I'v come up with a date - 2 years after he proposed, but how do I get him to realise that these things do need to be planned in advance, before we've saved up and we wont be able to get friends and family to attend if we decide on the real date 1 month in advance?? Also am struggling choosing a date that I like! Have asked my mum for the date she married my dad, and her second wedding as to avoid those urm unlucky dates....any ideas would be very grateful.
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CommentAuthorceli
A special anniversary? Or the anniversary of when he proposed?
CommentAuthortwirler
Hi Rags,
If it hasnt worked talking to him then maybe you need to leave some wedding planning lists lying around lol with 12 months to go etc etc could it be he is scared of the enormity of it all and if so then planning in advanced means you can chip away financially at bits little by little thats what we are doing. As for chosing your date write down the ones you are thinking of and then look at venues etc for prices and see if that sways your decisions some people pick special dates others pick it just because so there is lots of reasons but only you will be happy with the date you choose hun xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
Hi hun
I do not think that there is any way to convince him that things need to be done in advance. I have met very few men that have relaised this. Just check if he is okay with you planning it and just go do it. Thats what I did, he is very happy with it and stays out of my way :P
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CommentAuthorRags
I think they should come up with an x-box game of what can go wrong if you don't plan a wedding, or put subliminal messages in his zombie killing games that way he gets his way and i get mine. But seriously thanks. I think I will enjoy planning and pricing a few options then in a few months I may be able to sit him down and get him to choose the bits he likes. Maybe he'l get involved maybe he wont but at least I'l be trying to get our day right. And I have seen the look of terror on his face when we watch "Don't tell the Bride"!
I'm now a married woman
I have a gorgeous husband
Whats to do now
Theres no more wedding planning to do
Honestly, mines birthday is tomorrow and I have bought him an x-box to keep him entertained in the corner during the last 7 weeks of the wedding stress. I wouldnt want him to start getting involved now, plus I will be stressed and taking it out on him, so he should just sit quietly in the corner lol
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CommentAuthorohfiddles
sorry hunny i have no positive comments on this, men are blooming pains in the botoms when it comes to weddings i have found. i have been engaged for 4 years now and still no wedding in sight.
i would suggest however to pick a date that is meaningfull to you, i would want 26th february as it is when we starting dating and the date of our engagement party.
good luck xxx
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
The girls here will tell you what fun I had with my h2b setting a date lol, and even though we set it, we've still had to change it, and may have to change it again!
CommentAuthordebs x
Rags I have exactly the same problem - Call of Duty lol if they were planning a wedding on there he would be in the thick of it, ive basically done it all myself and I know that everything will get done that way too, dont worry too much about a lack of interest its just him being a typical man ask any of the girls on here and they will mostly agree, have fun planning yourself hon x
CommentAuthorCeCe
You dont. You choose it then tell him. Sorted.
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
ha debs i hear you as far as computer games go, h2b is obssessed!
CommentAuthorLedZepLover
I don't really know the answer to that one I'm afraid. I think maybe just try and ask him what date he would like, and try and get him as involved as possible (or as far as he is willing to go lol!). Me and h2b just really picked our date together x
CommentAuthorPossum
Tell him that if he doesn't help choose one, you'll choose it yourself and start organising!! xx
CommentAuthorkellyc13
i gave mine a choice of two dates, 4th june or 11th june and told him he had to pick one, he just stood and looked at me for a while then murmured 4th looking puzzled, so the 4th it was, turns out he hadnt actually listend to what i said so hadnt a clue what i was on about lol. x good luck hun x
so little time, so much to do!
CommentAuthorcandy
me and h2b went through the calender for the first date we chose and went thatll do lol the second date was when we moved it forward so chose bonfire weekend (saves us buying fireworks lol) xx
