I went wedding dress shopping with my sister yesterday and whilst it was helpful in that it gave me a better idea of what I would suit, I couldn't help but feel a bit ridiculous in a big white dress. I tried on a couple that I thought looked nice but I keep hearing people say you just 'know' when you've found the right one. I definitely didn't have that feeling and I'm not sure whether it's because of the stress in under due to the situation with my friend (see post in wedding relayed rants) or whether it was because I haven't found 'the one'. I don't know what I was expecting to feel like but how did you all 'know' it was the right dress. I think I had visions of just trying on a few dresses and finding it there and then, xx.
CommentAuthorMariephiz
it totally depends on the individual! Don't get stressed that you didn't get an overwhelming feeling or anything!
I did get rather emotional when i tried on my dress, but only after i realised it could be afforded, and i could have the sample gown which fitted me perfectly! I don't think I would have been as overwhelmed if i'd have had to go home and convince h2b if t wasn't as cheap, in fact I'd have probably put it back on the hanger and continued looking, thinning about it for another month until another dress came along to take my mind off it!
As it happened, the dress fit perfect, the price was perfect and I'd been well looked after in the shop-a recipe for success!
my advice would be to choose a different shopping partner for the future. Good luck x
CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I was a bit the same when trying on dresses, but when I found "THE" dress me and my mum both started crying! Lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Davro
When I first found it upset as unless we came into some money there was no way we could afford it.
But once I found out my friend had 'the' dress was selling it (slightly over my budget but who cares) and it fitted me over the sun (the moon just doesn't cut it)
CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Thanks guys. Yeah, there was definitely no emotion in it for me, it felt more like shopping for an outfit for a night out. I think I know what elements I want in a dress and I've seen loads with only some elements but I'll keep looking for 'the one'. I am being tempted by china dresses but I'm reluctant to buy without being able to try the dress on first. My sister is my MoH but it's very aparent that we have very different tastes. I think I will try another shop once we have booked the venue as then I can be sure it's really happening, xx.
Aww hun I felt like that for ages, I'd seen 'the' dress in a brochure and online but couldnt find it anywhere to try it and it was outwith the amount budgeted. I'd given up on it and found lots of nice dresses, but nothing quite as beautiful as the one I wanted then while trying to find another one, the manageress at the store managed to get a sample in for me - the only sample going around the UK - it was the most beautiful dress and exactly what I wanted. Even more so than the pictures, it was absolutely perfect and far more delicate and ornate than I'd thought which was a good thing. Finally, my favourite bridal shop agreed to reduce price and throw in a veil. Bonus! Why dont you search online and see if you can find anything that's perfect for you then work out where u can try it on? x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorGazza 122
I already had in my head, the look i was wanting from my dress...also the material to so that really helped. I saw my dress instantly from a huge rail of dresses it really stood out, it was the first one i tried on and thought it was amazing - but i carried on trying others to be sure...but just did not feel the way i did with the rest ...i went back to 'my dress' and put the money straight on it as i was wearing it! xx
CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
My dress wasn't the first one I put a deposit down on I tried it on the same day I tried my ex dress as I like to call it and kept wanting to change things about ex dress and dreaming about trying the other dress on (my actual dress) so went back and tried on my dress and as soon as I put it on I felt so relaxed and comfortable and relieved tbh in it I k new it was the one and cancelled the other dress and changed it for my one lol never felt emotion more relieved that I had finally found a dress that I didnt want to change and that I felt happy in lol everyone feels differently x
my biggest fear was id never suit a dress and wouldnt get one i liked because im a bit big or id look terrible. i saw other brides that were curvy and liked their gowns so i had my heart set on something, but when trying them on they didnt look right. i liked some but mum didnt there was always a excuse. so i tried on a dress that the assistant brought just to see the colour difference and it fitted perfectly, its not the style i really wanted but i felt comfortable, and looked good in it and decided that that was my dress. i had to show my sister before putting the deposit down cos on that time and day she was in labour with my nephew, but thankfully she agreed when we went to see it a week later and i cant wait now to see it again in may when the girls dresses come in!! xx
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CommentAuthorfiona
Whilst shopping around I found dresses that I like or love but never had 'that' feeling. To cut a long story short went to what my mom & i thought was a 2nd hand shop, quickly realised it was an unusual bridal shop. i saw a dress I liked, asked if I could try it on, My mom cried(she had been the voice of reason throughout) I looked in the mirror & was thrilled (not yet that feeling!) The dress I had been thinking about getting before was £945, this dress was £175!! Just there all those things together I could have cried!! My dress is nothing like I wanted in fact its not 'me' at all & I worry about it, but when I see it I love it all over again!
CommentAuthorfiona
Sorry what I was trying to say is don't worry too much about it.
