I was wondering if there is a "special" way of deciding who to invite for the ceremony and who to invite just for the evening reception.
CommentAuthorRoxii
we're just inviting close friends and family to the day, and everybody else in the world (or so it seems, haha) to the evening reception.
CommentAuthorSuz80
Thats what i thought, just treading on very slippery ground as far as some family members are concernd, some of them we're not very close to but they are still family so stuck on that aarrgghhhh this wole wedding business is giving me such a headache. and to think only a week or so ago i was on here saying i couldnt think of anything else i had to do...... that will teach me to keep my mouth shut (in this case, fingers still lol).
CommentAuthorRoxii
Well, like some of my cousins are coming, cause I talk to them more often than the ones i'm not inviting.. I'm only inviting one set of grandparents, as my grandad on the other side has passed and the grandma on that side said i wasn't family.. long story, but basically she's no longer my grandma. And the ones you dont invite to the ceremony and/or breakfast, just let them know that it's because it's not a huge ceremony and that they'er invited to the evening do? That's all I can suggest hun x
CommentAuthorohfiddles
i had to be harsh cutting back my ceremony guest, so what i did was if i saw them or spoke to them 1 a week they get to come. the rest have to just come to the reception. hope you find a way that works xxx
we are finding this difficult too we have just drafted a provisional list going to look again tonight and then decide tomorrow ans stick to it, then we can crack on with the invites, luckily we both has close family and all have said they understand if we can't invite them all so makes it a bit easier still horrible though we are allowed 120 at evening and 50 daytime we have 124 people so far so eck! i know there possibly will be someone who may not be able to come but still! if i come up with a plan i'll let you know haha x
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CommentAuthorSuz80
fiddles thats a good way of doing it... Roxii I think we'll just have to say that, last thing I want is there to be friction afterwards.. Thank you ladies, you've really helped me make up my mind. xxx
CommentAuthorkitten
I am getting married in a church that seats 500 so we are inviting every one to the church at 1pm family and closest friends invitations then read followed by reception at 2:30 friends read followed by evening reception at 7:30 If you have to limit your ceremony numbers for space, start with your closest relatives and your best friends, then add aunties, uncles and cousins, colleges etc
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
just pick people you like, see and get on with. i'm not paying for people i don't know or care for to come to my wedding. Our numbers are tight coz of money, so i would rather have people there i want there, not people i was 'supposed' to invite. no room for family politics at my wedding! x
CommentAuthor~* Jen *~
we're doing the same as kitten, our church seats 350ish, so having an open ceremony for everyone, followed by a tea/cake at the back of the church, then a closed reception with family and closest friends, and then opening back up for an evening thing. Bit worried that those only invited to the ceremony and evening reception may not come back to the evening one though!! Eek. I would always put the people I speak to on a very regular basis first, and then extended family, and 'less-spoken-to' friends. xxx
CommentAuthorSuz80
OK so just spoke to MOH who is also H2Bs cousin and asked what she thought about inviting certain members of the family only to the evening reception and she basically told me what I thought in the first place.. its going to cause a lot of fiction afterwrds if not at the wedding itself aarrgghhh. It doesnt help that one of the family members is h2bs brother...... If this gets any worse.. we're eloping and done!!!!! :( She also said to leave the decision with h2b and then its his decision and i wash my hands of it. I knows what shes trying to say and i like the idea considering its me they don't like!!!! Its a good thing we ordered extra invitations...
CommentAuthorKesha
Im not sure if there is an easy way! me and my H2b made seperate lists of everybody we would like to invite. Then we rated the importance of each person being there. All the 1's got immediately put onto the day list, then we went through the 2's etc until we had made our day list (we had agreed on 150 day guests) once we got to 150 everyone else was our evening list!
CommentAuthordeedee
Thats a really good idea Kesha i mite just do it that way myself thanks
CommentAuthorSuz80
That is a really good idea!!! We'll try doing that. Thanx xx
CommentAuthorCeCe
Well...for a woman who has a Father who is the youngest of 13...who ALL had kids and Grandkids...and The Porky Prince, whose Father is the youngest of 6..all with kids Grandkids etc etc...I think we did BLO ODY WELL in having on 30 coming to the Wedding AND reception!
Thank God, the PP and I agreed on NOt wanting a wedding attended by folk whose names you cannot remember, you only see at funerals..that nobody likes..cannot speak to you in the street...blah blah blah!
We have JUST who we REALLY want to come.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
glad you have all said closest family H2b wants to invite an uncle whos he hasnt seen or been intouch for at least the last 8 years .......i dont think so !!!!
We are inviting close family and friends to the day, wider group of friends/work collegues to the eve.
However in my case close family includes the kids of second cousins... but still only amounts to 26 people.
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CommentAuthorNicci
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We had a diificult time picking guests but in the end it went like this, sounds really bad but it worked! For the day do it worked out £35 per head so we simply sat down and decided if we wanted to spend that amount on the person! lol There was certain people we thought about inviting but we could justify the £35 so they obviously wernt that important to us, i know it sounds awful but it just made sense! x
