me and h2b need to learn how to dance for the 1st dance ... i dont want to do "the classic shuffle" id love to do a proper classic dance like off the king and I when shes in her big dress... after all im a princess on the day!!!
BUT h2b is a bit shy and cant dance and neither can i we have talked about it and hes just said mmm
now i need an idea about how to bribe him so we can learn to dance in the next 8 weeks so we have some idea before the wedding
nothing rude thou as that wont work... he wont have any of that kinda bribing....
anyone one any suggestions on how i can bribe my h2b in to learning to dance??? <clean only pls lol>
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
LOL FIRST THING I THOUGHT OF WAS RUDE
oops sorry im shouting, does he have a console or ipad or something like that? say to him he cant use it unless he learns a dance x
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
Show him some amazing video on you tube and say this could be us!! :)
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i wanted to do something like that aswell but h2b was dead against it!
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Sorry my bribes are rude lol
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his ipad i cant take off him or confiscate as is work related and uses it on planes etc and meetings and emails .... doesnt play on a console
and youtube he just went oh i can dance!!
ive seen him he looks like hes having a sneezing fit not pretty !!!
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorCroc
well you see rae.... rude bribes would never work... as hed say fine go without and then deny me any form of <cough>
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I suggested rude things too.
Why not just explain how important it is to you? Sometimes the straight-forward answer is the best.
We're learning to dance together so we can do a waltz for our first dance.
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
SAy you have a surprise for him after the wedding if he does the dance (an un-rude one that is) maybe arrange something unusual to do on honeymoon. That way he won't know what he is working towards but he knows it will be good.
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
i was thinkin rude lol
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CommentAuthorKinkyemo
Mhmm Offer to do an activity he wants to do thats not typically your thing!
Its a bit hard for me to help much more i can wrap H2B round my little finger he is a pushover i have a 'face' he cant resist LOL! Try that maybe! Or tell him your going to a wedding fayre and when you get there its dance lessons hehe you can then say oops wrong day might as well have a go while we are here! LOL
good luck
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I managed to convince my H2B to learn ballroom dancing, because our first dance will be a waltz, basically, he has been watching with me enchanted or other romantic movies, where couples dance, and also when he's home, I put on music I want to have my 1st dance as (waltz not sure which one), and show him video of Enchanted Waltz (that might be our song) and keep telling him about that ballroom class we're going to subscribe at. so after hearing about this for months now, last night, out of the blue he said he wants to learn how to waltz to have our first dance like in Enchanted. I won
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Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorbluefish
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Tell him you've been thinking about the wedding day and that moment when your special song is on and all eyes are watching. The First Dance. Say that YOU are a bit nervous about dancing because it's such a special day. Say that you need to have some dancing lessons to put your mind at ease and *please* will he come along? (Of course you've already found the perfect teacher, it's tomorrow night when you know he's already not doing anything.) Then if he's still unsure, remind him how happy and relaxed you will be knowing that it will be fine. And remind him how warm and generous you are when you're feeling happy and relaxed!!
Ha ha, sorry couldn't help being a tiny bit rude!!
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
Tell him Dancing is FUN
Me N Kev go to Modern Jive... So he already knows how to dance... and it really is a good laugh!!
CommentAuthorbluefish
H2B and I are planning to learn some tango moves - just for fun - I showed him some fantastic videos online and I talked about how sexy and sensual it was. He was impressed and sometimes we 'pretend' to dance in the kitchen but it is funny because he's so much taller than me and he has big feet and giant strides. I have learned tango argentino before and it is fantastic because it is all about the relationship between dancers. The man leads and guides the woman using his body posture and messages from his hand on the small of her back.
We are also having some dance lessons from our band - who are medieval musicians called Caliban's Dream. We have to because otherwise we would have no idea how to dance our first dance to medieval music!! But it would have been odd to put on some modern music after building up the medieval atmosphere, so we are being brave and trying out something old. It will suit the medieval/ Tudor venue. :-)
CommentAuthorCroc
right so.... if i say i will walk up " mountain " with you without moaning and enjoy it and that i dont want to look silly doing our 1st dance and feel stressed and want it to be amazing and for us to look back in years to come and see pictures of us mid dance looking romantic and beauitful, plus its something to do together and laugh while were learning and that one honeymoon we can visit pompeii without me maoning and that he can have a "treat " in the out door jaccusi because im happy and relaxed .....
that might work??????
