This is the score. Stu has a son Max, who will be 9 by the time we get Wed in October 2011. Stu and I would like to go to the Maldives for our honeymoon between Oct 2011 and April 2011... However.... Stu and I had promised Max that we would take him away next Christmas somewhere. (He is going away this Christmas for 2 weeks with his mum) We were going to go away Xmas 2011 with the MOH, Best Man, BM and PB which would have been fine, but they want to go to Florida and I know we wont be able to afford both a trip to Florida and a honeymoon to the Maldives. I had hoped they would say Egypt as would be much cheaper and could have budgeted for it. As we already have our own place we will be asking for donations towards our honeymoon, but still with that in mind I don't think its going to be possible to do the 2 trips... Then just now I had an idea... Xmas 2011 going on honeymoon as a whole group. Not something I really wanted to do and TBH (no disrespect to others) Florida is somewhere that doesn't appeal to me and don't fancy going!!! But I thought we could do a 2 centre if the other family were up for it, a week in Florida then a week in Maldives, or something like that.. Obviously I haven't spoken to the other family yet. They might not want to. If that's the case the 3 of us could do a two centre holiday ourselves and our friends could stay in Florida for the remaining... I just don't know what to do... I know its a long way off but I am pretty anal about getting things in place and knowing what I am doing ALL the time.. Stu knows that Florida isnt for me and also not being just the 2 of us and he said he would love to do it as a family. I guess I am just hoping and praying for a miracle that we get to go to the Maldives before it blooming disappears........ So there's my dilemma... All advise and experience welcome. I'm stuck and confused and worried. Kxxxxxx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
Tell ya what... i'll go to florida and take my kids too and you can go to malta with my h2b? lol i couldnt bare to leave my kids which will prove difficult and Florida is my dream destination
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CommentAuthorKarlie1976
ha ha ha ha, I dont mind going as a family holiday but not as a honeymoon, without offending anyone :0( I just want sun sea and sin and sea and sun and sea, lol! Malta is amazing, my firend just moved back from there, I have been and loved it. xxxx
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Ditch your friends and go on a familymoon where theres a kids club.
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CommentAuthorwelf
i havent got kids but my H2b has 2 boys, they arnt coming on our honeymoon... and it hasnt been mentioned which his good... his ex wife are going on a familymoon, so im sure she is going to be expecting us to take the boys on our honeymoon. its up to you though remember its your wedding and you should decide, where, when and who comes with you... you could take the son away for a few days after??
We are staying in the uk and going away for 4 days honeymoon, our big holiday in the summer is going to be a familymoon with the kids. I think it is nice to have that kiddy free time to enjoy each other, however i personally couldnt justify i large sum of money being spent which would equal my kids missing out, but thats just me and h2b completely agrees. Maybe you could do the maldives for your 1st anniversery or something?
CommentAuthorKarlie1976
Ah Dove, I think, NO I DO want a honeymoon on our own but we cant not go away at Xmas as promised Max. Bless him. Katie, I think you have got it spot on... Go to where we want to go on our 1st Anniversary. That would be mad and child free, Just hope I dont get preggers oin that time, lol! I could justify it as not my child, I know that sounds selfish and I love him dearly but I want the honeymoon of my dreams :0) We have wanted to go there for soo long and we have to before it goes. xx
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
it doesnt sound selfish at all, it makes sense for you to want your dream honeymoon before settling down to start a family.
CommentAuthorWinterrose
Hey hun, we are having a familymoon :) not sure where yet but we were considering combining Florida and Barbados as they are quite close tog. The only prob with Florida/Maldives is they are quite far apart to travel to... you could always do wot we are and have a minimoon just the two of you - either that or find somewhere with a really good kids club to give you lots of peace n quiet xx
CommentAuthorMrsC2b
this is a debate we are having....i don't really wanna leave my daughter behind but as she will only be 18 months old when we get married i really don't wanna take her on our honeymoon if its somewhere hot. when i was 24 weeks pregnant we went to Turkey to a hotel where h2b had been a lot growing up but after 3 days we had to come home early as h2b is in forces and got called back to go to Iraq. we wern't covered by insurance as we took a risk going when we knew he could get called back (although his boss had said to him before we booked it "if your gonna go abroad go now because i think it will be next month we go overseas") so we really wanted to go back and finish that hol....especially as my parents, ollies parents and ollies brother and his auntie has been in the past few months!!!
anyway family are thinking of going back next september when it gets cooler and not so expensive which would be ideal for us to take our daughter (my sis is even goin as shes thinking of getting married there) ..so pleanty of babysitters but not exactly a honeymoon. OR we can go alone straight after the wedding and leave my daughter with my mum, dad and sister (which i am fine about although i will miss her like crazy!) we wanna try for another baby when we get married so again it might be our only chance to have a hol alone....the older our daughter gets the less inclined we would be to leave her at home as we feel she would miss out on an experience.
so gotta decide what to do...and also not so simple because we dont know what time off he will get!!!
what are people thinking about doing who are going on a minimoon? where and for how long etc?
i think you should do the 1 week in each place holiday but maybe the second week his son stays with family and you go off alone but maybe not as far as maldives? sorry for long post!!
