Hi all, me and H2B have just sat down and discussed prices with Venue. And realise we have to be brutal with the black marker on the guest list. We originally had 110 @ Wb and now cut it to 77. We decided that everyone can come to see the ceremony at the church but only our parents siblings, aunt, uncles and close friends to the WB and then invite cousin their families and our other friends to evening reception. So we keep within our budget. Both Parents have agreed to this and will support us when the families moan. I just not sure how to do the invites as ceremony and reception in 2 different places and some of my cousin still live at home with parents. Help would be greatly appreciated
CommentAuthorKayleighS46
We've had to do the same thing hun, were having 50 wb guests and then inviting everyone else to the evening reception only - theres just no room and then it becomes ridiculously expensive @ £56 extra per person!! Cousins etc will only be invited to the evening do - thats purely because they have partners etc that either one or none of us have ever even met! will you be doing 2 different types/styles of invites to differ from day and evening? Sadly you do just need to be realistic with families and say its not finanically possible - the most important people will be there with you :D xx
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CommentAuthorclairenina
We have had to do the same. I'm sure some people won't be happy, but it's just tough. We had to be brutal, and chisel away at our list of people. It's our day though, and I won't be finding myself having to explain myself to people
CommentAuthorKayleighS46
I agree with you clairenina - end of the day its down to us brides and grooms and if they dont like it then tough! lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
We are doing the same as you - no one moaned. In the invites it was only the day guests who were told the details about the Church though. We have a wedding website and obvisouly family will talk so hopefully more will come to the ceremony itself but I dont think it can be expected - certainly not for us as all the cousins have to travel over an hour to get there in the evening.
I think i may do 2 invitatons one with church and wb details one with church and reception details as a big fear of ours is the church looking empty. And we can fit everyone in the church plus my brownie pack of 30 brownies ( there only attending church and doing guard of honour as we leave) and at least that way everyone has shared the important part of day with us. Its just so confusing and will cause major rows in the family :/
CommentAuthorKayleighS46
Luckily the wedding is all in the same place so we can do the same invitations wise - just keeping the time details different. I was having a talk with my mum about our guest list last night and told her i feel like a bit of a hypocrite inviting cousins etc that i never see, never hear from - whats the point?! shes on my side so I'm glad for that at least xx
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CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
I went to a wedding where the budget was tight which meant a lot of people were "cut" from the day however they wanted people to feel welcome at the church and put something on the bottom of invite for the evening guests a poem that they found online that basically invited them to church and just evening .
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CommentAuthorFelicityB70
I like the sound of a poem, thanks im glad in not the only one struggling with this and thank you for suggestions so far they are appreciated
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I think it would be best to give thos not invited to wedding breakfast an evening invite but at bottom have side note saying everyone is welcome to the ceremony.
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CommentAuthorkittyh
Yeah I think it would be best to do as Lana said...have separate day and evening invites with a small note...otherwise I think some people might misunderstand if they see ceremony and evening reception and think they are invited to the whole day. That would be SERIOUSLY awkward!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I'd suggest that for those only invited to the evening reception that you send them an evening invitation but in the extra information sheet with additional details like travel and accommodation you put at the top that the ceremony is at x time and at x location and that they're more than welcome to attend.
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Half of my cousins aren't invited at all, doesn't matter where they live. I've i voted the ones I see a lot, the others aren't even on the guest list. Same with some of my aunts and uncles... I'd rather have friends there I see more of than to just give the meals to ppl I hardly see x
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CommentAuthorAmyK
We did the same - OH sold it to the cousins saying they got the meal without the boring ceremony - no-one complained & they all turned up where and when they should. A phonecall out of courtesy to explain the situation helped things along though, so they understood it was a blanket 'rule' we decided on for all his cousins
