Hi ladies, I'm def a newbie and to be honest not a online expert this is my 1st time on a forum so not 100% sure what i'm doing lol!
We r getting married nxt May and family and friends have already been asking what we want as a pressie! We r spending alot on the wedding (our decision i know) but it means we wont have the money for 'the dream honeymoon' Tim has one all planned in his head bless him! I have found a website that does a honeymoon gift list! Basically u give ur guest a unique code and they can leave you a online gift payment and message which the company takes of the balance of your honeymoon or ur guests can but u a experience while you are there such as spa treatment.
I can't decide if this is a brilliant idea or just damn cheeky!!????
I would love to know what other brides to be think of this and if any one has done it??? or knows anyone who has done it??? How would you feel if u got a invite with this on it??
Thanks :-) xx
CommentAuthorfiona
I think it sounds like a good idea, however like you Im not sure if it would come across as cheeky.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hi. Welcome and congratulations! What date are you getting married? I'm 11th May next year :D
I think the honeymoon gift list is a good idea. I've know friends to ask for money to go towards their honeymoon so not a problem for me. xx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Just seen you're 1 week before me and up the road too! I'm in Waltham Abbey and you're Enfield ;)
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorfiona
Its quite common now for money to be what is requested so this is very similar.
Hi!! Thanks I'm leaning towards good to but the hubby's not so sure he's not keen on a request to do with pressies been put in writting on the invite and we would need to so everone could get the code to log in and do it! Ive not been to many (outside the family) weddings as i'm the 1st out of my friends to get married so its a grey area for me gift wise!
Ohh waltham abbey is very close thats where hubby to be's gran lives :-) are u getting married local? my venue is theobalds park if u know it?
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
not cheeky at all. we did it and we got £650 in vouchers and others just gave us cash or a cheque. no one thought we were being cheeky!
xx
CommentAuthorSamantha
This is what I want to do for my wedding :) x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I know where theo park is but not actually been there, driven passed it ...........very nice very nice ..............;)
Coincidently ............I'm not actually getting married locally as I'm actually a Watford girl who moved up this way 11 years ago so H2B agreed we could go there for the Church and reception ................but my reception venue is also a de vere venue ;) hunton park.
I wouldn't worry about asking for what you want for presents, if you don't put it down in writing then people will only ask anyway or you end up with a pile of presents you don't want and 50 toasters! x
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorXbox widow
People want a clear idea of what you want so I think its a good idea better than ending up with 50 toasters lol x
CommentAuthorWifey2be
yeah i think its a great idea we have just asked for cash or vouchers to put towards things for the house or the honeymoon! xx
CommentAuthorSamantha
What website did you find for the honeymoon gift list? x
CommentAuthoremmaaa
Sounds good to me! If I have my way, we wont be having a gift list, there's nothing we'll need that we wont just buy ourselves! I'd like to ask for money to put towards a house deposit, but to be honest I'd be just as happy having guests contributing to the honeymoon instead (and using the money saved to go on a house deposit lol!) I think a lot of people are having less traditional presents nowadays, since most people live together and already have the little essentials! But even if you do specify that presents should go to the honeymoon fund, you can guarantee a few people will still turn up laden with salad bowls and steamers!
CommentAuthorLofty
I'd recommed you set up a wedding website and you can put all of your details about they honeymoon website on there. We did this, and on the invites just wrote visit www...... for information about hotels, travel arrangements, gift list etc. Even without the gift list part the website has been a godsend as we've been able to give people so much information through it, about half of our guests also rsvp'd on the website! There are lots of free wedding websites, there are quite a few threads on here about them too, ours is getting married.
As for the honeymoon gift list, I think they are getting more and more popular now. Be careful though as some websites charge you or your guests, but there are some free ones. It is also possible to set up the gift list directly on your wedding website, which is what we've done. We've got a traditional gift list, but then we've also got a 'cash gift list' that I've used only for honeymoon things such as spa treatments, champagne breakfasts, scuba diving etc. This has been way more popular than the traditional gift list and we've had about £600 contributed so far! On this website, people can pay though pay pal or just click pay by cash, and then pop cash or cheque in the card on the day. I think if you want money towards flights and accomodation you could also do it this way, although you may prefer to do it on a dedicated honeymoon gift list website.
But I definitely don't think it is is cheeky - even my grandparents have bought us honeymoon gifts! I've said I'll take photos of each thing we do and send a copy to the people who have paid for it so they can see where their money has gone.
Very happy to say I'm now Mrs Keates and loving it!
CommentAuthormrs.salty.tobe
Wow thanks for the responses ladies, given me a lot of things to think about! I love the idea of a wedding website def gonna look into that as would solve the problem of Tim not wanting to put it on our invites :-) we def don't wanna end up with loads of toasters lol!
