ok so i'm sat here waiing to be picked up by my mum to take a trip to middlesbrough for her to meet my future in-laws (a very crazy bunch and can be quite fowl-mouthed at times... )my mum may not approve too much lol but im sure she will take it her stride that been said there hearts are in the right place and family means everything.
We are picking my auntie up on the way cause i havent got a dad so i think my mum wants some support .. bit of confidence and someone to chat too, its also part late celebration for my 30th so should be fun.

so this is going to be there first ever meeting ...im quite nervous lol... me and michael have been together nearly two years, and its taken this long ..but i suppose most of the reason they havent met yet is due to the distance..york-middlesbrough not too far but far enough..i've really got my fingers crossed that all goes well...


So how did your experiences of the parents meeting go ..how long was it before your parents met and was eventful or pain free and do they get on now? please tell and will update you as soon as i can how it all went ..wish me luck lol xx

The first meeting was very painful for me and my H2B. We had been together for 2 years and decided to live together. My parents and his parents live 20 miles apart and as they are so different I never forced the issue. When we bought the house my mum asked to meet the in-laws as she said "i'd rather meet them dressed up for the first time, rather than painting the house in my scruffs!"

Background, Me and my family are very loud, chatty and like a drink. H2B's comes from a very quiet and reserved family who don't really socialise that much.

Soooooo me and H2B took them out for a meal and the conversation was very awkward and they struggled to find anything to talk about. As we where paying for the meal my parents got steadily drunk and sillier which i normally love but as H2B's parents nursed one pint and one glass of wine each is was bad. A very painful 3 hours of my life!

They didn't meet again until 3 years later when i did a celebration buffet afternoon when we got engaged. My brother and sister and his sister came along with partners and my nephew so it wasn't so bad. Still a little awkward though!

Good luck Jenny! xx

I think the first time My parents and hubs parents met was the day my son was born... We live in birmingham Adams parents Lancaster. It was weird because the day Alex was born Adams sister decided she wanted to come shopping in birmingham (they usually only travel on sundays this was a saturday) he was a few days early too and when adam phoned them to say sadies in labour about 11am on the saturday they said oh well were on the way to birmingham anyway. Adams parents took my parents out for a meal after Id just had him to celerbrate! was all very civilised, the next time was his christening then adams mum sat oposite side of the room not talking to anyone but her family. she doesnt talk to her husbands family from the first marriage eiter... same at the wedding she hardly said two words to me, then on the night sat at the back no talking to anyone! x

ours met years ago and my mother didnt like MIL as she smoked like a chimney..... however they havent seen each other since and wont as of course Mil refuses to have anything to do with us now and didnt come to the wedding ( she wasnt invited due to her antics and name calling)

our parents first me when we got engaged. we couldnt get them to meet before hand because mil, fil and dad all work shifts so it was hard to arrange something. we had a meal at the inlaws house as sil was out with her other carer. we had a lovely evening meal was great (local chinese!!) some drinks coffees the usual. i felt great cos it went so well......cue sil.

sil came home and although she has met my parents before and has always been nice to them started to tell them to f"%^ off get out my house etc im tired calling them b"$£%£^*& and everything. my dad was shocked to say the least, mum understood cos we had had discussions before about sil and her behaviour and her mental age. so inlaws ignored her (best to do this if you give her attention she acts up more!)

we left the house and we drove them home. i went up to mums a couple of days later to get a progress report lol. dad was annoyed cos inlaws didnt discipline sil for her behaviour but he doesnt understand thats how she is. needless to say they get on great with each other the parentals and been invited to each others parties etc since but dad always has it in the back of his mind about sil rant but now hes worried she will act up on the day, ive been told she will be fine but i reckon dad will be keeping a eye on her!!!

we had been together about 6 months when he met my parents. they got on ok at first but after an arguement the didnt speak for about 2 years, thats all been sorted now though and they get on ok again.
he doesnt speak to his parents so ive never met them. xx

we've been together 20mths and our parent's haven't met yet lol think it will be on the day lol

H2b and i have been together over 5 and a half years and ours havent met - first time will be at the wedding :s
Not really sure if they will get on, doesnt help that they have all separated and have new partners so we have 4 sets

my parents met my h2b's parents when we invited for Christmas gee that was not fun at all so around 3 months in, mum calls them the krankies / hill billies lol so they don't really have much to do with each other apart from birthdays and Christmas for the kids.
Can't wait for the wedding will be welsh/ Cornish divide.

We are a dysfunctional lot and although i think our parents have met it was only in passing not long after i had my daughter(nearly eight years ago) So the wedding will be the first time really. None of them will have anything in common with the others.My mum (bless her) will find the whole thing a terrible ordeal as she hates strange places and never socialises,although she is a lovely ,caring,friendly person but she suffers very badly with nerves/anxiety.My Dad lovely and very laid back but shy,will be stuck like glue to my Mums side cos he will be concerned for her.Mil2b will have a massive chip on her shoulder as she will spend the day thinking everyone else is better off emotinally/financially than her and will feel sorry for herself as h2b dad and stepmum have been together 40years and are quite well off(in comparison to her anyway)Finally h2bs Dad will probably have a lovely time and wonder what everyone elses problem is lol whilst stepmum2b will retire early with one of her heads!
In fact the wedding will probably the only time they will meet! xxx

first time our parents met (well my parents and matts mum, they yet to meet his dad) was at the hospital after ben was born, though we had been discussing them meeting before it just never happened, and that was 2+ years in.

