awww hun...lots of hugs!thats really harsh, especially as they havent even tried to get to know him propally! at least you know now so you can come to terms with it and make better arrangements for your day...your best friend sounds fab youre very lucky to have her! xxxx

awwwwwww i am sorry but at least you will only have really friends at your wedding and people who love you both as the saying goes you can choose your friends xxxx

I know immy thats what my friend said she also said that the people that will be there are the ones that loves us xx

they are the ones that will end up grovelling and apologising when they see just how much of ur life they are missing out on..and if they wont to be be number 1 t**** and go to ur ex's wedding and get involved with him..then fine..but i hope they realise u will not be beggin for them to come and beggin for their love..ur worth so much more than that hun xx

I know that my h2b's cousin said that as well and she said that i am part of their family now and will look after me and she only lives next door but my dad said on the phone that no one sees me anymore and i need to make an effort to see the family so i said well why should i when they dont come and see me x

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I'm so sorry petal. Goodness only knows what happened to blood being thicker than water. I know I'd be devestated if my family went to my ex's wedding and not mine.................but on the upside, you've discovered that your best friend is truly that and you do have people that love & care for you both enough to help you make this the best day of your lives - that is worth so much more in the long run (even if it doesn't feel like it now)
It WILL work out, I promise, and as BrideBecca says, it's their loss!

Loads of love & hugs to you Steph my darling. I'm always here if you need a natter xxx

Awah Steph...that situation sounds horrible, u poor thing! I completely understand how your feeling about 'it not being the same if your dad wasn't there' my dads not coming to mine either! Although its been organized for my bro to give my away I still feel that something is missing!!!! If I were in your situation I would try and understand the reasons behind them not liking your h2b and if they have little reasons to do so...never worry your head about them. This is your day hun, u obviously love your h2b to bits and personally I wouldn't let anyone influence my decision not to marry mine! Sadly not all weddings are like those in the mags and movies! Your friend sounds like a good support to you, hang in with those that truly care about your future and life decisions and try and not get too upset about those that dont! xxxx

Vintage it is a horrible feeling knowing that something is missing but they think my h2b is controlling me by not letting me see anyone but thats not the case i go out where and when i want to its my choose but they dont like the fact that i have now got a life which i didnt have with my ex xx

Thanks relf i will still have contact with my dad but as for the others no way not after this xx

Well they should be happy cos if it wasnt for h2b the kids wouldnt have half of what they have now. He has made me a stronger person and to speak my mind instead of bottling it all up and i think thats what they dont like xx

Whatta bunch of dic k heads...this is a harsh learning curve for you hun..but, now you know what they think and are willing to do even at your wedding. Personally, I think if they are not able/willing or intelligent enough to atleast fake a polite smile on your most important day...well, errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr FECK 'EM I say.

You must try to get your head round this and get in a positive frame of mind AFTER you have had a good cry etc... x

..well Steph, if you KNOW this is how they are..then really it must be easier to realise you are better of without them. Move on...and don't look back, that will feck them off no end!

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aww thats just ridiculous hun. unfortunately we cannot make ppl behave the way we want them to knowing theyre in the wrong, some ppl have pride which prevents them from doing the right thing.

so like eveyone else, i think you shouldnt even bother with them, leave them to it, enjoy planning the rest of your day and the beginning of your new life. having no contact after a little while will get better. if you're not finding out what theyre doing then you cant get upset continually with their behaviour. youre friend sounds fandabbydozie and just remember that who isnt there are not ppl to worry yourself over and the one's who are there should be all that matter in your life. i hope that made sense lol x

Aww, I am so sorry to hear that!
As awful as it is, try to just think about those that do want to be there, and are happy with you on your big day.
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must be awful having your dad behave like that. just cos 1 failed doesnt mean the other will. he will see in time that you made the right decision and he will have to live with his decision for the rest of his life anre realise that he missed out big time.

just go with the flow and enjoy, however hard it will be. and you might even not notice them there x

Well today is the day My dad is coming round today at 10am and im really not looking forward to it but at least i can ask him will let u know the out come of it later xx

I know hun wish i could choose my family cos alot of them would be gone. Im gonna enjoy my day with or without them and im gonna make sure of it lol xx

good luck hun hope it goes well, we are all here for u xxx

Right this is how it went..........

It didnt all my dad said was that he didnt say he didnt like h2b or that he wasnt coming to the wedding but he doesnt want to wear a suit like the others cos he cant wear collars and said that he will talk to me better when im on my own xx

He didnt say he was coming or not just said that he didnt want to wear a suit like the others. It has made me feel a bit better but still i would like to know if he is deffo coming or not xx

Im going down a week on tuesday when the kids are on half term xx

Im keeping everything crossed xx

Thanks joolsy i hope so as well its doing my head in not knowing for deffo xx

fingers crossed steph xxx let us no how u get on hun

Thanks becca, kelly im really hoping he will talk about it but i will let u know how it goes when i get home xx

That's awful, maybe you should talk to them and work out why they're doing this- it's your day and they should be there- if they're not you'll all remember it and it won't be something you can change afterwards. Really hope they come round soon! x