Hey so im getting married in august 2013, and i dont get on with my soon to be mother in law.. She has never liked me, she said i took her son away from her lol. How does everyone else get on with there inlaws??

We've had our run ins but deep down we love each other - she loves me for giving her my boy, I love her for giving me hers :) x

I get on brilliantly with my inlaws, i am really very lucky they are lovely people.
I was friends with bil2b for many years as i was also friends with h2b before we got together so i knew the family. His mum was dubious when she found out her youngest son was seeing a woman who had 2 children, but when she asked her other son if he knew who i was he told her i was lovely, that he knew we would end up together and we should have got together years ago.... so that was nice lol.
Sil2b is trouble, i grin and keep the peace with her, but i am not the only one, h2b cant actually stand her either and he said she was only invited to the wedding to keep his mum happy.
I was a carer before my current job, so have been able to help a lot with the care for his nan who has a stoma bag and needs a lot of support, this has meant that i have been able to give his mum a well deserved break as she knows i can care for his nan with no problems, we (me, h2b and the kids) even moved into the house while his parents went on holiday so i could take over full time care of his nan (who lives in an annex at his parents house) for the week.
I absolutely love my future inlaws, they have been nothing but supportive and welcoming, they have helped us pay for things and have traweled round several wedding fayres with us.... i am actually even stealing his mum on the morning of the wedding to carry out mother of the bride duties as my mum is not with us. So mil2b will be taking my daughter to the hairdressers and getting her ready etc before bringing her to me at the hotel :D

I get on very well with my future in-laws...in fact my MIL2B often refered to me as her daughter in law beforer h2b proposed!!!!

My h2b gets on great with my parents to ...so its all good :)

No he has twin sister's but he said he was the black sheep of the family, when he was 15 his dad disowned him cos he was chubby and wouldnt support the same football team, and after that happened its cos tension with his mum and dad. His mum always pused him to the side and put his sisters first, So when i met Matt we got engaged very quick, then found out we were expecting, his mum was totally against that, we got our own house and she would come down and start argument with me cos i wouldnt bring my new born up to see her, after try to explain its easier for her to come to us as being new parents and learning new things everyday and nervous, getting a newborn ready and taking her out in the cold wasnt suitable. Matthew doesnt really bother with his mum cos when he does call into c her she starts for no reason. Matt told me my mother was been a better mother to him in the last 8 years and this own mother has been his whole life. Im dreading her coming to the wedding cos i know she will try and make it all about her! Do you know how many times shes seen her grandkids? my daughter is 7 and shes seen her about 5 times, my son is 5 and you would be lucky if she has seen him 2! Birthdays and christmas shes sends there cards up with matt's sister! I dont even get a menation on the christmas its addressed to matt, niamh and lewis! :)

I can't stand my 'biological' mother in law - and the feelings mutual lol. She is a nasty, vindictive woman who prefers the bottle to family - and at one point before the wedding even wished me dead!! Now neither myself or husband bothers with her (which isn't surprising lol).

In contrast, my husband's dad and step mum (my REAL in laws lol) are fantastic. They did the catering for our evening reception as our wedding present, and mil has been so supportive when I was planning the wedding. We see them every couple of weeks and meet for a drink at the local club. In fact they are friends of my parents and so my parents knew them before me lol.

Yeah me and matt are both close to my mum and dad and we all get on really well! And krissy905 i have done! Matt has told her im going to be his w2b! Im the mother of his kids his best friend and his soul mate if you dont like it u know what to do lol. She is a nasty piece of work tried to turn his aunt off us, stating that we wouldnt bring the kids down for her birthday, We didnt even know aabout the party! So when we spoke to his aunt she told us about a whole lot of nasty things she said. O lets just say my wedding will be very eventful ya never know ya might see me on the news! New bride attacks mother in law on day of wedding lol xx

Shirleygirly it sounds like you're describing my h2b's relationship with my family... they love h2b, so much so he can do no wrong in my mums eyes AND my gran fancies him lol x

I get on great with my In Laws to be. Much better than I ever did with my 1st husbands parents.

i didnt get on with my mother in law........... she refused to come to our weding reception and infact has never seen her grand daughter however my new beau's family are just amazing!!! im very lucky theyre all accpeting of me n my daughter livvy who was only newborn wen we met so am lucky they have adopted her as theyre own to,

its just different strokes with different folks hun am afraid x

mines are ok. mil is nice but she has her moments esp when it comes to money for the wedding. but its now coming slowly but surely. as for fil hes a weird one, keeps saying to h2b to get out while he can, him and h2b have a love hate relationship. h2b was adopted and he never knew his real parents. sil is disabled. she has learning and behavioural problems and its always her that ruins everything. shes the one that ive had to accomodate for for the wedding. no balloons, no flashing lights, tone down on the chocolate, etc. she even told me that h2b was going on a date with another girl but he sorted that one out told her is she starts anymore lies she will be put into respite for the wedding....

