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    • HannahB146
      CommentAuthorHannahB146
     
    Hi everyone
    I am currently in the process of deciding who to ask to be my bridesmaids.

    When I have decided, I was planning on just asking them (in person) but I have seen online a lot of brides give their bridesmaids-to-be a gift/card as a way of asking.
    Is this the done thing, should I be giving them something at the time of asking? Obviously I will give them all thank you gifts after the wedding.

    I was bridesmaid for my sister and I don't remember her doing that but that was quite a long time ago and I don't remember how she asked.
    Any advice would be much appreciated!
    Thanks :)
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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
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    I was planning on doing little cards for OH's 3 nieces who are some of our bridesmaids, but in the end H2B blabbed it out on the phone right away haha I also asked my friend when we were in the middle of a muddy walk with her dog. So sometimes it is a spur of the moment thing.

    For my sister though I broke the news by giving her a 'please be my MoH' card and a bunch of flowers. I got the card from 3t5y where there was a lot of pretty choices x




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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
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    I didn't worry about it and just asked mine to be MOH

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    • FayeH
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    I just asked people - nothing ceremonious.
    When we first got engaged we were saving for a house and the wedding and were watching the budget. Personally, I just saw the bridesmaid-ask gift trend as an extra unnecessary expense.

    As you're pretty much asking whether it's expected by other people, it sounds like this isn't something that's really important to you so I'd suggest dropping the gifts. Unless they're totally clueless your bridesmaids will appreciate that you're about to throw the most expensive party of your life.

    For me a big part of this process has been learning to prioritise as there's loads of wedding-related things i've wanted to do but the budget doesn't allow for everything, so i'd say save your money until it's something you feel strongly about.
 

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