i put in a poem of ebay hun that explained we wanted money or vouchers instead of gifts basically lol

I would just ask. My friend in her wedding invites said...."we don't expect presents from you, but if you would like to contribute to our house/DIY fund that would be greatly appreciate"

They did quite well out of it. You could word a similar thing but obviously base it around your Honeymoon, to start off your married life on the best possible foot etc.....

We went to a evening Reception in December and in the invite there was just a slip of paper saying- that their house was full but if you would like to make a contribution towards their honeymoon then that would be appreciated. We didn't find it cheeky at all much less fussy than buying a present!

I'm a bit Embarassed to ask, fortunately my family and friends are asking my mum what to get us and she's telling everyone to give us money. I'm hoping word will spread to my other guests!

There are lots of nice poems out there. We found a nice one from google asking for money for our honeymoon x

we've just done a small card that matches our invites that says
if you wish to give a wedding gift a contribution towards finally getting our garden landscaped would be lovingly recieved

we made up our own poem, so far everyone has said how much they liked the poem

I love these poems, this is what we are going to do aswell xx

yh we're asking for a donation towards honeymoon x

I chose this 1 and had them printed at 123print to put in with the invites, cost £30 for 100 postcard sized with pics on the other side!

We do not have a wedding list
Nor requests for certain things
All we want Is your company
And the memories the day brings
A financial gift would be lovely
An appreciated help to us
But please do not feel pressured
As this is not a must
The choice is really up to you
And we would like to say
We hope you come enjoy yourselves
And have a lovely day

I have used this poem....


We haven’t got a wedding list,
The reason we’ll explain,
Is to save you all the hassle as shopping is a pain,
We’ve been together for a while,
And have most the things we need,
So vouchers, cheque or cash would be gratefully received.
The choice is yours so please don’t fuss,
The most important thing of all,
Is that you celebrate our day with us.
But, if you would like to contribute,
To our soft and cosy rooms,
Our heartfelt thanks go out to you,
With Love, The Bride and Groom
xxxxxx

we got a poem of the internet and then h2b changed the middle verse to suit us so it is uique to us but i cant remember it off hand. just google it and loads will come up it is what i did xx

we want to do the same, but didnt want to mention the words... money or cash (for some reason lol)
we thinking of putting this 1 but may tweak it a bit 1st....

Gift List
As many of you are travelling afar,
It may be hard to fit a gift in the car,
We don't have a gift list, we don't want presents,
All we ask of you all, is to give us your presence.
But if you wish to still give us a gift,
We'd love you giving our honeymoon fund a lift.

We’ve been asked what we’d like for a gift and the answer is simple: you, at our wedding, having a great time.

please find within this poem, information just for you,
with some rules and regulations, that we both insist you do.

Save the date of November 26th, is the first thing to say,
to share the love and happiness, on our wedding day.

The second one is vital, if you’re to be our guest,
to eat drink and be merry, or do your very best.

The third rule can be broken, we really do not mind,
but if you choose to follow it, thank you for being kind.

We’ve been together for a few years, and have a lovely home,
there are not too many items now, we don’t already own.

So if you’re thoughts were on a gift, your presence will suffice,
but if you really feel the need, then money would be nice.

The choice is really up to you, and we would like to say,
we hope you come, enjoy yourself, and have a lovely day!

yep and if you use thomas cook, and you can go into the shop before you leave for honeymoon, they swap the vouchers for cash!! we couldnt do that as we leave on the Sunday morning. boo

thanks a lot everyone i have got some ideas now. x

I wanted to do the same but still felt quite awkward about it but my cousin did it for her wedding and everyone was pleased to help so I think its more my worry than anyone elses ha ha

Me and h2b are asking for donations for our wedding via Bottom Drawer where people go online to donate money to our honey moon.

Don't feel cheeky about asking because a) you dont want people getting you things you dont want and b) most people want to get you something or give you money for your wedding, but they might not know how to ask you. so if you put it in the invite then its up to the guests to do what they want to do, most guests Im sure will appreciate being told what you do want rather than having to guess and feel like they have wasted £50 on something you're never going to use.

I might pinch one of these poems though! thanks Gals!!

Loving the poems!!! We are having a wishing well so will definitely be using some of the ideas on here to put in our invites!!! xx

Ok, my h2b finally got round to printing out the final wedding invites/additional info. I wrote down my ideas and then he jiggled it around and altered it to sound better (he's better with words than me lol). So, on our details he has put:

"we are not having a wedding list, but if you would like to donate to Kath's emergency escape fund, please do so using an account Kath's mum is overseeing - we will never see the details of the account so there is absolutely no pressure to use it - we stress that any gifts are truly optional! It would be more than enough to simply have you share our special day with us"
I have given the invites to my family and they all thought it was fine so hopefully it will go down ok with everyone else :-) What do people think?? Would love to hear your opinions, even if you don't agree with what we have done lol. Xxx

Thanks stormie, was really worried people might take offence at us asking for money! Xx

We made up our own peom for the whole invite, we had one person say it wasn't "serious" enough, but everyone else has said how "us" it is.

krazykitty - there is this one

Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!

You could always adapt it to your needs, will put a link on your wall, from where I found it, they have loads of different variations.

No problem, they have loads on the site for inspiration lol. Have added the link, took forever stoopid interfret lol

I'm so glad to see so many other people asking for money. Like many others on here, we already live together so don't really need anything "housey", when we were sorting out our invites I googled to find a nice poem and all that came up was a whole load of forums/sites saying how rude it was asking for money, and it was as if you expected presents, and even if you put it in a nice poem it was still rude. I got really paranoid so ended up asking my mum and the bridesmaids for thei opinions and they all said people expect you to include gift list, so to ask for money was ok.
We used one of the poems mentioned above, and so far no one has said they think we're rude, and so far no one has declined our invite, so hopefully we haven't offended anyone!!!