Ok ladies, so I originally had 6 bm's, my three sisters, my two daughters and my best friend, who is moh. I only asked my third sister (half sister) out of duty really, but the truth is, now it's time to sort the dresses out, I really really don't want her to be a bm anymore.

She is so antisocial and doesn't even talk to me on the rare occasion that I see her, she clings to my dad whenever I go to visit & makes it difficult for him to spend time with me and my children on his own (he left my mam when I was 7 and my sister was born a few years later). He has been there for every moment offer life, yet has missed most of mine. The thing is, at 28 it might sound a bit childish, but, on our wedding day I want my dad with me and I don't want her clinging to him n wedging her chair onto the top table (which she will do). I know for a fact if I have her as a bm she won't speak to any of my guests as she can't hold a conversation with anyone due to having no social skills!

She hasn't spoken to me at all since 3 months ago when she asked if her boyfriend (who is as ignorant as her) could come to the wedding and I said no. She hasn't shown one ounce of interest in the bm dresses at all or the wedding in general. The thing is, I'm not worried about upsetting her at all, I couldn't care less, but my dad is a different matter. I'm going to his on the 27th to see him to explain all of this and so far the only way I can think to get round it is to let the ignorant bf come too, so they can sit in a corner n be self involved, hopefully then leave my dad alone, but explain of he comes then she can't be bridesmaid anyway coz he'll be on his own, as well as being honest about how I feel about her behaviour?

What do you think?x

I would tell your dad the truth hun, how you feel etc hopefully he could tell your step sister for you?
May make it easier xxx

Mmmmm hard one, have you tried spending time with her, girly shopping trips ect, if she is an only child in that family she may be a bit shy, if she didnt want to take part in the wedding she would have said no when you asked her, my dad lives in australia as do my sisters so i dont get a lot of alone time with my dad and when we visit they are there too, but i just suck it up as i know he loves me as much as them,inviting her bf may help as you could sit them at the end of your wedding table away from your dad (a bit hard to move two chairs into no space) xx

She isn't sitting anywhere near the top table, I never planned to have her on it anyway, I'm going to sit her with people from our families so she will have to talk. I haven't tried any girls time no, we live 150 miles apart and when me and dad do get the odd day off at the same time, we usually spend it together with the kids (and the sister)x