Whats everyone doing for their hen do? Are you organising it yourselves or allowing you bridesmaid (s) to take charge?
Me and my moh decided on working together for my hen do, but its kinda not turned out the way Id hoped....
I orginally loved the idea of a weekend in blackpool, a complete tacky weekend which is something out of character for me this has ended up being leeds..........
Nothing against leeds but had me heart set on blackpool.....
So now the plans for leeds were as follows:
2 nights stay Train down there 1 fancy night out nice meal and cocktails dance class the day after fancy dress night out - blow out kinda thing!
But my moh has diff ideas she likes the idea of going to spa... not doing anything physical ie dancing and no fancy dress....
So im stuck with a diff of opinions lol!
Is it the done thing to allow ur bridesmaids to take control or can the bride do it herself?
Whats everyones opinions on this?
xx
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
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Hen Do
Who should organise it?
Poll Results
Total Votes:
25
Bride
36%
Bridesmaids/MOH
60%
Mum of Bride
4%
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
The tradition is that the MOH/Bridesmaid arranges it, but not to their wants, to their brides wants.. Which doesnt sound like yours is doing ! From the sounds of brides on here, I wouldn't even take on the hassle of trying to arrange it yourself ! And if you do, DO NOT pay for anything until the hen party have paid you first ! A lot of brides upset cause people have let them down after paying out for them !
We're not having separate hens and stags.. If we can even afford it by the end of the road then we're having hens vs stags paintballing or go karting... I'm really really not a spa type girl and neither of us believe in the weekend away stuff.. xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
I have allowed my bridesmaids to plan and organise my hen do so i dont have too as enough going on and i like the surprise idea HOWEVER they were given a full list of everything i did want and didnt want.... maybe you need to do something similar with your hens. Give them a clear list of what you want/dont want and then let them get on with it. I think if they love you and care about your hen do then they need to listen to your ideas and remember its YOUR hen do and not theres so be clear on what you want xxx
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I'm organising mine myself as I'm a bit of a control freak and as my MOH put it "If I organise something you don't like, there will be hell to pay" and she's right. I don't drink and the boozy pink night out isn't my cup of tea at all, so we are having manicures and pedicures, then out for dinner before we go to a comedy club. Seems to suit everyone and people can take part in all of it or parts of it depending on price etc.
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CommentAuthorJenniferY90
I organised my own, we're gong to Alton towers followed by a VIP night in Manchester, stay the night, drive home the next day. One of my friends is arranging some surprises! I have 3 friends who are meeting us in Manchester because they don't like alton towers which is fine with me to be honest, I would rather everyone enjoy themselves. I had one person say "oh but we could get a package, you get a stripper, cocktail making, meal, vip club tickets and hotel" This person I have known for 20 years now and is the only person who doesn't know that stripper and cocktail making would not be my cup of tea at all. I tried to ask someone else to organise mine but she didn't bother, I got stressed and did it myself so it all depends if doing it yourself from the start is going to cause you more stress than leaving someone else to sort it? But, you should do something that you want to do, one of the people coming on mine wanted to do a spa weekend, I straight away said no as I wanted something more energetic and fun.
CommentAuthorsita_meena
My best friend (and bridesmaid!) is organising mine going to a Thai restaurant (as she knows that my favourite) then she's booked the VIP area in a bar I've always loved to drink and dance the evening away! She's planning some other bits like goody bags but no strippers as she knows thats not my thing!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'm organising mine then I get to do exactly what I want and I don't get stuff arranged for me that I'd hate or be embarrassed about like I hate strippers so that would be my worst nightmare! I'm looking at packages on a hen do website for 2 nights spa hotel in Edinburgh, a cocktail masterclass with drinks and a buffet included, a 3 course meal on one of the night times and VIP club entry, just gotta decide what to do on the next night,.... Add another activity or just play by ear and see what ppl want to do when we're there x
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CommentAuthornadia13
My hen night is cocktail dresses at the casino, but I was gonna do a show up London by limo wiv meal & then a club, but 1 of my friend who is getting married said she would like 2 do that as well plus my best mate/ bridesmaid doesn't like London ( due 2 years of working there) she come up wiv the casino idea. But I did the research & invited every1 as she doesn't know every1 that I wanted to come but she is organising the cocktails before hand. Plus it's a hell lot cheaper than a show, meal & club up London!! And the friend isn't do that either any more. Which I'm cool wiv coz I do theatre show & meal in London a lot wiv my h2b so it wouldn't b that special 4 me!!
