So my maid of honour decided she wanted to organise my hen do! BUT I found the venue and cost and said it would be fun but she didnt message anyone so then I wrote a msg she could put on a fb page which im not a part of so she can inform everyone. All people need to do is give a 10 pound deposit and she wouldnt ask for ot so I ended up chasing people. So next is hotel as having weekend in brighton. My maid of honour complained about cost she was quoted and said nobody has given in put into hotel. Well its her job if she is organising it right? So I emailed a load of hotels and hostels and said these are options open it to a vote. Do you think after a week this had happened? No! I wouldn't mind but she doesnt work and if we leave it too late hotels will be full and we wont get a good deal. Do u think its wrong if I just organise my own hen do ive done everything anyway just without the other girls realising? Ive done everything for my wedding I dont need stress of a hen do but it seems more stressful not being in the loop as I know nothing is getting organised? I only plan on getting married once so why cant my hen do be perfect like my wedding of I do the organisation!? What do u think. I have already spoken to maid of honour and she just laughed and said she has been busy waiting to see if anyone cam give hotel deals well that wont happen as I know on fb group she hasnt asked as one of the bridesmaids showed me the page and there is nothing on there that I dont know in fact the hem party details was the email I wrote to my maid of honour she just copied it! Any opinions would be great.
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I'd take over and just plan it hun, I know you don't need the stress of planning it but it sounds far more stressful at the moment as your planning it but having to get her to agree and sort everyone else out. Would be easier if you could just deal with everyone.
My friend sorted her hen do, or if she didn't, she knew what was happening and she got in touch with everyone
CommentAuthorAna40
I'd be tempted to sort it, but I also think that id speak with her and see if there was a problem that I wasnt aware of. X
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
That's pretty $h!tt¥ of her! Why offer to organise something and then my bother yourself?! If I were you I'd just do it without we knowing and when she says anything just tell her it's all done... I'm not impressed with our 4 groomsmen who have done nothing for my h2bs stag which is supposed to be happening on 12t April, I've got my family asking what's going on, my sisters fella is travelling down from Aberdeen just for the stag and needs to know an idea of what he's gonna be spending as flights obvs aren't cheap! I text one last night asking how it was going and that family are asking and all I got was "will let you know asap" what the frack?!?!
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorKerryH344
I have spoken to her but she said she cant be assertive like me and ask people for money but at the end of the day everyone knows about it and without being promoted nobody will remember to pay. Someone needs to take control and there is no rule saying I cant organise my own hen do right. Yeah I think I will take over
Is there a bridesmaid who can sort it out with her, that could save you maybe a little stress. X
CommentAuthorKerryH344
Actually I sent a group msg last night ans this morning everyone has transferred the hotel money over ive started a fb group so we can all discuss plans etc. Misswedles I know what u mean about the stag do funny thing about that our best man is the partner of the maid of honour so I passed over the responsibility to my step dad and stag do has been arranged in a day. Its hard because their friends and we're god parents to their son but their organisation skills are just shit! Sorry to swear but to be honest its less stressful doing it yourself. Ana40 regarding other bridesmaids one has found a website for outfits for us all to wear and not expensive the other one is sorting out discount train fairs for us all in Brighton and last bridesmaid is organising sashes and party props so all the jobs others were assigned have been done the important one hotel etc wasn't hence why after a month of waiting I've just taken over rather than falling out with her about it! Some people just won't ask for help so I'm taking over, but she will have to make up for it and do a speech at the wedding
