arrrgh!!! thats how i feel right now! so mr and me have decided to tie the knot next year, by then we will have been together 8 years. basically we're on a budget and are lucky enough to have a chef, dress maker and a confectioner in my immediate family so are having a home made wedding. we have agreed on colours invites and everything else except the most important thing. where to get married! he was born in scotland but brought up in america. his parents, their partners and the whole of his mums side of the family still live in america and his dads side of the family live in scotland, all my family live in britain but we cant decide where to get married. all my life ive known where i wanted to be married where i wanted the reception, where to get the photos taken ect. but he doesnt want to get married here. i want to get married in scotland he wants to get married in oregon. my dad doesnt keep well and has been told he cannot fly due to a bad heart plus most of my family couldnt afford the flights and hotels abroad, but his mums husband also cant fly due to medical problems. obviously neither of us want to get married without our parents there. i dont know if it makes any difference but my oh has never met his mums husband (they've been married 4 years) what would you do? plz any advice
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Personally I would stick my guns if I were you. At the end of the day it is your actual dad who would be missing from your wedding if you have it in Oregan, whereas if you have it over here it will be a man you have never met who is missing it. I understand that he is his step father but in my personal opinion, him being there isn't as important as your actual dad being there. I hope you can get it sorted xxx
Got together 14.02.2008
Got engaged 31.12.2010
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
It's a difficult one, can't you get married over here and then get a blessing over there? X x
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Can you have two small dos? A marriage here and and blessing there?
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I'd stick to the uk personally, I can appreciate why he wants to get married in oregon but there sounds like there will be a lot more people missing out if you go there. Also, I would imagine it would be much more difficult to organise (although it can be done, plenty of people manage to plan overseas weddings)
Maybe you could go to the USA on your honeymoon and see all his family then, and have a small do or something? Xx
I'd do what everyone is saying, Marriage here so your dad can give you away and a blessing over there... Hope it gets sorted.. xxx
Mrs Gill
24th August 2013
CommentAuthorhelga85
we have a holiday booked to oregon at the end of june next year, hopefully we can get this sorted before then, i like the idea of a wedding here and a blessing there, cant believe i never thought of that. thank you all for answering xxx
CommentAuthorSam
I have a similar situation except I'm American and my h2b is English. Since approx. 3/4 of the family live in Britain I personally think you should have the wedding at home in Scotland. I agree with the other ladies you could always have a vow renewal in America and a party out there in addition to the wedding in Scotland.
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
I think its a lovely idea (and you get 2 wear ur dress twice) x x
