We are marrying in March but not going away till July. We have booked two weeks in Dominican Republic together. The thing is I have a 9 year old son and we are leaving him behind. I feel just awful! Part of me would love to take him with us but another part of me says that 1. My OH is his stepdad, doesn't have kids and so taking him would be unfair to him and 2. It's going to be a holiday of a lifetime, one that me and my H2B will never have again and so I shouldn't feel too bad. What are your thoughts on kids and honeymoons? Did anyone else leave their children at home? I just know its going to be hard!
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I totally agree with you hun, im sure your son will be fine, its not like you're going to disneyland without him lol! We're having a familymoon in disneyland paris next year, taking our twin boys with us. But we're hoping to get enough money together to go away another time on our own! your honeymoon is for you and h2b, to relax and do what adults do without being pestered by kids lol xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
A honeymoon has a totally different vibe from a normal family holiday. Maybe you could have a smaller family moon after you get back? Xx
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CommentAuthormrsV2013
your lucky your sons is 9 it does actually make it easier to leave them. try organasize it for him to go on holiday with who ever is watching him. then he won't feel left out and you'll relax more :)
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CommentAuthorKayleigh
We're doing the same, my son will be 2 and half when we go on our Honeymoon, my OH said that if we took him on honeymoon it wouldnt be a 'honeymoon' . He wants that 'Mrs&Mrs' glow and to enjoy our last holiday that will be just the two of us (well until we're retired which is a loooooong way off lol) .... and after thinking about it. It would be nice to spend our honeymoon together but we are still going to miss our son lots. Plus we thought about starting to try for another baby after we get married so i wouldnt want to try when the baby is on holidays with us lol.... We might have a little 'familymoon' shortly after we come back, but that will probably be just a caravan holiday which is close to home and is owned by the MIL-2B x
If I had young children I wouldnt take them, its the one and only time you will probably get to do it so enjoy the freedom while you can. There will be other holidays when you can take him.
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CommentAuthorhollybobs
This is what i'm thinking about... I really definitely couldnt do 2 weeks without our son. It's slightly different in that next september when we get married he wont be quite 3 and he is my OH's son too. He has only spent the night away from us twice (he's 20 months and his nana only lives down the street lol) so i dont know how we could do a week or 2 without him... So we're looking into something honeymoon-ish but sort of child friendly!
At 9 years old i think he's old enough to understand and possibly organise some family time after your honeymoon.
CommentAuthorsussie
ours will be 2 when we get married, and we are just going away for the week and leaving him with his grandparents,
CommentAuthorJennifluff
We arent taking our little girl... She'll be just under 2 :-) xxx
CommentAuthorKarenB9
we are taking our daughter she is 4 years old and she has never been away from us over night. however if she was 9 years old i would be more comfortable leaving her with my sister whilst we went away.
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I think it will be really special for you both as you will be newly married and would benefit from having a week away from home together just the two of you. If your boy is staying with family it could be a wee holiday for him as well and you could organise some fun stuff for him to do while you are away.
CommentAuthorVelcro
My mum is taking my daughter away on holiday the same week we are having our honeymoon, its one of the first things we decided, so this way we still all get a holiday, but we get our honeymoon alone as opposed to it becoming a family holiday, which we have many years to be able to do, our honeymoon will only happen the once :)
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CommentAuthorHayleyDnowM
we are leaving our 8yr old daughter with my Grandparents, if there was ever a time to leave a child while you go on Holiday, Honeymoon would deffo be that time! we would never do this for a normal getaway, plus i don't suppose the school would be happy us taking her our for a week just after shes gone back after the school hols! :-D
CommentAuthormym72
When we got married my son was 17 but I felt guilty leaving him lol. The thing is, my son has aspergers syndrome and has never been left at home before and I've always taken him on holiday even when I was with my ex (his dad) as he didn't do holidays so my son's childhood has been holidays with just me and him.
I was lucky because my parents live close so he stayed there most of the week - but at first I did feel 'odd' travelling to another country without him (we've only ever holidayed in this country before). Once we got there though I was fine (even with aspergers I've got to encourage him to grow up sometime lol).
CommentAuthormadison_uk
Were just having two nights away i can't wait for some peace and quiet and a lie in lol just hope my mum and dad can cope with three under 5 lol. were going to save up and have a nice family holiday later on.
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Mine are 29 and 31 so i think they will be ok lol (they dont live at home), we are just having a mini moon and then all 15 of us off to oz for a wedding blessing in jan 2014 xx
CommentAuthorMrs Syla (antonia200
We Have twin boys aged 7, We will be leaving them with Grandma & Grandad while we go to Maderia for 5 nights straight after our wedding. But in Sept we are take them on a holiday of a lifetime to Florida.
I think you son will be fine but maybe you could have a familymoon too???
A xx
CommentAuthormrsV2013
we're not sure if we're having a honeymoon yet but i want 4 days in venice. i think i will be able to cope with that. never been away from my 2 more than a night and i alway phone and ask how they are.
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CommentAuthorMrs Syla (antonia200
Me too hun, Never been away from mine more than 2 nights.... I am hoping it will be a little easier as the boys will be 8 but I bet I will be calling home loads......lol
CommentAuthormrsV2013
i'm concidering asking my mum to take them away maybe down south to visit my aunty and uncle. i'll know then they'll be happy. i don't envy you with twins. i was lucky in my family NOT to have them lol
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CommentAuthorMrs Syla (antonia200
LOL,
They boys love going to Grandma & Grandads, Especially considering their aunt will be home from uni too....
CommentAuthorGazza 122
I left my daughter the first time round and My mum took her to centre parcs, so i didnt worry about leaving her, This time round lol, we are leaving them both with my mum again, who is sorting out a few day trips etc, the kids will have their computers etc so will be totally fine - its only a week anyway xx enjoy the time while you have the chance! xxx
CommentAuthorFernP61
we will prob have to take our two as family are spiteful we havent had a holiday on our own and as my mum died last year theres no one offering h2b mum will prob have one but i dont think thats fair so i think we will go on a amazing but child friendly hol xx
CommentAuthorKastobe
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Our 2 year old daughter is coming with us on our honeymoon. There is no way I'll be going away without her, I don't see the point of going away without her.
CommentAuthorLaura JaneW
I was kept awake last nite worrying about this again. I kno Skype is best way to keep in contact but I've not a clue how to use it? Can it be used iPhone to computer? And if i do it via wifi via video calling, is it free?
CommentAuthorkimi1987
I have to children 1 will be 6 the other will be 2. There spending 2 weeks with my mum n dad. I've left my eldest with them before but that was only for a weekend. Me n h2b need a break from our 2 cus they drive us crazy as moat kids do. But when we get back were gonna save then take them to Disney Florida as a present.
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CommentAuthorsusan1990
we are leaving our 4 year old with my parents when we go on honeymoon to cyprus in october, we were going to origionally get married at the end of august but it would have ment that we would have missed his first day at school. i do on one hand wish i was taking him with me but on the other hand me and my oh have never been away just the 2 of us and its highly unlikely that it will happen again it will be nice just to get away to relax and not have to worry about anyone else. so dont feel to bad your not the only one leaving children behind. have an amazing time x
