argh want to rip my OHs head off and stamp on it!! dont know how he can be so bloody stupid!!!
i ask him for advice and he just doesnt give 2 flying monkeys about the wedding
asked him if he thinksi could make those wishing tree out of paper mache his reply "whats paper mache" is he serious?!! grrr sorry people but ill end up killing him if i dont rant somewhere lol xx

he thinks nothing needs doing till a week before lol he asked me why i was looking at dresses already?!! lol xx

he made it last month with our 3 year old lol he just doesnt listen
oh well men!! roll on next weekend when i meet up with my cheif BM for a proper wedding natter lol x

ill just let him know when money is going out the account to pay for something haha xx

I made my wish tree out of actually branches, i wouldn't of thought about paper mache tbh :/

Everyone thinks differently. Maybe you need to find something you can do together, and just do the little things yourself?

Have you asked him if he wants to go to a Wedding Fayre, or if there's anything he definitely would like. But don't stress about it and bring it up every day, it would bug him if it's constantly being talked about. I did my OH's head in at first, talking about everything, then i realized we have a life to live as well, and Christmas first.

10 months isn't long, but to a man it is. Got to think like a typical bloke lol!

This is why you have bridesmaids and UKBride, so you have people who will talk about weddings no matter how far away it is. The reason that the wedding has traditionally been the bride's doing is that so many men don't get it. They don't see what has to be done early, or why it matters what the centre pieces are like. My H2B is actually getting very involved, and is working on creating the evening do playlist. If anything he's possibly doing more than me at the minute, because a lot of my things are either done or waiting for January.

You are obviously going through a stressful time of it to feel so strongly about this! We all understand we are all in the same boat and know that things can get on top of us. Sounds to me like you need a break from wedding planning and agree with h2b that you have say a week where you don't talk about/organise anything. Refresh yourself and remember men are never as into it as us. Most of us like it what way (I know I do!!) but others wish they did/said more. Either way take some time out and remember the important things (sorry that sounds really cheesy lol). Hope you feel better x

haha i know the feeling. i asked H2B to be in charge of evening music and just get a bit of list together. got so many complaints that i just did it myself in about 5 mins lol. my advice is do as much yourself if you can but just involve him in the major decisions. he will get more involved as time goes on. my H2b actually asked if he can help with invites the other week...miracles do happen!! xx

hahaha, this is funny! Do everything yourself hun, do what you like cos men arnt really bothered about detail.
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mine is like that too! i do all the researching and tell him my favourite ideas etc and run the final decision past him to which he usually replies they are both nice do what you like lol. try in involve him along the way and occasionally he says things like "well why dont you do something different" like what??? "i dont know just something different you figure it out". i do have to say sometimes i get surprised when he asked to help me and he quite enjoys it when he does x

The thing is... He KNOWS what paper mâché is he did it a few weeks ago with my daughter he was the one who thought of doing that with her
My idea was to get real twigs and use magazines to give it a funky look but because he couldn't be bothered to think about it for 2 seconds and give me feedback he just acts dumb, so annoying he won't do naff all lol x

He's not even thinking that lol he thinks
Get married, party, hotel room and s3x lol xx

It's obvious you're really frustrated, but taking it out on him over something so trivial isn't going to be helpful or have positive consequences. If he was trying to wind you up, it's worked. Or maybe he was just being obtuse.
In an ideal world how much would your h2b be involved in planning?

In an ideal world I wouldn't mind doing it all if he would watch the kids whilst I was busy doing it but because he doesn't and I have to do everything with a 3 year old an 16 week old it's hard to do anything and I've done everything so far, I'm only asking him for a little help not to do everything standing on his hands lol xx

I've just made him sound like the worlds worst dad lol he's not he does loads but my both kids prefer me so would make life is much easier if he did things for the wedding instead otherwise it's just 1 annoying 3 year old a crying baby and stressed almost bald daddy after an hour lol xx

I have a feeling they only cry because the know it works. Why have the attention of one parent when you can get the attention of both?

Do you know, my OH is the same!!!! He couldn't even be bothered to come and meet the photographer with me last weekend! So i just went ahead and booked it!!!! He also this weekend claimed to be ill so I had my brother look after my little boy to give H2B a rest. Came back from the meeting with the photographer earlier than planned only to catch him eating chocolate and playing on his playstation!!!! Ill my a**e... bloody lazy more like! Its a good job I love him
At least I get my own way... everything up to know has been my decision, he just goes along with it. xx