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
sorry im no help i only have rude bribes too haha x
i wanted to do a dance down isle with all wedding party and a slow dance breakin out into a dance off but he says no way :-( x he doesnt even wanna do a first dance :-( x
good luck though bribing him x
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
tears are always a last resort in getting what you......awww c'mon who here has never turned the waterworks on just a lil in the name of nudging his thinking your way?..........ok just me then. lol xx
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CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
my H2B was the same i just used the oldest line in the book ' if you love me you would do it for me' :) it worked he really will do every thing and anything to prove he loves me PMSL
im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
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CommentAuthorJilly17
I you walk up a mountain without moaning he will have a heart attack never mind agree to dancing lessons! ha ha ha x
CommentAuthorCroc
LMFAO ryhope... what are you implying???? that i am a spoilt lazy cow??? x
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
I always quote my big fat greek wedding....good piece of advice to remember. . "The man is the head, but the woman is the neck. And she can turn the head any way she wants" lol its true for me and Steve and most of the time I let him believe it was his idea! Very subtle nudges. xx
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CommentAuthorCroc
i normally infact always get my own way but i just dont think hes comfortable with flinging his body round a dance floor with zero co ordination or grace!!.... thats it mountain climbing, tears, and saying it will look beautiful and people will be impressed and more tears, and suggesting it will be good for him and more tears it is .....
best ask him when he gets back and is jet lagged... might say yes .... if i let him sleep!!! xx
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Oh we are learning how to dance and it has been brill. It really has given us both more confidence and will help us on the day to feel more confident in front of everyone. We have an amazing dance teacher that makes it fun and easy to learn. She has even done us a dance routine that I can do with my limited movements. I would say that usually to get a man to do something you have to make him believe it was his idea etc but in this case I think you just need to point out how learning to dance gives you so much more confidence and looks better if you can do a few basic steps. Tell him you are not going for anything fancy and strictly come dancing but enough just to get you around the dance floor. He may find once he gets started he wants to add in something more fancy etc.
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
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Sorry... my head went straight to the gutter.
Possibly treat him for each class? Cook him his favourite meal each time he attends a class? Sneak in something he doesn't like if he disagrees? A bit of classical conditioning may do the trick perhaps?
My h2b is the most unco-ordinated man you will ever meet (he managed to pinch a nerve in his leg when attempting to mimic my plie in second- the easiest of the plies). He's agreed to learn dance as long as I teach him. Perhaps you could learn the basics and pass it on to him? So the pressure of embarrassment is taken away
CommentAuthorsuzky123
we are in a similar situation i.e. h2b shy. therefore we are asking another couple to come with us
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CommentAuthorCroc
right ive found what i want to do and found a company that can teach ya in 5 hrs in your house... its getting booked.....END OF LOL
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorHonest John!
I would do it for my W2B, i am keen on singing at our wedding.... however no one else will be...
CommentAuthorRingo
My answer would be rude too sorry! = D heehee xxx
CommentAuthorFaeth
How much is it Croc if you don't mind me askin? Or if they have a website, can you bung me a link? Toying with getting lessons with my dancing befuddled h2b - although to give him credit, he's been playing dance central with me - lol
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CommentAuthorCroc
on ya wall faeth.. x
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CommentAuthorFaeth
Thankies :-)
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
that will be better for him as hes not around others for the teaching part...sure it will be fine good luck
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CommentAuthorHayley
My first thoughts where rude too... Book it (if you haven't already lol) if its in your own home it should make him feel more relaxed about it. If he knows how much it would mean to you on your wedding day i'm sure he'll go along with it. Like the others have said agree to do something that he likes in return :) x
CommentAuthorUnknown
my h2b has just said...tell him if he does the lessons/learn to dance you will buy him ticket to see his fav football team match!