CommentAuthorKate_B
I had a look at a few and found a style I liked, tried a couple on but didnt 'feel' anything.. Then at a wedding fair saw it on the front of a rail and booked an appointment to try it on following week and that was the one... Tried others on at the shop but loved the one that I got xx
CommentAuthorXbox widow
I felt really happy and content but now a great big spanner has been thrown in to my plans and I'm back to square one with nowt.
CommentAuthorCaitlinD
When i found my dress i just felt so amazing! And i could tell i obviously beemed in it by mums face lol! Once you leave the shop all you can think about is wanting to see/put the dress on again! :)
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
I think I said, omg I love it, I absolutely love it. I have to keep having a peek at it. Can't wait to wear it.
CommentAuthornatalie2614
Its a hard decision to make and the right shopping partner is essential!
Im still undecided and currently have an emotional battle between two dresses, both very different!
When I tried the first one on I felt like a princess and felt really spectacular in it, I was like 'wow I have a waist, I look lovely' in my head, but i think I actually uttered 'oh my god' out loud!
The second dress I tried on late afternoon, and although I felt good in it, I didnt go wow/oh.my god/i feel like a princess the same way i did with the other dress in the morning. However - mum and MOH both think the second dress is more 'me' although they too like both dresses.
Im going back to try them both on in a few weeks and I will make my decision then, possibly with MOH and definitly mum in tow. (MOH lives in London) I think Ive already found my dress (first one I tried) purely because of my own reaction to it!
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CommentAuthorKate4
Have to say the dress really wasn't that important to me. I really loved mine on me but didn't cry or gush or anything. Just thought yep, like this a lot, i'll get it and didn't look for anymore! I do seem to be the odd one out on this though!
I'm sure you'll know when you've found the one to want to wear :-)
CommentAuthorJoanna
I definitely had 'the one' feeling with mine. I didn't want to ever take it off and i can't wait to try it on again. How long do you have until the wedding? I'd say wait until you find 'the one'. Maybe you won't get that overwhelmed feeling but maybe you won't be able to stop thinking about it xx
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CommentAuthorJill
Smarties I felt like that about a couple of dresses I had on, I liked them alot (sometimes loved them in that store at that time) and there was nothing wrong with them at all, they just didnt feel wow to me. I think the build up I had to seeing the dress I have probably added to my reaction when I did eventually see it, but I then knew it was my dress, I was feeling all emotional about it, felt like a fool lol x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorKate4
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Haha no, there's nothign wrong with being emotional! I just don't think I personally would ever feel that way about a dress! It's not an important part of the day for me really, until I went shopping for one I hadn't looked at a single website or magazine at dresses. I just wanted A dress, I didn't have the energy or the inclination to go crazy hunting for THE dress! I love mine and can't wait to wear it and that is good enough for me :-)
So actually I guess that means I did find THE dress!
CommentAuthorMrscarter2b
Hi felt absolutely amazing and got my fitting on Monday so can't wait to put it on again xx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
I felt a bit indifferent with most, I went to 5 shops and tried about 24 dresses - the one I chose was suggested by the attendant, and on the hanger I wasn't convinced, but tried it on anyway so not to offend her - as soon as it was on and I saw it in the mirror, I got really excited and kept saying 'this is it, this is the one, this is it' over and over, and after i'd twirled about it and saw it was within budget, I got dressed and had paid the deposit within 20 minutes of walking in the shop! You just have to keep trying till you find it!
CommentAuthorAntonia9
i hate shopping! so i wasnt expecting to get that wow feeling, however when i tried on "the" dress, whilst the woman was pulling me, i shouted outside to my auntie - this is one auntie! lol i walked outside and she cried. I then looked in the full length mirror and got the lump in my throat, i am not an emotional person either..... everyone is different.
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CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Thanks so much to everyone who has taken the time to reply. I think the overwhelming conclusion is that when I find THE dress I will probably feel emotional about it. I like to be quite thorough, lists etc, and I think I'm scared that I'll say no to a dress on the hanger because it's not what I had in mind, and that I'll somehow miss THE dress.
I've taken people's advice and found a couple I like. I LOVE 'sparkle' (can't remember the designer) but it's well over budget :(
I've had a quick look through the 'show off your dress' thread and found one that a member wore but it's discontnued :( I'll keep looking for this dress used but it's a shame that I won't be able to try it on in a shop but at least I have some starting points.
I think I partly felt a little ridicuous as I don't yet 'feel' like a bride and the situation with my friend isn't helping so once we've booked the venue I'm hoping it will start to feel more real. It's looking like March 2013 anyway so potentially less than a year away : 0 xx
I felt really happy and content but now a great big spanner has been thrown in to my plans and I'm back to square one with nowt.
