I am getting married in Mexico on 16th November. Its only our children & wedding party that will be in attendance, we are planning a party couple weeks after we get back.
Anyway, I am planning my own stag & inviting a couple of close friends, some workmates & some guys from my jui jitsu class. I have booked onto the guest list for two places on Saturday 17th October. There are no deposits to pay, the night out is in city 30mins away by car.
My question is how much notice should I give? Too much & I might seem a bit keen & the excitement for idea might come & go, too little & people might struggle to get time off.
I know the title is Hen nights but I am sure you lovely ladies don't mind helping out a useless guy with a dilemma! Thanks!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I'd say give as much notice as possible just to make sure they can attend, but to be honest, if no deposits are to be paid it doesn't have to be that much notice, but if you do it's more for your own mind as to who can and cannot attend,
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
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CommentAuthorBarryA92
Its pretty much organised so think il announce date etc soon then. Just worried about lookin over keen & having excitement for it fizzle out before its even near!
Thanks again folks!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
You're allowed to be excited about your stag do. Maybe let peeps know by the middle of next month.
Barry, I get married in September next year - I've already told everyone when my hen party is (also September next year), what we're doing, where etc. So you tell people as soon as you like! Lol.
CommentAuthorBarryA92
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Thanks for the feedback, its pay day next Friday. There's another pay in August, then night out is on following pay in September. So will probably announce it on coming pay day.
Glitterfairy you've posted to help me out quite a bit, I dare say you can tell I've got some minor confidence issues & making a fuss of myself is rather daunting. IE expecting folk to go on night out on my accord.
I organised an identical night for my friends wedding last July & had a great night so looking forward to this!
Thanks again everyone!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Barry, that's what we are here for, to help out.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hope planning it goes well and you have a fab time!
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
tell them all now dont wait. my hen party is end of august and was sorted start of year dates wise
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Think my Hen was arranged about 5 months ahead of time.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Personally I would mention it to them that your a stag date is.... That way they know not to book anything for that night And then give more information about what ur doing ect closer to the time. If I was being invited to a do I'd prefer being told of date as early as possible so I make sure not to double book that day up. N be as excited as u want its ur night :)
CommentAuthorSamanthaW362
agree with glitterfairy..!!
CommentAuthorBarryA92
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I've announced date & everything is booked. Just hope it doesn't start too early/ on to long/ excessive £ wise etc.
Going to city centre about 20miles away, we are on guest list for two places, free entry before 11pm at both. Going to get train up at 5pm, to be there 5.30pm. Taxi home at end of night for less than £10 each.
Thanks again for advice!
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Brilliant stuff Barry, glad you've got it all sorted.
Does the taxi have to be prepaid or could you ask people to pay that prior to the night so that you don't have to worry on the night?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorBarryA92
There are a few part time taxi drivers in my work, I could probably sort out a couple of taxis to pick us up. Taxis are everywhere up there anyway.
Thanks again for the reading my posts, was a good to get some 3rd party advice!
CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
Husband's stag do was arranged about 6 months before the actual date (which got changed a couple of times) and my hen night was arranged about 4 months before the night
CommentAuthorBarryA92
Hey,
as I am organising this myself, I am hoping to keep it rather straight forward & cheap as possible. I have us on guest list for 3 places, with free entry.
I haven't planned on implementing any stag night games, rules etc or buying matching t-shirts, keep sakes, stag night survival kits or any of that jazz.
Do you think the absence of normal stag activities will be boring? So far of the 20 invited 5 have replied they will make it.
Thanks
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Nope not at all. I would defo leave it, if your friends turn up with stuff then so be it, but I wouldn't go spending on it yourself.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
I don't think you need to sort any of the extras out. If the guys want to, they can. Or perhaps if you did want a game to be played you could ask someone specifically to organise it so you don't have to worry. X
CommentAuthorBarryA92
Thanks folks, that's pretty much what I was thinking. With no best man I doubt anyone will organise any of aforementioned stuff! Which suits me to be honest as I dread the thought of being tied nude to a lamppost or forced to run around the city on some wild goose chase after something so I'm not labelled boring!