CommentAuthorLeanneC34
I'm so excited for my hen, my lovely bridesmaids (my two bestfriends) are organising it for me and we are going on a ski weekend!! Having been Marbella, Ibiza, Vegas, all the usual cheap and cheerful resorts around the med i wanted to go somewhere different and being that me an half my friends ski it seemed perfect, not to mention the après ski!! Couldn't think of anything better, a weekend with my favourite people combining 2 of my favourite things, skiing and drinking! Can you tell I'm majorly excited? Lol
CommentAuthorMrs Egan
I have organised my day,we are doing its a knockout (the old tv show!) I can't wait it looks brilliant! My bridesmaid is organising the evening and I said I will leave it up to her to decide what we do I am not really bothered as I am too excited about the daytime lol!
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
were just going out in bristol for the night, were having willy shot glasses lol and sashes as were on a tight budget
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CommentAuthorMrsLowe
I am organising mine myself, first one going to leeds for a night out dressed as disney characters (honeymoon in Florida, going disney) thats with about 8 of us... and then my second one is a spa day with my MOH, with two treatments each and it's a suprise one doubled up as her prezzie :) xx
CommentAuthorRachaelH78
My bridesmaids were going to arrange it but couldn't agree on anything so I ended up doing it! We're going to Marbella for 4 nights as it was just as cheap as a weekend in the UK! Xx
CommentAuthorMrsGothBride
I organised mine (I have no wedding guests or bridesmaids anyway). There is 12 of us going to Amsterdam for 4 nights. Looking forward to it, its not just hens either lol, there are 3 blokes coming but h2b is not one of them!
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
aww gothbride, im so jealous.lol. i went to amsterdam for my 21st and it was amazing, wud love to go, fancy hiding me in ur case? lol
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ooohh mrs egan to be could u let me know were u found the details on its a knock out please x
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Your wall is restricted so I have put it on mine.
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CommentAuthornadia13
One of my girls have dropped out :0( due 2 her kid having chicken pox :0(
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
My sil is organising mine, however I chose what we are doing.
We have hired a cottage for three nights in whitby, it's costing £38 per head (of course, there will be spends on top of that).
We aren't havng any organised activities as such (well, to the best of my knowledge) so will probably have a big bow out on the pee day/night, a nice meal and a few more civilised drinks and a sunday roast dinner in a pub followed by games at the cottage.
Also, h2bs niece is organising a local night out so more people can come to that x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I would say whoever is planning it MAKE SURE THEY GET PEOPLE'S MONEY BEFORE BOOKING!
A few brides on here have paid deposits for people and then had a lot of dropouts xx
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CommentAuthornadia13
Well at lease this drop out did pay the deposit but its a shame she can't make it, wanted her there!! But it can't b helped :0(
CommentAuthorNic8187
My MOH is planning mine... We're off to Marbella for 3 nights and that's all the info I'm allowed to know as she'd like for it to be a surprise! Very excited but at the same time slightly nervous at what she has planned lol x
CommentAuthorSammy stenhouse 2b
i am going to leeds.... my choice lol
i am organising it myself ( control freak lol)
then my one for home... a mad hatters tea party :)
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Wow so theres quite a variety! Glad im not the only one whos kinda wanting to plan it themselves!
Sammy - what you planning on doing in leeds? Ive been looking at dance classes and karaoke pods!
Wish things were a little cheaper tho! x
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CommentAuthormillz090
Nicola - sometimes the packages are more expensive. Mine was £30 per head more if we used a company to do it and brought their package but was cheaper to do each bit ourselves. Keep an eye on vouchers too as often get offers on email xxx
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Ahh i will do thanks hun! Sending invites out this month so they have a year as most people who are comng want to pay month by month. So if i said has to be paid up by xmas then it means ill have all the money in way be4 the balance is due! x
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CommentAuthormillz090
My bridesmaid sent my Hen Do invites/information out in January so 7 months in advance giving everyone plenty of notice and time to save the money. they need to pay half my next week and so far most people have paid up so plenty of notice helps xxx
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CommentAuthorEmmaI93
I want a spa day and then going for a night out...do you think that would be okay for a hen night??
CommentAuthorHalebob85
My BM's are organising mine. They're my best mates so know me very well. No idea what they are going to plan. But as they don#t know everyone who I want to invite, I'm going to set up a FB page with everyone on and then remove myself. They can liaise with everyone then.
