wont take it off i guarantee.
CommentAuthorSusanM34
My OH didn't want a ring. He said he would have one for the day, but once he went shopping for it he decided to design his own. He said he could probably get used to wearing it. He can't wear it to work because of the machinery there, which I completely understand. However, if he really doesn't get used to it or even if he chooses not to wear it for anything other than special occasions then I am perfectly fine with that. It is his decision at the end of the day and I will know how committed he is to me by the fact he married me.
