Hey Ladies.
When I asked my friend to be my MOH, she was coming over mine nearly every day for a cuppa and the school that both our kids went to was closer to my house so most afternoons, she would pop over for a cuppa and chat just before we walked up to pick the kids up together. Not only that, I was her MOH when she got married in August so felt it was the right thing to do.
Within a month of me asking her, I got back in touch with an old friend of mine. MOH and I have known each other about 2 years whereas this other friend and I have known each other about 9 years.
Anyway, the school moved last easter and her visits have completely tailed off to zero, in the past 4 months she has only been over once and when she did come over, instead of chatting to me while I was busy in the kitchen like she used to, she just sat in the living room reading the paper and went home after an hour. She only texts or calls me when she wants something like a lift somewhere and it just feels like she is not bothered about her friendship at all, there are also other problems which I detailed in a thread called "Contemplating Dropping MOH!!!" (That thread was posted in November so this is not a decision I have taken lightly).
This new friend of mine has offered to make my wedding cake for free, has been helping to find a photographer and reception venue as well as helping with the catering, is always offering to look after my kids, is always texting or calling me for a chat, pays back money she owes me without any delay and always wants to meet up for a cuppa so we see each other every week despite the fact she lives 6 miles away instead of just up the road like the MOH does. I feel the relationship with my MOH has totally changed and I now feel quite uncomfortable around her so I don't want her as my MOH anymore, I want this other friend as my MOH now instead.
The thing is, MOH is really sensitive and does not have much confidence so how do I tell her I don't want her as my MOH anymore without hurting her feelings?? xxxxx

You could tell her that a really close friend has come back into your life and explain your relationship to her and ask if she will step down as moh hope it all works out

I am having 2 MOH's!!! I would NEVER ask either of them to step down!!!! They are both so important to me in different ways, I've known one MOH a lot longer than my other one!!!

xxx

thats good, at least you got it out the way so you wont be stressing about it and everything is still ok between you!! well done xx

I know. I have been worrying about it for the last few days but this morning we got some time alone together which happens once in a blue moon now so I thought I had better take the opportunity while I have it. xx

Thank you. Just seen your previous post and there is nothing different going on than what there used to be. xx