Hi all, I'm stressing a little hear lol. Basicly, I'm planning a church cerimony inc cousans aunts uncles and close friends. And then the wedding breakfast. The problem is we are on a low budget and can't afford to feed 3 course meals for about 50! We decided that we wanted the meal to be only for very close family ( nans grandads bros sis mums and dads.) As that narrows it down to about 30 for the sit down meal. Now, what do I do with the aunts etc that came to the cerimony while we are having a meal? I would love to have everyone there, but our budget won't stretch that far! Iv already had to push our date back from aug to oct ... Any ideas?? Feeling so guilty lol xxx em xxx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
We just put on our invites the ceremony details then the reception party from a certain time for the evening guests - and we put together a free wedding website that lists local restaurants etc so hopefully evening guests will have an idea of where else to eat during the breakfast :-)
CommentAuthormunchkinpie
There are ways to try and work round it hun. You need to first of all prioritise whats most important to you.
Have you chosen a venue and got quotes for meals etc? If its 2 much for 3 course meal then how about 2 courses with wedding cake as dessert - thats one way of saving costs. You can have a sit down hot buffet meal which is what I done 1st time round as I couldnt get meal numbers below 100'odd and it was 1/3 cheaper to have the hot buffet than the set meal.
Other things are if you asked guests to pay for their own meal in place of a gift which a few girls on here have done successfully.
Alternatively you just word their invite to say please join us at the ceremony on ...... at ...... then for the evening reception at .....
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CommentAuthorKaz
We had this problem, only family are able to come to our wedding because of the numbers/cost, but in all the other invites (evening) we have stated that they are more than welcome, if they'd like, to come to the ceremony.
Personally, I wouldn't invite anyone to the ceremony if I wasn't inviting them to the wedding breakfast (most of my family are coming from far away), but a friend of mine did it. Anyone that had to travel a fair distance had to be invited to the breakfast but everyone else was invited to the ceremony and the invite said " BRIDE and GROOM request the pleasure of the company of GUESTS NAME to witness their marriage at TIME DATE CHURCH and then to celebrate later at TIME VENUE"
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i wud invite aunts etc to eveming do then tell them they r more than welcome to come see u at the church! i wudnt want to recieve an invite where it had church on then evening do , but thats just personally x
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I agree with becky, I'd invite them to the evening do, but tell them in person that if they'd like to watch the ceremony they are more than welcome
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CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
y dnt u do a carvery for the meal its so much cheaper then dessert as wedding cake.....also if u wanted to do it as a three course just have soup n bread rolls thats cheap as well. or just do evening invites as they will get dressed up to c u marry then wait hours till evening . so best just invite in evening and as becky said ask them but ur more then welcome to join the church but its up to u :) xx
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
or have a buffet? they r cheap toox
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CommentAuthortinkerbell2013
I'm having a cold afternoon buffet instead of a breakfast and a hot buffet/ bbq in the evening to much money 3 course meals :(
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CommentAuthortillyturtle
for me personally getting all dressed up for an hours serivce and then being told to go home and come back i would find rude (just my opnion) it would be much more inkeeping to do maybe a buffet or hot buffet thats cheaper and everyone still gets fed or do a cheap 2 course dinner, soup start and chiken dinner. dont be afraid to ask for discsounts they will want your money lol....
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
tilly i wudnt go to church either, but my colleagues weddin last year a few of us from work did go church but went pub after til nite do ( was a bit drunk lol)
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CommentAuthorClareS
Those that weren't invited to the wedding breakfast I wouldn't formally invite them to the ceremony. I'd give them the evening invite, but verbally say to them they're more than welcome to come to the ceremony x
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
I have been to weddings where I have been to the church and then evening reception. Its up to them what they do in between. For one I went home and then other was away, so me and H2B got something to eat out.
I am going to write in evening guests invites that they can attend the church ceremony and give the date and time x
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CommentAuthorJoci "The Currypot"
Hi there, I am on a very tight budget and both myself and h2b come from very large families. Make your list and highlight the most important ppl you want there, then the ppl who would have to travel along way should really come under priority but only if they are very close family members. Anyone else who you are just inviting for the sake of it and that you haven't seen for more than 6mths are classed as "floaters" these ppl are not worth paying £40 a head for so only invite to evening reception. Everyone will understand that you can't afford to have it all. I went to a wedding last yr where they had a hot buffet at 4pm which cut the cost down alot. Go with your instincts and don't stress over it but most importantly DO NOT go over the budget you have set.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
when we were working out what we wanted, we decided on our priorities and we wanted a nice hotel for the ceremony, and a 3 course sit down meal. in order for us to do that we had to cut down on guests because our budget wouldnt stretch to cousins, aunts etc. you have to cut your coat according to your cloth, and decide what you want more.
i think it would be less insulting not to invite them at all, rather than to invite them just for the ceremony but not reception. you might be accused of just wanting them there for the gifts they would bring.
An evening reception is a different thing altogether. mostly an evening reception is for friends and distant relatives, and they dont usually go to the marriage ceremony in the church/register office. and there is usally a buffet for the evening guests.
if you cant afford for the aunts to eat at the reception, i would just invite them to the evening party, that should stop any embarrassing situations/questions.
