At the moment if we include all of our guests children in the evening reception numbers there are LOADS of kids! After reading a couple of posts about people having 'no children' weddings, how have you gone about mentioning this? Have you put something in your invites or have you actually spoken to people and said no children? I've got 3 kids myself so i'm not putting a blanket ban on any kids but i'd quite like to reduce the numbers if i can..
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CommentAuthorKaz
On the invites I have written "Due to financial restrictions invites are for named persons only. Apologies for any offence this causes." And I've also got 3 kids plus my young nephew coming! xx
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CommentAuthorkimmy
We have only invited family children, the invites were named only for the adults, no one has complained as long as you give plenty of notice so they can arrange childcare, they get to let down their hair.x
CommentAuthorMrsTacky2B
I just spoke to my guests and explained no children due to limited numbers, to be honest alot were relieved at the thought of a day without their kids. Honesty is the best policy. good luck
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
we just put peoples names on the invite, no kids names so if they cum abck rsvp'd wiv kids name i will tell them their names wasnt on invite
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We don't want kids other than H2b's nieces/nephews so we are specifying adults names only on the invitations. We'll probably also mention it when speaking to people - and then if anyone's not sure they can ring and check!
CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
I would email and text people that at the moment there is too many kids invited and if possible could they arrange childcare and come by themselves - you'll probably find most will love the idea of a night off and the ones that would struggle to find childcare can still bring them along but hopefully your numbers will be reduced?Also, would stop any resentment i.e how come their kids came but mine weren't allowed? x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
we were going to put
Mr and Mrs C are invited to the adult only evening reception
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I think we're going to go with only those named on the invites are invited (or words to that effect), because it kills two birds with one stone and deals with the kids issue as well as with plus one's (which we're not giving all our guests). We'll also be telling our guests verbally about our policy on children; we've told most already, but as it's 2.5 years away there could be more babies on the way by then, so we'll let people know as and when, and then remind them nearer the time.
TBH most people have been relieved lol
CommentAuthorJohns girl x
We are saying close kids in the family only. My niece (also a flower girl) h2b nephew. Fingers crossed h2b 2 ons from previous relationship but ex being horrid will more than likely say no.
Our best friends have little ones but you start inviting 1 or 2 kids you have to inviypte them all. I'd say just nephew, nieces and obviously your own :-) xxx
CommentAuthorvodkachick
we dont want kids at our wedding either and i know it will upset a few people .....my grandson is going to be pageboy but then after the meal i am getting his dad to come an pick him up so i have said if my own grandson is not going to be there then i am not having anyone elses kids....just need to decide how to word the invites....got two years to think about the invites tho x
CommentAuthorKirst
Hi, we decided not to have children either. We put the parents names only on the invite as well as saying 'We hope you understand that we have chosen to make our special day adults only' on the information card for day guests and just on the invite for evening guests. Nobody has said anything about their children not being invited, and if they are offended sorry but is your day and your choice. The only reason we said no is we have so many and it would turn into a kids party in the evening :( xx
CommentAuthorGazza 122
We have a rule for children of the immediate family only.........and stuck to it. We spoke to anyone we thought may have an issue with this before the invites went out and let them know that of course its nothing personal. We then popped a note in the invites saying
Due to being very limited on numbers, we unfortunately can only invite the children of our immediate families. We hope you understand and are still able to celebrate with us on our Big Day.
I have handed out the invites already to give families ample time to make arrangements for their kids xxx
CommentAuthormadhen
Those are good ideas about popping in the thing about being adults-only in the invitations, might do it that way just to be 100% clear.
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I am proper lucky as even if we allow kids, there won't be that many of them.
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CommentAuthormadhen
That's good - you don't have to offend people! (Apart from the people who wish there weren't kids there...is impossible to keep everyone happy!!!!) ;)
CommentAuthorFutureMrsLuker
I've just put together the final guestlist (i say final, no doubt others will end up worming their way on there).. Thank god we're not having a sit down meal! I have included the kids that i would want there and left the kids off that i don't. That sounds a really harsh way of putting it, but i just mean close family and best friends kids. Think i'm just going to be very specific when it comes to the names on the invitations. No doubt i'll have people calling me to ask. If the odd few kids turn up its not the end of the world as we can be quite flexible on the day.
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CommentAuthormadhen
If you can be a bit flexible then that'll save a bit of worry :) After looking through list again I've realised that a lot of people who have kids are actually on our evening guest list so it'll be pretty obvious kids won't be coming, so hopefully that'll make things go nice and smoothly for us... :D
CommentAuthorkatielea100
id just say politely no children if u can help it as a night doo isnt really the right enviroment for lots of children but if this is a problem then please contact me asap, if anyone gets in touch let the odd child come but i reckon people will respect ur wishes xx
CommentAuthormadhen
sounds reasonable :)
CommentAuthorLiza247
Weve mentioned it to most of our family & friends who are invited but gonna mention it again when i send invites out going to Put a note saying due to number restrictions at the reception venue only children who are part of the bridal party are invited
CommentAuthorrocketqueen
I have 3 kids and I hate taking them to weddings... I prefer invites that have that lovely line of "sorry - no children" . Means I can relax and enjoy the day without having darting eyes and saying "sssssh" every few mins! Obviously, if it's a family wedding the children come with us but that's different because I know nobody will mind if they get excitable :)
At mine I am having children of family only. In the evening it will be kids galore however and I can't wait -Just hope the weather is nice otherwise they may be bored x
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CommentAuthorJennaLouise
I love Kev's Angels wording. I just copy and pasted it into my notes.... and realised I'd already pinched it (must've been a previous discussion). Thanks hon!! :0) xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
on our invites we put an adult only wedding/reception xx
CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
we have allowed children to the ceremony and wedding breakfast but is adults only after 7pm... everyone has been relieved about this as they get to spend time without the kids but not having to find sitters for the full day.
CommentAuthorJoci "The Currypot"
We are inviting adults and only the 2 eldest children for our brothers and sisters. Any cousins that have children are not invited to the wedding breakfast however for the evening party we have stipulated only children over 16 are allowed due to the licensing laws. I honestly think that most people would appreciate the fact that they get to go somewhere nice without their children also it cuts the cost down for them as they don't have to worry about spending more money on outfits.
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