.ive decided now that i dont want my 3 cousins to be bridesmaids. havent seen them for weeks when i do see them we hardly talk, invited them round last monday for a few drinks and catch up but they didnt come. i am completely stuck on how to tell them i dont want them now. any help would be greatly appreciated. i cant say i cant afford it as they were gonna put money towards dresses etc
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CommentAuthorObsidian_Winter
Offer them a different role in the wedding. Ask them to speak, or read a poem, or sing or something.
CommentAuthorkimi1987
tbh id rather them just be guests, sounds harsh but its true lol
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CommentAuthormrsV2013
how close were you b4? have a word with them and if that don't work do what obsidian winter says
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
not very, we see each other once maybe twice a year and thats only at my nans lol. i asked them for completely the wrong reasons, mainly because there my cousins and didnt really have any friends lol
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just tell them that if they can't activly help out more often as bm's should then you need to choose someone else
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
You could make out you are doing them a favour? Tell them that you think you will have to take up too much of their time by having them as bridesmaids as you need to them to do more than just try on dresses and shoes and its not fair putting this on them, so you feel that it would be better if they were to just be guests, especially if you only see them once a year. Is there a logistical reason for that or is it just that none of you really want to make the effort to meet? xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs To Be
Would you ask someone else in their place? If not just tell them that you've had a change of plan and you're not having any bridesmaids. Just say you can't find any dresses you like and you don't want the added stress of extra shopping.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
If you all hardly see each other, maybe they are feeling obliged to be bridesmaids when they really aren't too fussed?
If you want other bridesmaids, just say you can't afford so many after looking at the budget, and you don't want to pick between your cousins xx
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CommentAuthorHobbitBeth
I agree with LauraJo87. Just say you've had to cut down on how many bridesmaids you need and you cant pick between them, so not to offend your going to pick others to take the role
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CommentAuthorElle23
I would say that you & H2B have decided to just have your children as Bridesmaids to make it more special to you as a family etc etc
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CommentAuthorJoanneS30
I haven't got advice for u hun, but end of the day your wedding is YOUR day, so have it as you and H2B want it! xxx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
I'm having my 2 girls plus my maid of honour. So I won't be replacing them. I just changed my mind about having them cus it seems like they can't be bothered
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CommentAuthorVickie
I agree with Joanne, have what you want, its your day you have to be happy with it.
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
i would just say u have decided that u just want ur children as bridesmaids and ur maid of honour, say u didnt want a big wedding party in the first place and since they cant make it to meet ups etc then it would be best just to stick to ur children etc then u can have more time planning other things and not have to try and work around when they are available. its ur choice and they might be put out but they should get over it, after all if they dont make the effort to come and see u then they cant be that bothered! x
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CommentAuthorKastobe
I would just say that you are changing the feel of the wedding and making it more simple and streamline. If you don't see them very often they may well be relieved to be off the hook?
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
just tell them that your budget has changed so therefore your plans so you've decided to only have your two girls and MOH as bridesmaids as thats all you can afford. if they say they will pay for there dresses just say its about the flowers and gifts and everything else so you don't want them as you aren't close anyway and see how it goes
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