H2b is gettin on my nerves. I swear I'm the only one who cares net the wedding. All he does is play on fb or on his xbox. I look at job centre website for jobs and he does nothing I found a job last night that wud be gd for him but he doesn't know if he wants to apply, his problem is he's to picky and we can't afford for him to be picky. When me and mum tlk weddings he says we still have a year yet. He said this last yr and because of this we had to put the wedding back to next year. If I have to postpone again then I'd rather just cancel the entire thing.
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CommentAuthorbrilly
you need to sit him down hun and tell him how u feel and how its affecting u xx
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
Ive tried b4 hun. Even at Xmas when we had hardly any money. He signs on every 2 weeks and that's prob only time he looks for a job and even then he don't apply for them
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CommentAuthorbrilly
u need to let him know how its making u feel hun that its starting to drive a wedge between u xx
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CommentAuthorshazzifox
I think you definately need to sit him down an give him an ultimatum... he's got to work.. unfortunately we can't pick and choose where we work, particularly in this economical climate... and especially not if him not working is affecting your relationship. xx
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I've told him that he needs to get a job cuz I'm nt someone that can spend 24/7 with someone. It drives me crazy I love him and wanna be his wife but at this rate I can't see it happening again
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CommentAuthorshazzifox
I know how you feel chic, my partner is on suspension from work and spending 24/7 with him is driving me mad!! Is there any parent and child groups you can go out to in the day for a few hours away whilst he's looking for ajob? xx
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
He's been "looking" for a job since June. Or that's what he says he does. I don't go anywhere except mums and takin kids to school and clubs
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CommentAuthorshazzifox
:( Awww chic!! Sit him down and tell him he needs to do something or he's going to destroy your relationship with his attitude. xx
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
Nothin works with him. He says I'm stubborn but he's the stubborn one. It feels like he doesn't give a damn. He just moans at me for gettin stressed or upset. Sometimes I think to myself what is the point in it all
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
If he's not even applying for jobs then chances are he doesn't want a job and has no intention on getting one. As long as he can get away with the job centre staff believing he's looking he won't change. They will find out he's lying eventually if he says he's applying and he's not, cause they are in touch with some employers and they do check. They've called my H2B once asking why he said he would apply for a job and didn't because the employers were saying they never received an application from him.
Sounds like he needs a massive kick up the bum and told that if he's not going to even try and support his family then he knows where the door is!
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CommentAuthorshazzifox
:( *hugs* Think you need a break from it all chic. Can you go and stay at your mums for a little bit to give you both some space. I don't think you're being unreasonable. I think he needs to pull his finger out xx
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
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hes going to his mates for the weekend so hopefully that will help. cant stay at mums cus theres no room as both my brothers have moved back there. job centre told him they only check on the ones they give him which doesnt exactly help.
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
sounds like he needs a kick up the bum i had an ex like this (hence why hes an ex and i have to say nearly 12 years later and he still the same and has hardly worked a day in his life lazy shit he is) think you need to sit him down and tell him whats what because belive me it doesnt get any better unless you do x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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If he can't be bothered finding a job which it sounds like to me sorry if its not?? What about you saying to him FINE you be a house husband, look after the kids the house etc and YOU'LL go and get a job???
Will get you out of the house doing things giving you a braeak from each other and the kids and will bring some money in, best of both worlds?
When I had my son we actually sat down and discussed which of us would go back out to work as we both had quite good jobs and my pay was only slightly less then his! Was eventually decided that he would stay working but for awhile there it was actually him that was going to be a stay at home dad while I went out and worked! Might be an option for you too???
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I agree with Hails, if you're not working for child care reasons and he's at home too it seems to me like one of you could be working and if he has a cba attitude then you should go for it. You are obviously looking at jobs so no reason why you can't find one suitable to you. Personally, I would eventually lose respect for a man who didn't want to work, I've always been surrounded by men who take pride in providing for their families even if the work isn't great. I used to work for the jobcentre and I hated it, mainly because I used to see people on a daily basis who would find any excuse not to work. There were always complaints that they were better off on benefits and when I worked it out for myself, I'd be better off on benefits but was raised with work ethic.
If you are not working for health reasons then perhaps play on his pride, that he should be paying to feed his family instead of the tax payer picking up the tab.
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CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
really hope you get it sorted hun. it doesnt sound as if he is trying which usually indicates he never will :( good luck xx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
ive been job hunting also but theres nothing out there that i could go for, either not enough hours or its nights and because i dont drive its hard for me to get to places. he has been looking today but theres nothing in the paper or online. its so frustrating. i applied for a customer service job in a builders yard, ive got years of customer service as ive worked in shops and pubs and bars yet i wasnt suitable for the job :S weve both come from parents that have always worked so we both prefer to work at the end of the day its just getting a job, he searched every job website today and looked in the paper and there was not 1 job that he could apply for.( i sat next to him on sofa to see what jobs there were)
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CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
well atleast your both trying. hope u feel better now that hes tried. it is really hard for people at the moment and so many people facing redundancys etc all the time just means less jobs and more un employed xx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
yeh i feel abit better now that i know he is trying. it is very hard. my brother went for a job a while ago driving for tesco and he said there was 2 jobs and about 500 people went for the job, he was one of 36 that got chose for a interview but he didnt get it.
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CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
It's really hard at the moment looking for work too, i really hope he finds something soon hun. I don't know anyone who likes their jobs, maybe you could use that as a kick up the botty? xx