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CommentAuthorvodkachick
im sorting mine with the help of MOH and another very good friend.....Manchester or blackpool are looking favourites at the moment...neither are too far from home either so transport costs will be kept low too.
we gonna be making final decision soon so people will have longer to save up for it....hen party in may next year wedding in august.
will b having a second hen party too for those who cant make the first one....prob a tribute nite somewhere near home
Halebob85 FB page a good idea too to invite people think I mite do that once we sorted everything xx
CommentAuthormrscookiecrew
we're goin into newquey for 2 nights, got a private bar on the beach with cocktail making class, 2 course italian meal and vip club pass with champagne on ice. iv organised it cause i have such a diverse set of friends from my travelling days and they dont all know each other so i just thought it would be easier for me to go through it and just get bideas off my moh x
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CommentAuthorFionaR41
i am helping my daughter organise mine. All being well we are off to Whitby for the goth weekend in april next year,Fri-Sun, complete with outfits. We have been to it in November for past few years and decidded that going in april would be ideal.off there next week to find somewhere to stay. Just hope we can find somewhere
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CommentAuthorBev
We're having a pamper day (hair, nails, etc) followed by a nice meal as one of my bridesmaids will only be 15 and wouldn't want her to feel left out if we went to a bar... Plus, I don't fancy the L plates and other bits!! haha xx
CommentAuthorCatrinaP
well im not doing anything got 4 bridesmaids 2 in Scotland 2 in England maid of honour was planning on us going to blackpool and everyone stay at hers no one wanted to go so I said well lets go do a pamper night but no some work weekends and can only do a weekday other bridesmaid said she would organise everything and invited everyone that wasn't going to the wedding not one of my guests have been invited and the ones that she has asked are ppl I haven't invited and don't even like so I can honestly say no hen night for me lol
CommentAuthorNymeria
Dooesnt look like im getting one My MOH said it would be organised but nothings been done
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
I am headed abroard for mine. I think Tenerife ... FOr some reason it works out cheaper to go abroad than it does to stay in the UK. This is from my experiences of attending Hen Do's anyway. I cant wait!!
My MOH is organising mine but have told her that I want a say on the fancy dress theme and no strippers - other than that I am up for most other things!
We plan to go next Easter Bank Hol so nobody has to worry about getting time off of work. Flights for then should come out soon so fingers crossed we can book ASAP!
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CommentAuthorJennyHeather
Im having a murder mystery evening dinner thing at a hotel plus 1 nights stay because I'm not a party animal but now I can't really be bothered with it but its a bit tough because deposits have been paid doh!!
CommentAuthorJenJen
Some great ideas ladies! Im a complete control freak but i handed full control to my MOH & hoping my sisters get involved too, just a whole year to wait .... !!!!!
CommentAuthorsarah
Is it wrong not to want a hen do?
CommentAuthorDecember
I can't stop myself from trying to organise my own! I think I have control issues... :) I trust my 2 BMs totally, but you knwo when you just want things to be how you want them? I have given them 2 very specific instructions though: No pink fluff and no c0cks!
CommentAuthorvodkachick
we still haven't decided on a hen party yet.....have now started looking at breaks overseas....just a few days in the sun to chill out....does anyone know when the flights are out for next year x
CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
My Bridesmaids are going to sort out my Hen Night I'm just been told so far I just need to turn up wonder if there will be a dress code got me thinking now I want it to be a big night but I do want it to end in Pjs movies and munchies and lots of laughter and gossip a Girls Night In/Out sounds perfect for me =D ♥ X
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
Think flights are generally 6/7 months before.
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CommentAuthorElizabethS44
We are going to Majorca for mine.. It was my idea but I'm letting 2 of my bridesmaids do the planning. My chief bridesmaid isn't doing it because I figured she'll have enough to do, so I gave the job to 2 of the others, which my chief is quite happy about. If we get he flights early enough it won't be too expensive I'm hoping for no more than £130pp. Not idea for everyone but I'll have a local night out for them. The most important thing for my hen is to go somewhere I love with my family and friends am for those who can't afford it then we will do something else. Other than choosing the destination I'm leaving all the planning to he 2 girls x
CommentAuthordizzy_sarah
Im doing the tacky Blackpool thing! Ive never been on a girly holiday so just wanted to have lost of fun and LOTS of alcohol!
We are going on 25th May - 27th May!
We are going to the Adonis Caberet show (strippers/drag acts) followed by the main club in blackpool the sat night!
The Sunday we are going to Go Ape, followed by drink etc and another night out! Im a little excited! :D
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
I officially have 25 days until my hen now wooop!
I organised my own hen as no1 else wanted to and its been fun and games!! had half my group frop out after i had paid for all the deposits but luckily some of my friends are bringing friends so 1- i get to meet some new people and 2- it means i dont have to cover the costs of those who dropped out!
So mine is 25th may :)
Moulin Rouge theme!!
Pink party coach to a local town then VIP room in club.
Then the night before the wedding me & 3 mates are going to see the Dreamboys ;) hehe x
Was thinking about doing a meal too but not too sure at the moment lol x
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My MOH said it would be organised but nothings been done 
