OK for my dress code I want it to be quite formal but to encourage Bow ties, Bow ties are cool! ;)

What do I put and where do I put it? Do I put it in the main invite or on a insert and if a insert what insert?

Not massivly, its a pretty country hotel! But i don't want like back tie! But i don't want casual ! I think what i want is Lounge? Like guys in suits(with bow ties) and girls in pretty day dresses!

I'm not so sure how you would word this as I don't think people would be too keen on getting told what to wear. Personally I like to wear dresses, but I know many people don't. X

I think the most you can do is specify formal attire/black tie/no jeans (one venue we looked at didn't allow men in if they were wearing jeans, and weren't wearing a jacket, tie, and collared shirt). I think anything else is a bit much TBH.

By all means encourage close friends and family, who might not mind, to wear bow-ties; but only if you know them really well, and def don't put it on the invitations.

I've never been to a wedding wear people don't dress formally, I think thats what people expect to wear. If you want to ask people to dress a certain way there is no harm in asking. Some people do things like having everyone in black and white or something. And I think you can substitute a normal tie for a bow tie with a normal suit (my old physics teacher did it every day...!)

Do you think if i just put at end of invite Please wear a Bow tie! Bow ties are cool! They would?

That would be awesome!

If love to set a dress code as some of both out families don't understand the difference between wedding outfits and pub garden for a drink outfits :-/
But I think I'm ok as long as our main people are smart looking xxx

I think it would really make me smile and laugh, walking down the aisle if loads of the guys and even girls were sporting a bow tie! lols

How do you put in about No heels! Im a short ass 5ft1 and i don't want anyone wearing heels as will make me feel even shorter expesh when some of ohs family are like 6ft ? Any ideas

Kind of hope you're joking about the no heels... That would be incredibly rude, and weird; who cares if people are taller than you?

One of my bridesmaids is over 6', and no way would I dream of telling her what shoes to wear, even though she'll be the tallest person in all the photos even if she goes barefoot lol

It depends on how you handle it. Which doctor was it that said bow ties are cool? Maybe you could quote that on the invitation, that way it has some humour attached to it. The competition is a brilliant idea, people might not feel so much that they ate being dictated to if there's something fun about it. Lana, shoes are more tricky. It's not unreasonable to ask if you manage to make a joke out of it, but for one thing not everybody can afford to buy a new pair of shoes for a wedding if they don't have anything suitable, and for another some people are only comfortable in certain types of shoes. I'd be very happy to be asked to come in flats, as that's all I wear. I have flat feet and have to wear inserts, and I find that those paired with heels push me too hard onto my toes. Last time I tried it I ended up with a pressure sore on my toe.

Sorry but I agree you can't tell people not to wear heels. I'd always wear heels to a wedding and I'd feel uncomfortable in flats as I love heels and I don't have any fancy flats. I'd find it rude to be told not wear heels, it's like being told not to wear dresses. Just my opinion x