I'm going to a wedding next weekend and the bride and groom included a poem in the wedding invite asking for money instead of a gift, iv never been to a wedding that hasn't supplied a wedding list. so can i have all you lovely ladies opinions on how much to put in the card? one friend has told me around £50 is an acceptable amount but then another friend has said minimum £150 I'm ok with either amounts but don't want to put too little or too much in, seeing as the same couple are invited to my wedding in 2 months and if i put too much in i don't want them to feel they have to match it or anything especially as i know they are quite broke after their forthcoming wedding so I'm stumped as to what to put in. any opinions and advice would be greatly appreciated! xx
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
I suppose it's what you feel you can afford.... I'm sure the couple will be grateful for any amount. I'm attending a wedding myself on Saturday and I will be putting £20 in the card as that's all I can afford right now. If I received £20 I'd be over the moon with that gesture and to be honest, personally even putting a money poem in, I don't ever expect anything x
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I received a lot of £20s, I think it depends on how well you know the people as well.
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CommentAuthorMyranny
I've been to three weddings where money was requested, and we did £30 for 2 and £50 for the other respectively because it was what we could afford and it was based on our relationship with the bride and groom also. I figured that, if I'd spend £15, £20 on someone for their birthday, (and i could afford it) then as there's 2 of them I'd double it for their wedding. Lol. But I think it really depends on what you can afford, what you feel is the right amount, and what your relationship is with the bride & groom. No amount is wrong, they will be grateful for whatever you put in the card xx
CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
We usually put £40 - £50 in a card, £150 is way too much unless its a very close relative ie brother, sister, etc x
I would not give £150 unless it was for someone very close to me... if just a friend, I wouldn't give that much (but then I can't afford that much either, if I could afford it comfortably then maybe it would be different). We're going to a wedding reception at the start of Aug, the groom is a friend of OH's and we will probably give £20. If going to the whole day we would have probably given between £40-£50.
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
We are going to a wedding reception of two of my work colleagues and I am thinking of just giving them £20 as I am not close to them I just work with them and OH hardly knows them. If they were closer or I was going to the ceremony I would probably give £50 then more again if they were family or a close friend x
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
What sort of wedding is it? Like sit down meal etc? Any weddings we have been to have been sit down meals. We always give at least £100. We try to give a bit more. That seems to be the done thing here though. Wedding breakfasts costs about £40 a head so by giving 100 we are covering our meal plus a little extra
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
If we were going to an evening only we would give £50
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CommentAuthorSarah D
The last 2 weddings we have been to we have given £50 each time xx
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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If its an all day sit down meal we give at least £100 my friend got married in March and my cousin in May and they both got £100. If it was an evening invite it would be £50 if it was a work colleague we do a collection and I would out in £10-15.
It depends on everyone's individual circumstances though give what you are comfortable with.
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CommentAuthorclair
I personally feel only give what you can afford to give. There is no point in giving £100 if you can't aford it, just because what is expected of you. I am asking for money too but I don't 'expect' people to give me a lot of money if they can't afford to. X
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
It depends on what you can afford. We received anything between £20 and £200.
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CommentAuthorCarolH81
As everyone has said its what you can afford, Personally £150 way over the top probably between £20 and £50 is enough. We have told our guests we do not want anything as a lot of people are flying over for the wedding and they have to pay for accommodation as well so no way do we expect presents or money.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
£150 is a lot, even for close family like cousins I'd probably only put £100 max in, for cousins I'm less close to I'd put £50. If I'm going to a wedding and was wanting to give less I'd probably rather buy something tangible.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
If I'm a day guest we give around £60/70 as a couple as I feel that is what I would pay to go eat etc, if it's close friends it family, more like £80/90. Evening guest we stick a £20 in.
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CommentAuthormichgib
I would have thought about £50 woud be a good amount.
CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
thank you ladies i think I'm going to put £100 in so that £50 from each of us and we are a full day guests. thank you once again you've all been a great help xx
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CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
We did this rather than having a gift list and had lots of different amounts. Some people put £20 in, others £40 or £50, some a bit more. I would go with what you feel you can afford
CommentAuthormichgib
Im sure they will be over the moon have a lovey day
CommentAuthorleasa
We asked for this at our wedding. But without expectation of any amount. We were astounded at the generosity and received varying amounts between £20 and £1000 !!!!!!!
We have done the same for others based on a few things... How much could we afford and how close are we to them. We normally go for the £50-£100 but there's no set "rule".
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