There are a few company's that offer it I'm looking at tourquise as they hav Tims dream trip but I know others offer similar :-)
It's brilliant to hear other brides opinions :-)
Happy planning everyone :-)
CommentAuthorVictoriaM1
Lofty.. could you give me the name of the website, because i have been thinking about doing this :) xx Thanks
CommentAuthorMrs Cerutti2b
We've asked for contributions towards out honeymoon for a gift, and i've known a few people who have asked for money/vouchers instead of the traditional wedding gift. As in modern days most people live together well before getting married, so don't need the usual kettle toaster etc. If you want have a look online for honeymoon gift poems, they are a nice way to ask for money, and makes it feel less cheeky xx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Were asked for contributions towards out first family holiday, Becuase we didnt want to set our hearts on a wedding gift list and then we couldnt go due to not enough money (You never know) There are some nice poems about x
CommentAuthorMrsP2be
We are going to Las Vegas on our honeymoon and so we have asked for US$$'s rather than money or vouchers and we have said in our invites what we plan to do in vegas so they can see what thier money would be spent on.......promised that H2B wouldnt spend it in the casinos!
I think in this day & age if you and your H2B have lived together beforehand it is more the norm to ask for a cntribution to your honeymoon or the honeymoon spends!
xx
CommentAuthorBobsi
this sounds like a brill idea. i might investigate. After living together for 6 years we have everything we need, so would have been asking for money and not gifts. xx
Got together June 11th 2006
Getting married June 11th 2014
8 years to the day and I'll be Mrs T.
CommentAuthorrachymoo
Sounds like a good idea, but if you do that, are you tied into booking your honeymoon with that one company? (Just thinking, as there could be other cheaper deals around?). If it helps, I have been to weddings where they'd put a little poem in the invites basically saying they'd like money towards their honeymoon, it was really nicely and politely done and I don't think anyone thought it was cheeky :-)
Or like someone has said about maybe set up a wedding website and you could put a link to this honeymoon website if you did want to use them. (Or another option is to set up a Paypal 'honeymoon fund' account and people could pay into that xx
CommentAuthorLofty
Hi Victoria, I can't put the link on here but the website we used is called 'getting married', if you google it you should find it!
Very happy to say I'm now Mrs Keates and loving it!
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
we asked for thomas cook vouchers. you are tied with them to do the deal but they do a match guarentee, so if you find the exact same deal around (same flights, hotel etc) then you get it the same anyway :)
xx
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
We're going with debenhams as they are linked with virgin holidays.
Cant wait until I become Mrs K
CommentAuthorXx Lou xX
Were asking for money towards are's and i'm putting the poem below in the invites maybe you could add onto it or adapt it xx We know it’s not tradition It’s not the way it’s done, But instead of a wedding list We would like a bit of sun. So if you’d like to give a gift To help us celebrate Some money for our honeymoon We would really appreciate
CommentAuthorfiona
We did the same asked for money in the form of a poem
CommentAuthorsarahjo89
This website sounds amazing! We were thinking of paying for our honeymoon on an interest free credit card and asking for money as a gift to pay the credit card off... but this website sounds really good! I'm gonna google it and have a nosey. I don't think it's cheeky at all. what is the point in asking for other gifts, as they may be items you're asking for "just for the sake of it"... whereas a honeymoon is something you REALLY want xxx
Together: 9th June 2007
Proposed: 15th November 2010, Las Vegas
Too excited to become Mrs Flanagan 8th June 2014
CommentAuthorLisaS
we have asked for thomas cook vouchers and we have not had any comments back saying that anyone thought is was cheaky x
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
be careful with websites though... as they can take a % of the money or if they go down, you could lose the money.
the best bet i think, would be vouchers/cash/cheques then you have them physically there in your hands.
or set up a seperate paypal account?
the thing with paying for the honeymoon on a credit card, is that you don't know how much money you will get, you may way over estimate how much you will get and end up with a big debt to pay for it, or you may underestimate and be able to afford a better one.
we waited and booked one with the money we got.
xx
CommentAuthorVickie
We are asking for money towards honeymoon, we are having a mini moon after wedding to parents villa in Spain to chill out as OH will have a yr left in uni. Once he has finished uni/before he starts work we are having a honeymoon somewhere like Maldives. we are not sure if we are going with a company like debhenhams or ask for cash and book it ourselves. I thought it was cheeky at first but everyone we have spoken to is ok with it and thinks it is a good idea. xxx
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
were asking for money for our honeymoon but in the cash variety as we want to go on a cruise which is expensive we dont want people to feel they have to contribute £50 intead of £20 because the honneymoon is £3k or whatever.