I get on well with my in laws, however some tension has been caused lately as my h2b is greek and his parents think I should convert so that we can get married in the Greek Orthodox church. However my whole family are all christians and have been christened as such and I have always dreamt of getting married in the same church I was christened in. My h2b is completely happy to do this and has not once asked me to change religion, however his parents dont approve. But we sat down with them and spoke it through and h2b told them it was our wedding and this is what we both want. Since then they have been much better and have not mentioned it. They always say that they love us both and that in thier eyes I am now one of the family. I also get on brilliantly with his grandparents who will continuously ask where I am if h2b goes round without me.
The problem comes in the form of his sister. She took an instant disliking to me and you would think that after 4 years this would pass however it has not. She always wants to be the center of attention and even when we got engaged, she stormed out and didnt speak to me or my h2b for 3 months, all because we got engaged before she did (she doesn't even have a boyfriend!). But she now expects to be my maid of honour even though she never even acknowledges my existence when I am around her. It is not just me she is like this with. She is awful to her parents too! I think I will leave it to her mum to let her know that there is no way she is going to be maid of honour though! Apart from this my in laws are great and they get on well with my parents too which is always a bonus! And my parents adore my h2b and my brother is quite fond of him too! So overall not too bad on the family front :) xxx

my relationship was ok till last year when Mil suddenly stated having a go at me it culminated in a phone call from her last year where she called me all the names under the sun and said she wanted nothing more to do with me ... at Christmas she sent a card to mr lala only and he has now said he doesn't want anything to do with her over the things she has said about and to me ... ( full version of this is in my thread diary of a mod bride ..if you bored any fancy reading it ) lol lol

I love my mil dearly. If we'd ever split up I'd mourn the lost family too.
She's a very warm and beautiful person - inside and out. Apart from being super busy she always has an ear for everyone, is easy to be around, is welcoming and has the biggest heart I've ever seen. She wouldn't say a bad word about anyone and I have never seen her angry. I've seen her upset but never angry.
We lived together for 2 years so I know her very well. But from the moment h2b had introduced me she regarded me as another daughter - and she did this with all other partners of her 4 children. She is indeed one lovely woman.
H2b has 3 sisters and all 3 are lovely girls - the eldest is a bit difficult but this is a general behaviour and has nothing to do with me. She may be difficult at times but she's a very witty and funny woman and great company. So is her fiancee. The younger sisters are genuinely nice and lovely - always there to help and also always great company.
There's not one bad soul in his family - all his aunts and uncles are lovely. Both sets of grandparents are still alive and both are nice but one set especially I love dearly. They are just heartwarmingly lovely and I spend quite often time with them by myself with little one. I've always spent time with all of them by myself because of a workaholic h2b and I am not British so the in-laws kind of adopted me to keep me from being lonely.

As for h2b and his in-laws - I have a very soppy and equally warm dad and sometimes his declarations of love for h2b do make me cringe - in a good way :-) He never fails to mention on the phone to give his love to his second son - he has been calling h2b his second son from the moment they met. They kind of fell in love with each other over a bottle of whiskey and a cigar the evening they met. It's an ongoing love story... :-))

I wish i could get on with my in-laws but they decided that they didn't like me before we even met and they're nothing but rude to me. H2b doesn't see his dad, so it's just his mum, sister and grandparents, but because his mum doesn't like me, the others won't talk to me either. Not very nice but it's their loss.
On the other hand, h2b and my family get on really well. We go and visit my parents every weekend, and my nieces adore him. He even spends Christmas with my family. He's part of our family, simple as :)

Lol that's exactly like my h2b! My nieces love him because he just loves to play with toys all the time haha. Yeah he definitely speaks to my mum more than his own, she never gets in touch with him unless its to have a go about something. At Christmas, she hadn't spoken to him for months, never invited him to spend Christmas with them, then text him on the day moaning that he hadn't spent the day with her! She didn't even invite him, it was crazy. He's always got my family though, and he even lived at my parent's house for a few months whilst he had nowhere else to live xx

Haha i can't believe it lol. Well, you know who to moan to when your in laws annoy you! :)
I don't blame you, i'd have done the same. We didn't even get a Christmas card or present...she didn't even send a card to her son! How terrible is that? xx

I think a card means more than a present too, but nope nothing. He did a card for his birthday though. It's her birthday next week so we're getting her a card but no present. We're going to go and visit her but she hasn't invited us so she obviously doesn't want us to lol it's going to be so awkward.
OMG! That's terrible, i can't believe it! How could she have her daughter move in but not even store some stuff for you??? It's not like you even asked to move in, it's boxes, she wouldn't even notice it. That's awful! xx

Thats lovely hails! :) x

Ah Hails, that's so nice :)
Omg i can't believe they wouldn't do that. Did they even give you a reason? xx

No Joanna, shes just a nasty piece of work xx

Wow Alana, i can't believe her! I can't believe you still talk to them lol that must be so hard xx

i get on mostly with my mil2b and tbh she is one of the nicest people you could ever meet! But she is always late for everything!! i had an appointment at 12 and she was picking me up at 11. turned up at 11.30 and then had to o for petrol! we got to my appointment at 12.20! she was late for a friends funeral! got there literally 5 mins before the hurst came in! it the one thing that really bugs me!! Am seriously thinking of giving her a time at least an hour earlier than our wedding time so she will turn up on time!! lol
but both rys parents are seriously laid back!

That's good. You don't want to be as bad as her. I would say i do the same, but when we see h2b's mum she just ignores me lol xx

I wish she would ignore me, but i think she just does it to wind me up more! xx