Reading these I realise just tough it can be... And that I'm far from been on my own with the troubles of parents meeting ..in fact mine are taim in comparison ..but I do feel sorry for the ones having more trouble than its worth.. you would think most parents would try and get on for your sakes... We all know not everyone gets on but its only for a couple times a year if that ... :(

So the meet was yesterday and all I can say I was stressing over mother ..there was a few small awkward moments but will tell more in detail when I get back home in York cause still in Middlesbrough atm and I'm on my phone ..which is to fiddly so offucal update will be on soon xx

H2b met my parents very early on, we had been together about 3 months ans h2b wanted to meet them! Of course i was dreading it! Well it wen down like a ton of bricks they didnt say much, My dad asked me to step out of the room and all my dad said to me is how on earth did you meet him! & why bring him into our home! (Cheers dad) Nothing else was said. They didnt know we even got engaged untill my dad saw it on book of face! Ooopps! We got engaged within months of being together and knew our familys would say no, As we had both come out of 5-6 year relationships, We knew it was what we both wanted and knew we wanted to be togethe for the rst of our lives, Now 3 years on we have a 2 year old daughter and getting married and the parents couldnt be happier :) x

Ours met at my parents annual family BBQ which is always in August so 7 months in and it went very well............H2b met my parents 3 days before for the same thing lol and I met his 6 weeks before that at an open air showing of "the rocky horror picture show" which he told me his dad was "dressing up" for...........was slightly worried lol
H2b met the girls 4 months into the relationship!

lol... well my day yesterday went by soooo quick ... we set off at 9.30 and headed to catterick where my auntie lives who my mum was taking as support, auntie wasnt ready lol so we had a cuppa and a chat before heading off to middlesbrough.

h2b had gone up the day b4 so he could pick his son up early on the morning.

Arrived in middlesbrough to my h2b surprise cause he expected to meet us in the centre of town cause i dont know my way once in middlesbrough in the car (i always go on the train) so was giving directions to mama which is eventful in itself due to her panic driving in the wrong direction or attempting to take the wrong exits off the ring roads ..lol soooo stressfull on both parts im sure...lol anyway we were all now at the in-laws 2b, think mil2b was a bit shocked at us turning up at the house and not going stright to where we were all having lunch, and in the middle of decorating the living room..lol but its understandable when decorating that the house is a bit of a state ... common ground was found by this cause my auntie is in the same situation middle of decorating her new home.. sooo talk was allready flowing..great stuff :). The kids were playing and having fun while we were waiting to set off for the lunch cause mil2b forgot and got her shopping delivered as she always does on a sat so did it without thinking was no problem and proved funny when it turned up ... cause we had decided that we would head off to where we was having lunch so me, h2b, my mum, my auntie, h2b son was all out side whilst fil2b stood at the door not letting the dog get out, the food arrived ha ha so a chain was formed down the hall way to the kitchen by both familes ...lmao..was soooo funny ..all still going well

all now in the pub, both children one been h2b son (6) and the other his nephew (2) me, mum, auntie, h2b, bil2b, sil2b (mum of the nephew) mil2b, fil2b and h2b's auntie..quite a group ...lol going great nephew was getting a bit restless but was laughing at my auntie as she seemed to entertaining the kids... but the most funniest moment of the day had to be when we had all finished our meals and h2b nephew was giving me a cuddle so h2b had asked what this lady was called to him (meaning my mum) so instead of saying her name he just looked and shouted ****!!!! pmsl...OMG..mum took it good spirt and everyone was laughing after all he is only two.

now heading back to the inl2b house for a cuppa .. where my mum and auntie stayed for an extra 2hrs cause they where all just chatting away ... so all in all i was very pleased with how it all went couldn't have really asked for more



and sorry its along one but i was so worried as it got closer ...now happy days xx

aww thats a nice one hun... soul mates xx

Our parents met at about 15 months into our relationship at h2bs graduation. The mums have hated each other ever since.

I was completely bricking it when mine all met!!! We had everyone over for a new years day buffet, and it went reasonably well, although I drank heavily to get through it lol! I'm pretty sure it was maybe 3 years into the relationship, after we'd moved to the house.
The in laws very rarely come to see us, we alsways have to go to them, so they had only ever been to the flat twice.
I had them all over again for a fathers day brunch type thing. Thats when it got hairy, the fil2b turned round and gave me his fathers day gift back, with the line 'what have you bought me that for'. Rude wasn't the word! I had took his youngest son out shopping that morning, and he was so pleased to choose his dad a gift from us all, and had really come out of his shell. But after that he barely spoke for the rest of the day. My Dad looked about ready to deck him, as in our family manners, politeness, gratefulness, are all instilled in us at an early age. with the in laws their arrogance knows no bounds!
I remember one Christmas doing hampers for family, and I made the mil2b a canvas type shopping bag. To which, she said quite loudly, that once she took it through the overlocker to make sure the seams were strong enough, she MIGHT use it. The best was when we bought her an expensive tea pot, two years later, she gives it to her middle son.

Thankfully, the wedding day will be the fourth time they have met, and as we are nt christening any of our children, I see no reason for me to go through that hell again in the future!!!!

I think most of the time, couples stress over what might happen when the two families get together, and when something tiny happens it seems much bigger!!!
Good job I love my boo though lol xxx

I cannot remember off hand, but my step dad and H2B's dad used to work together so knew each other anyway.