I just had a quick question - who is meant to plan the hen do?
My maid of honour asked me at our engagement party if she could plan mine and at first I thought oh wow that would be such a help, but we were chatting the other day and she asked me what i would like for my hen do.
Now I kinda fancy something cheesey tacky - somewhere id not normally go too and just have a massive laugh. My thoughts were (and im not meaning to cause offense to anyone who is from there so please dont hate me) BLACKPOOL!!!
They have so many activities that you can do there, get to stay in b&bs and I just love the thought of going there.
My moh though fancied planning something posh and fancy like a spa weekend with a meal. Which is a lovely idea but just not what i want for me hen do.
Plus im starting to think it may not be best for her to plan it as she doesnt know anyone else whos going on the hen do (just different groups of different friends) so she doesnt really know budgets/what they like etc.
Are brides allowed to plan their own hen do? I dont want to upset her by doing it, but im worried about it now!
x
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CommentAuthorJoanna
It is traditionally the moh's job to plan it, but loads of brides plan their own so i don't see why not. If your moh really wants to do it though, why not plan it together? That way, she's involved but you get the sort of hen do that you actually want :)
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Yeah i was thinking of asking her to come round one night n we'd sit and go thru ideas together - that way i can veto anything i wouldnt want haha!
Im just not really a spa / fancy meal kinda person, rather jus get drunk n av a laugh haha! x
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CommentAuthorShazk
It can be planned by whoever, if u would rather plan it urself then thats fine it YOUR hendo lol x
I thinmk most people get BM/MOH to do it so one less thing to worry about but if she planning something u dont want then just tell her that u would ratehr and explain ur concerns, if she stillw atns to do it tell her what u want her to plan and speak to the otehr group and get information regarding budget from them and pass their thoughts on so he has the informatio xx
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CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
My moh planned mine for me and I had no idea what was happening till it happened on the night but she planned it to what she thought I'd have liked and she got it perfect! Let your moh plan details but you maybe set the outline to it ie having it in Blackpool xx
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I think that'd be best. I know what you mean, i'd love to go to a fancy spa one day but for my hen do, i want a proper tacky night out haha x
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Yea same as joanna! Mrs Maria louise - thats a good idea - let her plan but somewhere i fancy hehe!
i feel dead cheeky im not normally bothered but u only get to do ur hen do once (well hopefully) and i just want to have a laugh n let me hair down! x
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CommentAuthorsussie
im having 2, one we are hopefully gonna go see dreamy boys and the other is going to be a meal with those who can;t/wont come to london.
my MOH is planning it, but running everything past me too,
CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
Yeah cause the only thing I said was that I wanted it to be fancy dress and then left them too it, had stripper limo the lot all paid for by them it was a truly amazing send off, so if you outline what you what and leave details to her it lets feel like she's doing it but you also get what u want if you know what I'm saying x x
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CommentAuthorMrsbayliss2B
My MOH is planning mine, but like sussie she is running most things past me first :-) im happy to let her organise it, and she doesn't know everyone but i trust her to make the right decisions. At least it is one thing less for me to organise hehe x
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Im planning my own :). One of my bms was meant to be sorting but shes no longer my bm and shes not talking to me atm. My other bms havent really shown any interest and arent the most organised people. So i thought id do it all myself i dont really mind though as im super organised and that way i get everything i want too :) x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i told my chief BM where i wanted to go and what i wanted to do and she just co-ordinated it, i just had to collect the cash from Hubby's family as she didn't know anyone but my side of the family wasn't a problem as she is my brother's girlfriend
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
ah thats a good word to use "co-ordinate" :)
my moh is my primary school best friend, then the rest of my mates are from work and shes never really met them tbh just once at our engagement party.
xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
so you might need her to co-ordinate collecting deposits or whatever
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CommentAuthorSarahR582
I quite fancy Blackpool for mine too! My 3 bridesmaids are planning mine between them so it will all be a complete surprise for me (as long as they can manage not to let it slip!) xx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
yeah i was thinking cos theres about 12 of us to get a private coach down to blackpool - 2 nights in a b&b, an activity or 2 and a show either a drag one or the adonis cos they look mint! I really fancied doing a dance class of some sort! x
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CommentAuthorSarahR582
The Adonis cabaret is brilliant! Be prepared to be dragged up on stage though! I think there's a website that just do Blackpool packages and include dance classes etc xx
CommentAuthorSam
Plan it together. I love your idea of a night out in Blackpool, I love how tacky that place is :P
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
i shall have a look for packages - private coaches are £30 pp return from where i am to newcastle which is cheaper than a train/coach so its not lookin too expensive thank god!
prob bout 100 - 120 for 2 nights, 1 show, 1 activity & transport (bearing in mind blckpool is 2hrs away from me)
x
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CommentAuthorSam
That sounds like a great deal. I had no idea that private coaches were that reasonable. How many people are attending?
CommentAuthorkerry
my sister (moh) booked mine but i have since taken over as sometimes she can get abit carried away with things.....going on an 80s wkend dressed in neon clothing so shd be fun
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
If you are worried about it, then why not plan it with her. My MOH did a lot of planning but we also done some things together. I felt bad leaving it all up to her to do.
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CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
My BM asked to help plan it as I was going to plan it myself but now I think my mum is planning it for me. Although I've told her everything I want to do, I think she's just organising it x x
CommentAuthorMrsSteenie
I sat down with my chief BM and discussed some ideas. I set up a group on the book of face with everyone I wanted there, then left all the details to my BMs and my mum to sort!!
We dit it!!!!!! 06/10/12
CommentAuthorCatrinaP
my moh lives in blackpool im in scotland she wants me to come have my hen night in blackpool but id rather have a spa night and a meal so who wants to swop hen nights lol
CommentAuthorMrsNoz2b
I am completely in the dark about my hen do. My bridesmaids are my 2 best friends so they are srting it all out the only proviso i gave we no naked men and no spa day but otherwise im up for anything lol!