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
MrsC- why don't you go at the same time, but stay in a neighbouring hotel? Then shes near by, but you don't have to spend your whole time with your family.
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CommentAuthorMrsC2b
Yeh thats also an option but if am honest i know if my family are there close by i will want to spend as much time with them as possible...seems a waste us all been there together otherwize!!
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I think the specific issue is that they both want to go to the maldives, that is the destination of choice for karlie1979 MrsC2b, I think the idea of a mini moon for just you and h2b, even a long weekend type thing could maybe be an idea then a holiday with the family?
CommentAuthorTattieSoup
If the other family doesn't want to do a 2 centre holiday, is there any chance that you could all go to Florida for a week, then the TWO of you go to the Maldives by yourself and leave Max to finish out his holiday in Florida with your friends? If they would be willing to watch him for the extra week it sounds like he would have other kids to keep him company and they will probably be doing more kid friendly things, and you could have your dream honeymoon to yourselves.
Or even the other way round... go to the Maldives for your honeymoon by yourselves, then fly straight to Florida and have your friends bring Max out to meet you, and then you all have a week together in Florida.
Or prioritise Max and the honeymoon and explain to your friends that you can't go on holiday with them this year because Florida is too expensive, and take Max somewhere cheap in Europe instead. Or somewhere in the UK, he probably won't care if it's new and fun and you all go together.
If your friends really want to go on holiday with you they can change THEIR plans - surely they understand that with a wedding to pay for now is not a particularly good time for you to go to Florida. Realistically, is it worth paying a fortune to go somewhere you don't want to go, just because some people will be there that you could just as easily meet up with somewhere else another time? Either find somewhere both families want to go and can afford, or tell them thanks but no thanks?
CommentAuthorKarlie1976
hi guys, thanks for all your feedback, its much appreciated, believe me.. Well the long and short of it is we are now looking at Florida for 2 weeks as a HONEYMOON in December 2011 with our friends! (Funds permitting) When we saw them at the weekend we all sat down and chatted about it and I told them not to be offended if there were thing that I really didnt want to do and to stay at the hotel and they go off. Its really not my cup of tea and although on that side of things I am trying not to be selfish, however on the other hand ITS MY WEDDING AND MY HONEYMOON... So we will be going to the Maldives the following year also funds permitting!. Thats if things stay as they are. My idea of a holiday is to do sweet FA! Lol. The friends dont want to do a 2 centre holiday. For them going to Florida will be their Kids main xmas present and they will be doing the full 2 weeks at all the parks... My idea of hell! As we had promised Max a trip over Christmas next year Stu doesn’t want to go back on his word. After going on hols with Stu and Max for 2 weeks this year I would go insane to do it all again, lol! So being with others and especially them would be fab as they are a great bunch. So watch this space I guess! xxx
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
I have two daughters and my partner has a son, and when we first discussed the idea of getting married I told him in no uncertain terms that there would be no way I would be happy to take the kids on our honeymoon, since there are precious few times when we can be by ourselves already - he had been talking about destinations that would suit the kids!! Luckily, he now sees my point and would be happy to leave them behind :P
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CommentAuthorKarlie1976
Ah thats great Pennieb :0) I guess if it was just a normal holiday destination I could have coped a bit more with the whole thing but bl**dy Florida, lol! Enjoy wont you babe. xxxxx
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CommentAuthortwirler
oi misses lol whats up with florida hahahahahaha no i see ya point for some people it is just too much to take in xx
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CommentAuthortreeplanner29
its so hard when you have kids, why dont you and H2b go away for a few days (just the two of you) after the wedding for a little honeymoon. Me and H2b are going to new york for 4 days after the wedding and then our family are meeting us abroad with our two boys, Also with the family being there it means we will still get a night or two to go out just the two of us. x
CommentAuthorltw979
We are going away to get married, and have our honeymoon, to vegas, without any family or friends and i have no guilt, i am however having a blessing when we get back for my parents. Our 4 children will then accomplany us on a familymoon to florida (lol) the year after for our first anniversary! Hope your funds permit or you win lottery and are able to manage both! x
