omg where do i start? 13 people said they were going to come to the hen do and only 3 people have actually PAID their share (one of them being me.). 2 of my closes friends can't come now and one other friend has said she wont have any money until the beginning of september and her daughter told me last week that my friend had spoken to the hen do company and they'd said pay it as soon as you can, but the MOH called today and apparently no one has spoken to them about money and paying in september.
The kicker is my own sister said to me she'd paid about £100 for the hen do and she has ACTUALLY paid NOTHING. the cut off date is the 21st August and as of yet no one else has paid. my moh has put deposits down for 15 places as others had said they wanted to come but she's received deposits off about 5 people. Now we've been told that the hen do can't happen with only 3 of us and we'll all loose our money that we've paid and my MOH will loose the money she paid for the deposits. This has been such a B A L L ache since it started and i feel so upset and let down that people just don't care. I've been emailing and texting people asking them and some of them don't even know what date it's on. what the h e l l do i do? all i want to do is CRY = '(
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
oh no hun, thats not good at all. just start ringing round and explain to everyone how upset you are with them. i know you shouldnt have to. tell them you need it NOW!
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CommentAuthorCowChop
Bless ya, I agree with laticschick, I'd call them all and explain that certain people have put a lot of money into it and are now at risk of losing it all. x
CommentAuthordebs x
You always get let-downs I had my Hen night on Saturday and five let me down - one an hour before and it is upsetting when they are supposed to be your mates, but then I felt for the ones that were there and they are special so enjoy it with whoever is there for you as they are the ones that matter x
hope you managed to get it sorted! i dread the day i have to have my hen do. people should really be more considerate. in fact you should tell the people who said they could go in the first place that you have put deposits down and that they have to pay them!x
CommentAuthorjellytot
thats awful.. id make the people that have let you down pay the money they owe. its not fair for them to say they will come then change their minds after money has been exchanged. put your foot down x
CommentAuthorLedZepLover
O dear hun. If I were you I would ask all the people (who said they would be coming) to pay you and MOH the deposit back as it is their fault that you are going to lose all of that money. If people can't be considerate then they should at least reimberse you for your expenses. Hope you get it sorted x
CommentAuthorPossum
I'm so sorry - I agree with the others honey, hugs xxx
CommentAuthorGoff
This is what happened to me. I set a payment deadline for end june - i had informed everyone back in Feb about the plans and only 4 people paid.
So i sent everyonea message saying it was cancelled because i seriously could not be arsed chasing people for money and stressing about it on top of everything else.
Then my MOH said she'd take over - it was her job in the first place!
So now i've just said fuck it - tell me when it is and where and ill be there.
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CommentAuthorsbride
Oh huni, what a crappy lot they are. This is all u need! Dont really know what to suggest. Just tell them your MOH is gonna loose her money if they dont pay and will have to pay her back if they dont come. Hope it gets sorted xx
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CommentAuthorJane
This is precisely the reason why I'm not having a hen night!
CommentAuthorSuzi
I did the same as Goff... my bridesmaids sorted everything and I just turned up! Eight people let her down, 2 of them being very close friends, one of them explained why to me and that was fine but the other didn't even text or call to tell me, she didn't even ring afterwards to find out how it went! people will always let you down hun! I am sorry your feeling so bad, I hope it all works out for you :o) x x x
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CommentAuthorRebecca
whether or not the hen do takes place all hinges on my sister. the most UNRELIABLE and selfish person on the earth. if she pays her money by this friday then we have 4 people and the hen night is ON! and if she doesn't the hen night is CANCELLED and the MOH looses £300 that she put down for everyone. i've texted round those who i have numbers for and have messaged those on facebook who i have not heard from. but i am SO annoyed. i cried today over it. Neil has 13 people going to his stag do and it took them about two days to set it up and organise it. all my friends have known about the hen do since about February time so have had plenty of time to sort out money or speak to me. I'm sooooo annoyed. There's no point in asking the people who aren't coming for money as i either don't see them very often or don't speak to them very often. I just feel like people don't care and don't give a s h i t about me.
So Anyone from UKbride fancy a night on the tiles in Manchester on the 18th September? We've got an afternoon at the spa organised then a meal out (food included in hen do price) and then a night on the tiles VIP in a couple of clubs and then a stay over in The Britannia Hotel and Breakfast included too. Then champagne lunch at either Tom's champagne bar or japanese at Wagamama's in the printworks.
Fancy it!??!!? lol x
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
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Ring all the people that have said they are coming tell them the deposit is paid and if you dont come then you will need to give back the lose of money
WOW by the way you are doing alot for your hen do. I thought you just went out with mates and done stupid dare games might have to look into hen dos more i think lol
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CommentAuthorRebecca
well my MOH booked it for me and we went with a hen do company and that was the package that my MOH picked for us as she thought we'd enjoy it more thamn just going out into town and getting wasted. plus i'm not much of a drinker either. three or 4 and i've had enough for the rest of the evening so didn't want to just go into town and get leathered! x
CommentAuthorsbride
Ah hun, if it wasnt so far away I would come. I hope your sisters pays so u can go. Fingers crossed for u x
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CommentAuthorWinterrose
Awe bless you hun so sorry to hear about ur hen... unfortunately it does tend to happen and I cant say anything because I had to pull out of a hen do last minute in May as I couldn't afford it but I did pay the deposit that had already been paid so noone lost any money! Hope your sister sorts herself out & hopefully some others'll get in touch too you've still got a couple of days! Nightmare if they don't though for your MOH it's such a lot of money to lose... :( big hugs hun I'm sure it'll work itself out xx
CommentAuthorGoff
I live near manchester so if yer stuck - count me in honey!! I'll have done my exams by then so will be great to chill before my own wedding too! x
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CommentAuthorRebecca
goff: you're more than welcome to come with us. the whole package is £119. i think that has put a lot of people off because it's so much. = (
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
I would love to hun, but I have some fairly BIG plans for the 18th september :P
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
just a tad slight prob with the 18th eh nic lol
fair enuf rebecca that its quite a lot but if folk have had since february to put some money aside each month..it wouldnt have been a prob xx
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CommentAuthorcatch
oh! dear hunni that's a shame if you where closer l could sent the 12 ppl my sis invited to my night who l don't know and don't want such a shame hope it works out for you xx
CommentAuthorRebecca
yeah we've organised it for MONTHS and people have had AGES to be able to pay off a little bit every month which is what i did. i've just spoken to the hen do company to see if they'll allow people to pay 2 weeks after the cut off date and they said no they don't allow that. my friend said she'd spoken to them and it's all in hand and sorted. but the hen do company only allow a few days after the cut off date for payments.
CommentAuthorcatch
hopefully it will all turn out for the good, have you spoken to all the hen's?? if they are anything like my sisters they maybe so last minute and will all turn up good luck xx
CommentAuthorRebecca
i've been messaging them almost every couple of weeks. and did an event page for people so they could keep in touch and knew what was going on but no ones cares. there's only a few people who've bothered to post on the page or reply to the emails. they can't be last minute cos the payment has to be made in full by the 21st august so they've got like 2 weeks to pya it in full. i've even said to people if you can't make the whole day then just come out for the evening which is what one of the bridesmaids is doing as she can't afford the whole day. but again no one replied or even spoke to me about it. one girl said yeah she'd come for the whole day but when i asked her for the 3rd time she said to me "when is it again?" and since i've asked her and now she's been on about 4 hen do's x
